MONDAY MUSE (2 August 2010)
THE OTHER SIDE
Once, a wanderer came to
the banks of a wide river. He wondered on ways to cross the broad barrier, but
in vain. Just as he was about to turn back, he saw a Zen master on the other
side of the river. He shouted out, ‘Sir, please tell me how to get to the other
side of this river’? The monk promptly yelled back, ‘Young man, you are on the
Like all Zen stories, this tale too holds multiple lessons.
However, let’s consider it for the aspect of interpersonal skills. The two
banks of the river represent two individual personalities that lie aligned
parallel to each other. The river represents the space between the
While we seek to travel the journey to the other side, it would be
better to understand that our side too is the other side with regards to the
person across. So getting to the other side necessarily includes connect with
initiative on the side that one stands on. The same concept is articulated with
great simplicity in the quote, ‘if it is to be, it is up to me!’
More often than not, our closest friends are the ones where we take
the initiative for maintaining and empowering the relationship. The onus of
friendship cannot be on the other person. The responsibility lies with me to be
better at doing everything necessary for my friend to see a friend on the other
side… which is where I stand!
to BE BETTER at connecting to the other
let’s do the needful, on the side that I
Pravin K. Sabnis
conducts UNLEARNING UNLIMITED outbound workshops for corporate and other teams.
MONDAY MUSE is based on JCI-India’s National President’s theme: Touch To
Transform (2004), We Are The Future (2005), Speak Through Action (2006),
Develop New Dimensions (2007) & the JCI theme – BE BETTER (2008 onwards).
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