Holy Rule for June 6 AND 7
Rather than trouble my faithful friend, Michael, for only one day when I am in Boston overnight for Brian's funeral, I am sending BOTH June 6 and June 7 tonight. Prayer requests received after tonight will be done on Friday's post. Not to worry, God is outside of time. Please pray for all the folks who have intentions that will be posted later on Friday. God knows in advance what we need and ask!
Prayers for R., going to the dentist for the first time in many years, having been molested by a dentist while under anesthetic the last time. Very scared, but needs badly to go. Prayers for courage and serenity! Prayers for an Oblate candidate in a Muslim country, giving further detail could actually be dangerous for the person, but grateful, ardent prayers for this brave step.
Baby Ethan, for whom we have prayed, faces a new and stronger chemotherapy treatment for his leukemia. He just turned 6 months and is really a miracle baby. Prayers for him and his parents, and all his doctors and all those who care for all our prayer folks in any way. Prayers for Cindy, spinal surgery today to remove bone pressing on a nerve. After 8 weeks of pain, dizziness and other symptoms, she is hoping for some relief. Prayers, too, for her sister and all her family. Lord, help us all as You know and will. God's will is best. All is mercy and grace. God is never absent, praise Him! Thanks so much. JL
February 5, June 6, October 6
Chapter 7: On Humility
The eighth degree of humility
is that a monk do nothing except what is commended
by the common Rule of the monastery
and the example of the elders.
Well, this one looks deceptively simple enough. Just try it! I speak
as one who has frequently failed it and who sometimes* fails it
still. [* I only fail it on special occasions: Sunday, Monday,
Tuesday, Wednesday.... you get the picture.] This step of humility,
by the way, will translate very easily into family life, the
neighborhood, or the workplace.
The goal here is not just external uniformity so much as internal
detachment. We are deeply attached to the things we do. Demanding to
do things our own way is not humble. When observers come to the
monastery, for the monks or the nuns, I often see little quirks of
external piety in church and think: "Well, that'll have to go..."
One cannot profitably go through monastic formation cherishing the
notion that one has got it right and one's elders have it wrong. You
may even be right, or the matter may be completely neutral. (The
term "optional" comes to mind, but that was NOT used to express
neutrality!) That's not the issue here. Detachment and humility are.
When we singularize ourselves without real moral imperative, the
message given to the whole community is "I know better." That this is
not warmly received in a junior or newcomer should come as no
surprise. A monastic family is like any spouse: you had better not
marry what you hope to change them into, but only what they ARE. If
we fail this, we change "Thy will be done" into "MY will be done!"
and we do so with sorry results.
No spouse is perfect, neither is any family, monastery or job, but if
you expect to change them right off the bat, you're doomed to woe. In
monastery and marriage and workplace, the only person you can REALLY
change is yourself and the sooner you get around to doing that, the
better for all concerned.
The sad thing (and I am guilty here!) is that sometimes these things
we do on our own have nothing to do with piety at all. They are,
pure and simple, revolt, passive aggression, small, though very
public ways of expressing our scorn for this or that concept or
person. Having lived in the Church of the 60's and 70's, I picked up
the idea of refusal as a kind of non-violent demonstration.
I also must say that, in those less-than-halcyon days, I picked it up
from my monastic seniors, just not always the best seniors! I still
do it at times, and I still wrestle with paring those times down day
by day. The hardest humility and obedience are to things we truly
think are dumb and do not matter. The difficulty alone must mean
there is great potential for growth there.
An interesting aside here. The dissenter often thinks she is a grand
and eloquent witness for justice and truth. The stubborn monk thinks
he has scored a real victory for integrity and correctness. In fact,
those who live with them often think they're just silly fools. Of the
two impressions, this last is closer to truth!
It is also interesting to note (again, from sorry personal experience,)
that the rebel often looks at other rebels (with whom he does not agree,
so they are, of course, WRONG...) as silly fools. Wow! If one can be so right
about those other rebels, how come the other monastics aren't right about
Love and prayers,
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