Denial is a River in Egypt
- Voula wrote:
> With my Sachie with her kidneys, it wasDuring Pongo's final days, I went to see a Pet Loss counselor at the Animal
>likely going to be a slower process, but I know many >of us have written of
>the fear of a sudden problem from the heart.
Medical Center. I told him how crazy I'd been feeling the past few days,
afraid to leave the house or even leave the room because he wouldn't be
alive when I got back.
I had to keep telling myself, "I won't worry about it just for the time it
takes me to do this project, or go on this interview, or wash my hair. My
life has to go on."
The counselor said it wasn't crazy at all, in view of Pongo's collapse the
weekend before and the nature of Cardiomyopathy.
"With kidney disease or cancer, the process is slower and you have more
preparation. With heart disease, you often have no warning."
He also said that "denial" had gotten a bad rap. If you thought about the
statistics for highway accidents, you'd never get in your car. It takes a
small amount of denial to get through any crisis.
I was never in denial about Pongo's illness or his prognosis. I knew his
heart would get him eventually, but I also knew that he was a strong cat
and was getting great care. When we could see his luck start to run out, it
required a tremendous effort of will to keep going on with our daily
routines and still be ready to drop everything at a moment's notice to deal
with the inevitable.
> You know because she spent timeYes. Pongo had had a few overnight stays at the vet or the hospital in the
>in hospital three times since Christmas,
>I got to know what it would be
>like not to have her at home. But in another
>way, I sort of feel like she
>is at hospital, if you know what I mean.
past few years. The strange thing to get used to wasn't that he wasn't
home. It's that he wasn't *anywhere*.
>Since October when Lucy came sheThat's one of our concerns about putting a newbie with Phoebe. Except we'd
>has slept in another room, because she pounced on >Pebbles
be concerned for the newbie! ;-)
>I have a strong intuition that my Rosie will come. >(Or perhaps a boy,Yes, he or she will come, the way Lucy did. There are is no shortage of
>in which case I need a different name!
great cats in this world.
And I'm sure our vet will have plenty of candidates for us eventually. He
certainly knows we're reliable owners.