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  • cindy mitchell
    All of you know that I had a terrible time coming to this decision. It was not until the last morning when Lady just seemed to be saying no more, please
    Message 1 of 4 , Feb 1, 2003
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      All of you know that I had a terrible time coming to this decision. It was not until the last morning when Lady just seemed to be saying "no more, please" about the assist feedings and was so terribly pitiful that I decided. We went to the vet and I asked him wht he would do; he said if she were his cat, this is what he would do. If I could kept her without the force feeding, I might have, b/c I don't think she was in an immediate danger from the CHF and probably not from CRF. But the CHF had worsened so quickly the first time on Tuesday, I knew that that it could be a danger. Neither she nor I wanted another assist feeding and I just could not keep her here for my own sake. She let me know in her own way that she had had enough and I could not force her.

      Of course, I had second thoughts all day and both my local vet and I talked with the Mempis vet specialist. We all concurred, since I was not willing to leave her in a 24 hour hospital setting at this point. I was NOT goingto
      let die up there somewhere alone.

      She was so tired and ready for it all to end. I cooked baked chicken for --her favorite, and
      opend cans of cat food. If she would just eat, I would have taken it as a sign, but she had no interest.

      Lady died peacefully around 6:00 pm at home, with my petting and loving her and tellinng her how much I loved her.. It actually took a long time, b/c her veins had gotten so bad that the vet had a hard time getting the IV shot
      in. But he had given an IM shot earlier and she had fallen asleep with me holding her, so she was not aware of all that.

      Lady's best catsitter was here, and afterwards one of her best friends came over. (I called a friend who is a pediatrician to come over, too, to be absolutely certain she was gone.) They stayed til late.

      Waking up this morning with her gone is the hardest, and I know coming home at night from work to a house without her will be, too.

      I have dreaded this day for years, wondering how badit would be, how I could come to the decision. We had a peaceful day after we got back yesterday
      morning late from the vet's. She peed, laid in the box a long time, then pooped, and laid in the box (luckily both had gone over the edge, a long time habit of hers). She was so very tired. Then she got her on blanket in
      my closet and I eventually took a small electric radiator in there to keep her warmer, since she would not get on her heated bed.

      It was so wonderful not having to force medicine and food down her throat. I did give subqs yesterday morning before the vet trip and a little more again about 4:00 pm to make her feel better, and since she loved the feeling
      of subqs. She purred and slept most of the time. I stayed with her and petted and hugged her. Later I spent about an hour brushing her with her zoom groom (her favorite) and her tiny little rubber brush under her chin, just before the vet arrived.

      She stayed on my bed after the doctor left for several hours. I could not bear to move her (and I wanted to be sure she was really gone). Now she's curled up in one of her beds, and a friend and I will take her to the pet
      crematorium today for a private cremation. I will pick up her ashes Monday or Tuesday.

      In retrospect, and having been through the last week, I now realize how luckey I was from the time of her diagnosis in October 2000. After the first few weeks of getting subqs and pepid straight, she had very little
      vomiting and very few days where she did not feel well and comfortable and happy. Especially the last year she never ate as much as I wanted, but she was always a picky eater and we could assist feed. Although she did not like that, she tolerated it and ate on her own, too.
      Until the last few days, when her attitude about the assist feedings really changed. Up until Monday she enjoyed going outside, lying in the sun in the kitty atriumor the flower bed, digging around outside to find the old k/d I threw out for the birds or raccoons, and just enjoying life. Monday was her last time for that. Tuesday was the chest tap, and she never walked around again after that.

      I would not change this last week although it gained us nothing but a few days of her being uncomfortable. I had to try and if I had pts Tuesday night I would have had even more doubts than now. I don't think you can ever make this kind of life and death decision for another without some second thoughts, but I feel that Lady was ready and I was not willing, the way she was acting and felt, to force her any longer.

