Holy Rule for Apr. 28
Prayers, please, for the spiritual, mental and physical health of the following, for all their loved ones and for all who take care of them:
Pat and two of her friends all of whom have multiple health problems
June who has developed an ulcerated leg.
N., heart trouble and respiratory trouble.
Lord, help us all as You know and will. God's will is best. All is
mercy and grace. God is never absent, praise Him! Thanks so much. JL
April 28, August 28, December 28
Chapter 70: That No One Venture to Punish at Random
Every occasion of presumption
shall be avoided in the monastery,
and we decree that no one be allowed
to excommunicate or to strike any of her sisters
unless the Abbess has given her the authority.
Those who offend in this matter
shall be rebuked in the presence of all,
that the rest may have fear.
But children up to 15 years of age
shall be carefully controlled and watched by all,
yet this too with all moderation and discretion.
All, therefore, who presume
without the Abbess' instructions
to punish those above that age
or who lose their temper with them,
shall undergo the discipline of the Rule;
for it is written,
"Do not to another what you would not want done to yourself" (Tobias
Ever work in a place where there was such chaos that you always had
to be protecting yourself from just about everybody, where you never
knew from which quarter doom might swoop down without warning. Trust
me, it ain't much fun. Been there, done that! St. Benedict wisely saw
that healthy people cannot live that way- it makes them sick- and
sick people cannot either, it makes them sicker in a big hurry!
Our communities, our families, and our own behavior at work or school
should never buy into such lunacy. One advantage of a central
authority is that it takes the heat, or ought to take it! To leave
those we have under our care at the mercy of each other, be they
siblings or monastics or employees, is a terrible abdication of
The other telling thing here is the proscription against losing one's
temper. Hey, I know it happens, and I often even know how. It surely
has happened to me, alas. But our communities are to be founded on peace.
When disagreement comes or wrong is done, our first resort must
NEVER be the overkill of the heaviest possible artillery. Much less than
that is effective in most cases and giving more than is necessary just
destroys our inner peace. That, my friends, is something we should
never allow things around us to destroy.
Two other important things are to be borne in mind. The other person may
honestly have no clue that they have offended or done anything wrong. It
may be in our own wrong-headed perceptions. Also, the silent treatment or
the cold shoulder freeze out are demeaning and not terribly mature ways to
deal with conflict, especially if the person receiving such nonsense is
expected to either know or guess what she has done wrong. Such petulant
are beneath humanity itself, much less Christianity and terribly beneath
Far from the "mutually assured destruction" tactic of the nuclear days,
we should always and everywhere espouse gentleness and polite restraint.
Our disagreements and corrections should be marked with mercy, even to
those who fail mercy themselves. (There is no shortage of such people and
no need to duplicate services there!) So much of charity is genuine courtesy
and respect, qualities which are sadly easy to fail. We must be mindful, ever
Love and prayers,
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Many ardent prayers for Mario, substance abuse problem and getting help and treatment, may he stay clean and sober. Prayers, too, for his parents, D. and M. and all his family.
Prayers for Kristen, young wife & mother with serious cancer. Parishioners are praying to Ven. Rose Hawthorne for a miracle.
Prayers for Diana and her daughter, Diana left the Church long ago, prayers that they both may return.
Many ardent prayers for Steve, in hospice, that he may get all the Sacraments, and for his wife and family and all who will mourn him. Divine Mercy chaplets, please, from those so inclined.
Prayers for the eternal rest of Kathy, who died in her sleep, and strength for her husband, Mark and for their family. Kathy was a very devout prayer warrior.
Continued ardent prayers for Josh, drug problems and hopefully already in treatment.
Prayers for Patty, 56, who has been home battling bacterial pneumonia for over a week.
Prayers for the eternal rest of 35 girls killed in a fire at a state-run home for youth in Guatemala, and for their families and all who mourn them. Prayers, too, for the other girls at that facility, where allegations of abuse have prompted riots from those housed there.
Prayers for a man estranged from his children for many years, that they resume contact with him.
Prayers for E., that she go to Confession, also for Liz, that she go to Confession. It has been many years for both.
Lord, help us all as You know and will. God's will is best. All is mercy and
grace. God is never absent, praise Him! Thanks so much. JL
March 14, July 14, November 13
Chapter 35: On the Weekly Servers in the Kitchen
An hour before the meal let the weekly servers each receive a drink
and some bread over and above the appointed allowance, in order
that at the meal time they may serve their brethren without
murmuring and without excessive fatigue. On solemn days, however,
let them wait until after Mass.
Immediately after the Morning Office on Sunday, the incoming and
outgoing servers shall prostrate themselves before all the brethren
in the oratory and ask their prayers. Let the server who is ending
his week say this verse: "Blessed are You, O Lord God, who have
helped me and consoled me." When this has been said three times and
the outgoing server has received his blessing, then let the
incoming server follow and say, "Incline unto my aid, O God; O
Lord, make haste to help me." Let this also be repeated three times
by all, and having received his blessing let him enter his service.
Families, and parents and caregivers, listen up! There's an
important lesson here. No task is too small to be blessed by
prayer. More than that, no task is so easy that it can be done
without God's help, so remember to thank Him. Of ourselves, we can
do nothing, literally nothing. All our strength and power comes from God.
Making dinner or washing the dishes? Take a quiet moment in the
midst of either to say "Help!" and "Thanks!" Two simple, one word
prayers. No matter how chaotic your household, everyone will find
time for at least that. God knows the details, knows your heart and
can readily fill in the blanks! We may think God needs essay-length
prayers, but He doesn't. He may enjoy hearing from us, but trust
me, we NEVER tell Him anything that's news to Him.
This chapter is not simply the humility and charity of service, it
is also the honest acknowledgment of complete helplessness without
God. For most folks, only sickness or debility will teach them
that. It may seem like nothing to bend down and pick up a pin off
the floor until a bad back makes that impossible. Handicaps hone
our perceptions of being in charge very, very well.
Of course, there is another side to simple things like serving
table, picking up pins and the like. One could not have done
anything without God's help, but ah, if one does them out of love
and care! Bingo! Double coupons, so to speak! If that pin got
carefully picked up because of a barefoot and running child, or a
beloved pet who is prone to "tasting" whatever she can find on the
floor, simplicity becomes a very much greater matter, indeed. Now
it is very close to the heart of God, and that is a wonderful place
By the way, though some might think me daft for saying this, it is
not at all that crazy. There is no reason why families could not
bless whomever is assigned to a domestic task for a week or month
or whatever. A simple prayer asking God to help them serve us all
and get over any rough times could be tastefully done without a lot
of fuss. This could really help drive home the message of the worthwhile
merit to be had in doing small things with love!
Love and prayers,