Re: [genpcncfir] cousin marriages
- Please include the second one in her genealogy too. You are one of those
natural writers who probably doesn't realize it. I taught gifted children
for 13 years. You need to write the story of your mother and publish it.
Paula Anne Baker
Researching BAKER, MANNING, TYSON, STOCKS AND OTHERS in Pitt County NC and
Greene County NC
and COLE, NORMAN, WHITE, SUTTON AND OTHERS in SC, GA, and LA
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- Dear Paula, Thank you so very much for taking time to
compliment me on my writing about Mama. She was so
inspiring to us that it's more as if she comes through
the words by the force of her character. She truly
left her mark on the four of us. Mama had a life-long
love of history and had hoped some day to write a
history of Pitt County. Without being sentimental
about it, she loved Pitt County as much as anyone who
proclaimed that love, but she preferred to show it by
her actions rather than through telling people.
Initially, I hated history because everybody else
could read the book and come up with the very same
answers I had. Somehow, too, my school history texts
always left me wanting to know more than I was told.
That's when I started reading biographies and began
really to experience the lives about which I was
reading. I had the same experience reading the old
Eastern Reflectors and Daily Reflectors at the
rootsweb site. That's when it came to me that what was
missing was the day-by-day happenings behind the
scenes that shaped the characters of the people who
made history and that probably inspired those writers
behind the pages of my history books. Genealogy was a
natural outgrowth of my search for the people behind
the history. For example, it was maddening to me to
read a statement like "Texas seceded from the Union."
I wanted to jump up and shout, "No, it didn't either.
Texans seceded from the Union." Biographies gave me
back the people. A second reason for my becoming
interested in genealogy was the section of genetics in
my high school biology book. I was intrigued by the
musical Mozart family and began to wonder who I might
be like in my own family and who other people were
like and how could I find out. Whatever else, I guess
I am more like the character (a fiction, of course)
from The Wonder Years. I seem to ask questions that
others rarely ask and to wonder about things where
others hardly bat an eye. I used to think I must be
naive! If I were not, then why do I always ask
questions or misunderstand a word someone is using.
For example, when I graduated from high school, and
Mama was so sick from chemotherapy and asked if I
would take a "permanent" job for a year until my
stepfather got established in his medical practice, I
was inwardly devastated while readily agreeing to her
request. I thought that applying for a "permanent" job
meant that I was committing myself for life even
though Mama had said I could resign whenever I wished.
I felt that to do so would be getting a job by telling
a lie. I remember walking the streets alone as I went
from job interview to job interview and feeling so sad
and terribly betrayed at finding the world a far
different place than I had always thought--thinking
that I could never trust grown-ups because what they
said was not what they meant. If it's not "permanent,"
then why call it permanent. There must be a catch
somewhere, and I was desperately afraid that it would
catch up with me. It was like signing my life away,
every dream I'd ever had, but I knew that Mama was
very sick and might not live, and I could do no less
for her and my younger brothers and sister than to
make sure they were cared for. Though later than I had
planned, I did get to go to college, but those years
between high school and college made me appreciate the
chance I got and determined to make the most of my
wonderful opportunity. Later, Carol
--- Paula Baker <paulabaker69@...> wrote:
> Please include the second one in her genealogy too._________________________________________________________________
> You are one of those
> natural writers who probably doesn't realize it. I
> taught gifted children
> for 13 years. You need to write the story of your
> mother and publish it.
> Paula Anne Baker
> Researching BAKER, MANNING, TYSON, STOCKS AND OTHERS
> in Pitt County NC and
> Greene County NC
> and COLE, NORMAN, WHITE, SUTTON AND OTHERS in SC,
> GA, and LA
> Add photos to your e-mail with MSN 8. Get 2 months__________________________________
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