      Having seen her this last week, when she did nothing but sit in bed and go to the litter when absolutely necessary, stopping to lie down and rest at least once on the short walk over, I now really appreciate the last two
      years and how happy and comfortable she was. This group gave me that, and I know that she would have been gone long ago without this group, and that her last days would have been much worse.

      Thanks to all of you. The sweetest little cat in the whole world thanks you, too.

      I have always called Lil Lady "my littlest angel" b/c she was originally the only female out of a group of three kitties. Now she really is an angel.

      I hope I will one day see her again.

      Cindy and Lil Lady, angel kitty 6/2/84 - 1//31/03



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    • Myra DeTate <mdetate@sbcglobal.net>
      Lil Lady is romping in the sun again and free from pain. Thank you for your post and for being such a wonderful cat mom. We are sorry for your loss and
      Message 2 of 4 , Feb 1, 2003
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        Lil Lady is romping in the sun again and free from pain. Thank you
        for your post and for being such a wonderful cat mom. We are sorry
        for your loss and celebrate Lil Lady's release from illness. I am
        glad you got to spend some quality time with Lady. We are still
        here for you. Love and peace.

        Lots of Kitty Kisses,
        Myra and Bob
        --- In feline-heart@yahoogroups.com, "cindy mitchell"
        <cmitchell@c...> wrote:
        > All of you know that I had a terrible time coming to this
        decision. It was not until the last morning when Lady just seemed
        to be saying "no more, please" about the assist feedings and was so
        terribly pitiful that I decided. We went to the vet and I asked him
        wht he would do; he said if she were his cat, this is what he would
        do. If I could kept her without the force feeding, I might have,
        b/c I don't think she was in an immediate danger from the CHF and
        probably not from CRF. But the CHF had worsened so quickly the
        first time on Tuesday, I knew that that it could be a danger.
        Neither she nor I wanted another assist feeding and I just could not
        keep her here for my own sake. She let me know in her own way that
        she had had enough and I could not force her.
        >
        > Of course, I had second thoughts all day and both my local vet and
        I talked with the Mempis vet specialist. We all concurred, since I
        was not willing to leave her in a 24 hour hospital setting at this
        point. I was NOT goingto
        > let die up there somewhere alone.
        >
        > She was so tired and ready for it all to end. I cooked baked
        chicken for --her favorite, and
        > opend cans of cat food. If she would just eat, I would have taken
        it as a sign, but she had no interest.
        >
        > Lady died peacefully around 6:00 pm at home, with my petting and
        loving her and tellinng her how much I loved her.. It actually took
        a long time, b/c her veins had gotten so bad that the vet had a hard
        time getting the IV shot
        > in. But he had given an IM shot earlier and she had fallen asleep
        with me holding her, so she was not aware of all that.
        >
        > Lady's best catsitter was here, and afterwards one of her best
        friends came over. (I called a friend who is a pediatrician to come
        over, too, to be absolutely certain she was gone.) They stayed til
        late.
        >
        > Waking up this morning with her gone is the hardest, and I know
        coming home at night from work to a house without her will be, too.
        >
        > I have dreaded this day for years, wondering how badit would be,
        how I could come to the decision. We had a peaceful day after we
        got back yesterday
        > morning late from the vet's. She peed, laid in the box a long
        time, then pooped, and laid in the box (luckily both had gone over
        the edge, a long time habit of hers). She was so very tired. Then
        she got her on blanket in
        > my closet and I eventually took a small electric radiator in there
        to keep her warmer, since she would not get on her heated bed.
        >
        > It was so wonderful not having to force medicine and food down her
        throat. I did give subqs yesterday morning before the vet trip and a
        little more again about 4:00 pm to make her feel better, and since
        she loved the feeling
        > of subqs. She purred and slept most of the time. I stayed with
        her and petted and hugged her. Later I spent about an hour brushing
        her with her zoom groom (her favorite) and her tiny little rubber
        brush under her chin, just before the vet arrived.
        >
        > She stayed on my bed after the doctor left for several hours. I
        could not bear to move her (and I wanted to be sure she was really
        gone). Now she's curled up in one of her beds, and a friend and I
        will take her to the pet
