Prayers for Br. Adrian, on his feastday, garces galore and many more.
Lord, help us all as You know and will. God's will is best. All is mercy
grace. God is never absent, praise Him! Thanks so much.
February 7, June 8, October 8
Chapter 7: On Humility
tenth degree of humility
is that he be not ready and quick to laugh,
it is written,
"The fool lifts up his voice in laughter" (Eccles.
Note that the Holy Rule does NOT say not to
laugh at all, but just
not to laugh too fast! In another place, the Rule
condemns "idle words"
which can "provoke buffoonery" (read immoderate
laughter!) We are
not, however, forbidden to laugh at all. Life together will
some truly comical stuff, and well-ordered appreciation of
that gift of
humor is right in line with a good, balanced Benedictine
WHAT do we laugh at, and how? Do we find humor at others' expense
Do we laugh in such a way as to make the person feel a fool, or in
such a way
as to make her feel part of a shared family joke and joy? Do we
love and affection or with pompous derision? There are, make no
lots of good and bad ways to laugh.
There are, in every age,
inappropriate uses of humor. Humor is often
a nervous cover-up, an avoidance,
a substitute for real
communication. I think these examples are what the Holy
addresses. We are called to relate to people on a more honest
than perpetual joking about. That playfulness may be an
to intimacy, but it is no substitute. All loving friends share
but if jokes are ALL they share, they are, as yet, neither
loving nor friends. It takes something more than that humor
It is because humor, jokes and shared laughter can be that first
towards intimacy that they are so very necessary for a
community-loving Benedictine heart. Then, of course, there is
that Christian imperative to JOY!
Love and prayers,