Holy Rule for July 24
Prayers for the eternal rest of Pauline Tinguely, charter member of Monastic
Life list, on the anniversary of her death. She was truly an Amma to us all.
Prayers for the eternal rest of Fr. Ramon and for all who mourn him.
Prayers, please, for the spiritual, mental and physical health of the following, for all their loved ones and all who take care of them:
Rosie, Shere-Ling's mother-in-law, worsening Alzheimer's disease.
Tami, Vince's wife, for health concerns.
Don, an Oblate who lives alone, friends found him when they went to check on him. He had suffered a stroke and it is unknown how long it was before he was found.
Deo Gratias! Vince has completed his Petition to be considered for the Oblate program in Lincoln, Nebraska, under the auspices of Holy Family Monastery of Yankton, SD. Prayers, please that God's will be made manifest both to Vince and to the Oblates in this request.
Lord, help us all as You know and will. God's will is best. All is mercy and
grace. God is never absent, praise Him! Thanks so much. JL
March 24, July 24, November 23
Chapter 44: How the Excommunicated Are to Make Satisfaction
One who for serious faults is excommunicated
from oratory and table shall make satisfaction as follows.
At the hour when the celebration of the Work of God is concluded in the
oratory, let her lie prostrate before the door of the oratory, saying
nothing, but only lying prone with her face to the ground at the feet of
all as they come out of the oratory. And let her continue to do this
until the Abbess judges that satisfaction has been made.
Then, when she has come at the Abbess's bidding, let her cast herself
first at the Abbess's feet and then at the feet of all, that they may
pray for her.
And next, if the Abbess so orders, let her be received into the choir,
to the place which the Abbess appoints,
but with the provision that she shall not presume to intone Psalm or
lesson or anything else in the oratory without a further order from the
Moreover, at every Hour, when the Work of God is ended, let her cast
herself on the ground in the place where she stands. And let her
continue to satisfy in this way until the Abbess again orders her
finally to cease
from this satisfaction.
But those who for slight faults are excommunicated
only from table shall make satisfaction in the oratory,
and continue in it till an order from the Abbess, until she blesses them
and says, "It is enough."
There is a LOT here for family and workplace, though one might not think
so at first glance. This chapter is not about kneeling and prostrations,
it is about asking for and receiving forgiveness.
The most important part of the puzzle here is that the offender accepts
correction, even punishment, and goes through the process to amend. If
the principles of mercy outlined here are employed without that VERY
important proviso, heartbreak and trouble for many can ensue. If the
offender walks off in a huff at the first sign of correction, this is
NOT about such a monastic at all.
One more really important point here. Especially in the really major
offenses, it is quite likely that more monastics are involved, not just
the Abbot and the offender. Still, St. Benedict does not include them in
the decision to forgive.
This is strikingly useful. The terms of forgiveness are NOT in our
hands, but in those of the Abbess. There is someone who has the
authority and right to say: "This is finished, we've got to move on!"
Wow! Now that's the sort of umpire or referee we could use in many areas
of life. It may not be available at your place of work (unless you
are the boss,) but it surely can be a big help in any family when a
parent assumes this role justly.
There is yet another bit of wisdom to be gleaned here that has nothing
to do with body language 1,500 years old. St. Benedict establishes a
system for the contrite one to actually make amends, to ask for
forgiveness and receive it. Sad to say, there are people who would not forgive
or forget. "There is NOTHING you could do that would ever make me
This is a horrible thing, but truthfully, after a certain point, it is
no longer the fault of the one who originally goofed, but of the
one who refuses to forgive, who bears a grudge. This is a much more
serious issue than kneeling or not kneeling in choir, more detrimental to
community than stretching out by the door for a week or so. This is cancerous.
Nobody is asking anyone to be so purblind stupid as to hold their hands
firmly on the same hot stove twice, but if Christians don't forgive when
asked, our common life cannot go on, and common life is an integral part
of Christianity. When people accept correction and ask for forgiveness and try
to amend, we must honor that somehow.
But we still have to live with people, for all 7x70 times they ask
to be forgiven. Maybe we will never be able to be as vulnerable with
them again, but we have to establish at LEAST civility, and hopefully
even more than that. And, who knows, maybe, in time (long time!)
most of our original innocence and vulnerability will return. Maybe. But
those things do take time. To refuse outright to forgive is to guarantee
that the good things about reconciliation for both parties will never
happen at all. We are denied the "luxury" of such refusals
by both Gospel and Rule.
Love and prayers,
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- Prayers, please, for a woman who is trying to get established with a doctor;each one she has called either is not taking new patients or does not accept her insurance. Several are retiring or leaving their practice.