        > crematorium today for a private cremation. I will pick up her
        ashes Monday or Tuesday.
        >
        > In retrospect, and having been through the last week, I now
        realize how luckey I was from the time of her diagnosis in October
        2000. After the first few weeks of getting subqs and pepid
        straight, she had very little
        > vomiting and very few days where she did not feel well and
        comfortable and happy. Especially the last year she never ate as
        much as I wanted, but she was always a picky eater and we could
        assist feed. Although she did not like that, she tolerated it and
        ate on her own, too.
        > Until the last few days, when her attitude about the assist
        feedings really changed. Up until Monday she enjoyed going outside,
        lying in the sun in the kitty atriumor the flower bed, digging
        around outside to find the old k/d I threw out for the birds or
        raccoons, and just enjoying life. Monday was her last time for
        that. Tuesday was the chest tap, and she never walked around again
        after that.
        >
        > I would not change this last week although it gained us nothing
        but a few days of her being uncomfortable. I had to try and if I
        had pts Tuesday night I would have had even more doubts than now. I
        don't think you can ever make this kind of life and death decision
        for another without some second thoughts, but I feel that Lady was
        ready and I was not willing, the way she was acting and felt, to
        force her any longer.
        >
        > Having seen her this last week, when she did nothing but sit in
        bed and go to the litter when absolutely necessary, stopping to lie
        down and rest at least once on the short walk over, I now really
        appreciate the last two
        > years and how happy and comfortable she was. This group gave me
        that, and I know that she would have been gone long ago without this
        group, and that her last days would have been much worse.
        >
        > Thanks to all of you. The sweetest little cat in the whole world
        thanks you, too.
        >
        > I have always called Lil Lady "my littlest angel" b/c she was
        originally the only female out of a group of three kitties. Now she
        really is an angel.
        >
        > I hope I will one day see her again.
        >
        > Cindy and Lil Lady, angel kitty 6/2/84 - 1//31/03
        >
        >
        >
        > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
      • lipmancats <barbaralipman@ezsweeps.com>
        Cindy, My deepest condolances on the loss of your Lil Lady. She was fortunate to spend her long life with such a devoted owner. Take care, Barbara and the
        Message 3 of 4 , Feb 1, 2003
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          Cindy,
          My deepest condolances on the loss of your Lil Lady. She was
          fortunate to spend her long life with such a devoted owner.
          Take care,
          Barbara and the furry crew
          --- In feline-heart@yahoogroups.com, "cindy mitchell"
          <cmitchell@c...> wrote:
          > All of you know that I had a terrible time coming to this
          decision. It was not until the last morning when Lady just seemed to
          be saying "no more, please" about the assist feedings and was so
          terribly pitiful that I decided. We went to the vet and I asked him
          wht he would do; he said if she were his cat, this is what he would
          do. If I could kept her without the force feeding, I might have, b/c
          I don't think she was in an immediate danger from the CHF and
          probably not from CRF. But the CHF had worsened so quickly the first
          time on Tuesday, I knew that that it could be a danger. Neither she
          nor I wanted another assist feeding and I just could not keep her
          here for my own sake. She let me know in her own way that she had
          had enough and I could not force her.
          >
          > Of course, I had second thoughts all day and both my local vet and
          I talked with the Mempis vet specialist. We all concurred, since I
          was not willing to leave her in a 24 hour hospital setting at this
          point. I was NOT goingto
          > let die up there somewhere alone.
          >
          > She was so tired and ready for it all to end. I cooked baked
          chicken for --her favorite, and
          > opend cans of cat food. If she would just eat, I would have taken
          it as a sign, but she had no interest.
          >
          > Lady died peacefully around 6:00 pm at home, with my petting and
          loving her and tellinng her how much I loved her.. It actually took
          a long time, b/c her veins had gotten so bad that the vet had a hard
          time getting the IV shot
          > in. But he had given an IM shot earlier and she had fallen asleep
          with me holding her, so she was not aware of all that.
          >
          > Lady's best catsitter was here, and afterwards one of her best
          friends came over. (I called a friend who is a pediatrician to come
