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Holy Rule for Nov. 12

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  • Br. Jerome Leo
    +PAX Prayers, please, for the eternal rest of the following, for all their loved ones and all who mourn them: my beloved friend, Ann Chatlos, mentioned in
    Message 1 of 239 , Nov 11, 2012

      Prayers, please, for the eternal rest of the following, for all their loved ones
      and all who mourn them:

      my beloved friend, Ann Chatlos, mentioned in these reflections. She died some
      years ago, but today is her birthday.

      Mrs. LoPiccolo, Michael's Mom, on the 4th anniversary of her death.

      Prayers for Mary, a young mother with metastatized thyroid cancer.

      Please pray for Kay and Harry, 92 and 96, whose in-home caregiver has given her notice, and they feel that they must move to a nursing home at this time.

      March 13, July 13, November 12
      Chapter 35: On the Weekly Servers in the Kitchen

      Let the brethren serve one another,
      and let no one be excused from the kitchen service
      except by reason of sickness
      or occupation in some important work.
      For this service brings increase of reward and of charity.
      But let helpers be provided for the weak ones,
      that they may not be distressed by this work;
      and indeed let everyone have help,
      as required by the size of the community
      or the circumstances of the locality.
      If the community is a large one,
      the cellarer shall be excused from the kitchen service;
      and so also those whose occupations are of greater utility,
      as we said above.
      Let the rest serve one another in charity.

      The one who is ending his week of service
      shall do the cleaning on Saturday.
      He shall wash the towels
      with which the brethren wipe their hands and feet;
      and this server who is ending his week,
      aided by the one who is about to begin,
      shall wash the feet of all the brethren.
      He shall return the utensils of his office to the cellarer
      clean and in good condition,
      and the cellarer in turn shall consign them to the incoming server,
      in order that he may know
      what he gives out and what he receives back.


      I know some houses have moved away from having table waiters, but
      something is lost in that. We have cafeteria style first portions
      here, than the waiter goes around to offer seconds and clears the
      dishes. It isn't a really big deal, but it does have a great reward,
      as the Holy Rule points out. Because we are a small community, only
      7, everyone, even the Superior takes a turn at waiting.

      Formerly, in some houses (maybe in all, but I am not sure,) the Abbot
      would wait tables on Holy Thursday. There was a nice connection
      there: he who held the place of Christ waited on all on the feast of
      the Last Supper, and washed the feet of twelve in Church that day.

      The connection here is personalist. Waiting on people connects you
      very much to them, as any waiter could tell you. Restaurants may not
      pursue that connection to any depth, but a home situation, like a
      monastery, surely does. There's a great notion here for Oblates who
      do not live alone: take turns waiting. We can get slumped into Dad or
      Mom or husband or wife always being waiter or waited upon. Switch
      off, care for each other, in this and many, many other ways!

      Serving our families makes us feel very special, a kind of special
      that I think humility completely allows. If you have children, for
      heaven's sake, teach them to cook. As they grow older, it might well
      result in a night off for you and the child will benefit. Our
      relationship with any group is different when we are only in a
      position of taking or receiving. To know the full breadth of love, we
      must be able to give back, in ways no matter how small.

      Tom Grimaldi, one of our Oblates, told me over breakfast at the guesthouse
      that often his Vespers is to cook for his family. I agreed that it readily
      is! Marriage is a sacrament, serving those of one's primary vocation is truly
      a holy work of prayer, if only we let it be! Tom uses Vespers tapes while
      he cooks, which has the added advantage of letting several Gregorian
      psalm tones slip into memory for him. Now he can sing along much easier
      on his visits here!

      It is a very priestly and sacramental task to feed people. Not for
      nothing did Jesus leave us with a Meal to remember Him by, to remain
      among us as well! Not for nothing is the image of heaven a banquet.
      When we cook for (or clean up after!) our family and friends we are
      partaking in one of the fullest representations of the
      serving Christ.

      Love and prayers,

      Jerome, OSB
      Petersham, MA

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    • Br. Jerome Leo
      For Demosthenis, hypertension, in ICU, fighting for hiss life. For the recovery of Alex s friend, emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially, through
      Message 239 of 239 , Nov 24

        For Demosthenis, hypertension, in ICU, fighting for hiss life.


        For the recovery of Alex’s friend, emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially, through the intercession of Our lady of the Rosary.

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