I have ancestors from upstate New York as well. I found a sibling of My ancestor who was born and died in between the US Federal Census when I looked at the 1865 New York State Census. That's how I discovered the sibling. He was unknown prior to this. I believe there was also an 1895 New York State Census. You could look in that census.
The other thought is to look at the church records. The baptism of the sibling of my ancestor was not in the church records. They had started recording this only a few months after he was baptised. That was in 1863. However by 1895, there should be a good chance your ancestor would be in the baptismal records of the church they belonged to.
--- In email@example.com, bob gillis <robertgillis@...> wrote:
> On 4/11/2012 8:42 PM, NJREADERS@... wrote:
> > Does anyone have any tips on finding a relative who was born and died
> > between US censuses? It was between 1890 and 1900 in upstate NY and
> > they didn't have birth certificates and I bet, death certificates.
> familysearch.org has NYS Census 1892 and NY Births and Christenings
> 1640 -1962 and New York Deaths and Burials, 1795-1952
> > I've checked ancestry.com and e-mailed anyone who had this girl in
> > their tree. Haven't heard back yet. thanks peggy
> What is your evidence that a girl was born to the family? The 1900 Census?
> Since the 1890 Census was destroyed long before any copies of it were
> made how do you know the years?
> Assuming the parents married in 1889/90 I would enter in my genealogy
> program an unnamed daughter for the parents born the year after the
> marriage and died before 1900
> bob gillis