Re: Lil Lady's last day (long)
My deepest condolances on the loss of your Lil Lady. She was
fortunate to spend her long life with such a devoted owner.
Barbara and the furry crew
--- In firstname.lastname@example.org, "cindy mitchell"
> All of you know that I had a terrible time coming to thisdecision. It was not until the last morning when Lady just seemed to
be saying "no more, please" about the assist feedings and was so
terribly pitiful that I decided. We went to the vet and I asked him
wht he would do; he said if she were his cat, this is what he would
do. If I could kept her without the force feeding, I might have, b/c
I don't think she was in an immediate danger from the CHF and
probably not from CRF. But the CHF had worsened so quickly the first
time on Tuesday, I knew that that it could be a danger. Neither she
nor I wanted another assist feeding and I just could not keep her
here for my own sake. She let me know in her own way that she had
had enough and I could not force her.
>I talked with the Mempis vet specialist. We all concurred, since I
> Of course, I had second thoughts all day and both my local vet and
was not willing to leave her in a 24 hour hospital setting at this
point. I was NOT goingto
> let die up there somewhere alone.chicken for --her favorite, and
> She was so tired and ready for it all to end. I cooked baked
> opend cans of cat food. If she would just eat, I would have takenit as a sign, but she had no interest.
>loving her and tellinng her how much I loved her.. It actually took
> Lady died peacefully around 6:00 pm at home, with my petting and
a long time, b/c her veins had gotten so bad that the vet had a hard
time getting the IV shot
> in. But he had given an IM shot earlier and she had fallen asleepwith me holding her, so she was not aware of all that.
>friends came over. (I called a friend who is a pediatrician to come
> Lady's best catsitter was here, and afterwards one of her best
over, too, to be absolutely certain she was gone.) They stayed til
>coming home at night from work to a house without her will be, too.
> Waking up this morning with her gone is the hardest, and I know
>how I could come to the decision. We had a peaceful day after we got
> I have dreaded this day for years, wondering how badit would be,
> morning late from the vet's. She peed, laid in the box a long time,then pooped, and laid in the box (luckily both had gone over the
edge, a long time habit of hers). She was so very tired. Then she
got her on blanket in
> my closet and I eventually took a small electric radiator in thereto keep her warmer, since she would not get on her heated bed.
>throat. I did give subqs yesterday morning before the vet trip and a
> It was so wonderful not having to force medicine and food down her
little more again about 4:00 pm to make her feel better, and since
she loved the feeling
> of subqs. She purred and slept most of the time. I stayed withher and petted and hugged her. Later I spent about an hour brushing
her with her zoom groom (her favorite) and her tiny little rubber
brush under her chin, just before the vet arrived.
>could not bear to move her (and I wanted to be sure she was really
> She stayed on my bed after the doctor left for several hours. I
gone). Now she's curled up in one of her beds, and a friend and I
will take her to the pet
> crematorium today for a private cremation. I will pick up herashes Monday or Tuesday.
>how luckey I was from the time of her diagnosis in October 2000.
> In retrospect, and having been through the last week, I now realize
After the first few weeks of getting subqs and pepid straight, she
had very little
> vomiting and very few days where she did not feel well andcomfortable and happy. Especially the last year she never ate as
much as I wanted, but she was always a picky eater and we could
assist feed. Although she did not like that, she tolerated it and
ate on her own, too.
> Until the last few days, when her attitude about the assistfeedings really changed. Up until Monday she enjoyed going outside,
lying in the sun in the kitty atriumor the flower bed, digging around
outside to find the old k/d I threw out for the birds or raccoons,
and just enjoying life. Monday was her last time for that. Tuesday
was the chest tap, and she never walked around again after that.
>a few days of her being uncomfortable. I had to try and if I had pts
> I would not change this last week although it gained us nothing but
Tuesday night I would have had even more doubts than now. I don't
think you can ever make this kind of life and death decision for
another without some second thoughts, but I feel that Lady was ready
and I was not willing, the way she was acting and felt, to force her
>and go to the litter when absolutely necessary, stopping to lie down
> Having seen her this last week, when she did nothing but sit in bed
and rest at least once on the short walk over, I now really
appreciate the last two
> years and how happy and comfortable she was. This group gave methat, and I know that she would have been gone long ago without this
group, and that her last days would have been much worse.
>thanks you, too.
> Thanks to all of you. The sweetest little cat in the whole world
>originally the only female out of a group of three kitties. Now she
> I have always called Lil Lady "my littlest angel" b/c she was
really is an angel.
> I hope I will one day see her again.
> Cindy and Lil Lady, angel kitty 6/2/84 - 1//31/03
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
- Dear Cindy,
You and Lady are very much in our thoughts and prayers. It is very
difficult and painful to let a beloved friend go quietly and with
dignity, but it is also the greatest final act of friendship that you
can give. In time, the pain will ease and your heart will be filled
with happy memories and less grief.
We have lit a candle for her to light her way.