          over, too, to be absolutely certain she was gone.) They stayed til
          late.
          >
          > Waking up this morning with her gone is the hardest, and I know
          coming home at night from work to a house without her will be, too.
          >
          > I have dreaded this day for years, wondering how badit would be,
          how I could come to the decision. We had a peaceful day after we got
          back yesterday
          > morning late from the vet's. She peed, laid in the box a long time,
          then pooped, and laid in the box (luckily both had gone over the
          edge, a long time habit of hers). She was so very tired. Then she
          got her on blanket in
          > my closet and I eventually took a small electric radiator in there
          to keep her warmer, since she would not get on her heated bed.
          >
          > It was so wonderful not having to force medicine and food down her
          throat. I did give subqs yesterday morning before the vet trip and a
          little more again about 4:00 pm to make her feel better, and since
          she loved the feeling
          > of subqs. She purred and slept most of the time. I stayed with
          her and petted and hugged her. Later I spent about an hour brushing
          her with her zoom groom (her favorite) and her tiny little rubber
          brush under her chin, just before the vet arrived.
          >
          > She stayed on my bed after the doctor left for several hours. I
          could not bear to move her (and I wanted to be sure she was really
          gone). Now she's curled up in one of her beds, and a friend and I
          will take her to the pet
          > crematorium today for a private cremation. I will pick up her
          ashes Monday or Tuesday.
          >
          > In retrospect, and having been through the last week, I now realize
          how luckey I was from the time of her diagnosis in October 2000.
          After the first few weeks of getting subqs and pepid straight, she
          had very little
          > vomiting and very few days where she did not feel well and
          comfortable and happy. Especially the last year she never ate as
          much as I wanted, but she was always a picky eater and we could
          assist feed. Although she did not like that, she tolerated it and
          ate on her own, too.
          > Until the last few days, when her attitude about the assist
          feedings really changed. Up until Monday she enjoyed going outside,
          lying in the sun in the kitty atriumor the flower bed, digging around
          outside to find the old k/d I threw out for the birds or raccoons,
          and just enjoying life. Monday was her last time for that. Tuesday
          was the chest tap, and she never walked around again after that.
          >
          > I would not change this last week although it gained us nothing but
          a few days of her being uncomfortable. I had to try and if I had pts
          Tuesday night I would have had even more doubts than now. I don't
          think you can ever make this kind of life and death decision for
          another without some second thoughts, but I feel that Lady was ready
          and I was not willing, the way she was acting and felt, to force her
          any longer.
          >
          > Having seen her this last week, when she did nothing but sit in bed
          and go to the litter when absolutely necessary, stopping to lie down
          and rest at least once on the short walk over, I now really
          appreciate the last two
          > years and how happy and comfortable she was. This group gave me
          that, and I know that she would have been gone long ago without this
          group, and that her last days would have been much worse.
          >
          > Thanks to all of you. The sweetest little cat in the whole world
          thanks you, too.
          >
          > I have always called Lil Lady "my littlest angel" b/c she was
          originally the only female out of a group of three kitties. Now she
          really is an angel.
          >
          > I hope I will one day see her again.
          >
          > Cindy and Lil Lady, angel kitty 6/2/84 - 1//31/03
          >
          >
          >
          > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
        • Helen <helen.miles@virgin.net>
          Dear Cindy, You and Lady are very much in our thoughts and prayers. It is very difficult and painful to let a beloved friend go quietly and with dignity, but
          Message 4 of 4 , Feb 3, 2003
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            Dear Cindy,

            You and Lady are very much in our thoughts and prayers. It is very
            difficult and painful to let a beloved friend go quietly and with
            dignity, but it is also the greatest final act of friendship that you
            can give. In time, the pain will ease and your heart will be filled
            with happy memories and less grief.

            We have lit a candle for her to light her way.

            {{{HUGS}}}

            Helen M
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