Re: [FH] Re: My Dearest Helmet Passed - I'm to Blame?
- Darlene --
When Baby Boy passed, I was a mess, even though I knew it was coming. What
helped was the unexpected adoption about three days later of a stray kitten,
in addition to my other two cats, but that's not an option for everyone.
Someone you love just died, what you're describing are typical symptoms of
grief. It just takes time. But you will feel better and some day you will
be able to remember Helmet with nothing but happiness.
The hardest thing to accept with heart kitties is that in the end, there's
nothing we can do. With very few exceptions, it's a progressive, terminal
disease. Some of us are lucky enough to be able to treat the symptoms for a
while, and manage it, but in the end, it's terminal. And this is just out
of our control.
You did everything you could for him, and if you could have cured him, you
would ... but right now, this isn't possible -- not for Helmet, not for my
Baby Boy, not for my Lilly, and not for just about every heart kitty out
there right now. It sucks, and it's unfair, but there it is. What matters
isn't a cure, but supporting our babies in the ways we can, while they're
here. This is what you did for Helmet.
On Mon, Sep 28, 2009 at 9:51 AM, darlenehandley <dehandley@...> wrote:
> Hi all; still no information back from the autopsy. I hate even thinking
> about that, but what's done is done. I am having a very hard time with his
> loss. I think I've stopped obsessing about what could have happened (for
> now) until I get the information back. That could open up a whole other can
> of worms though. I guess that's the downside of having an autopsy. I don't
> even know if I'm prepared to hear or read it when it comes.
> I'm still not able to eat much, I am anxious, and the pain of the void is
> just too much to take on sometimes. Anyone else feel this way when their
> beloved babies passed?
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