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Re: [XP] What other professions pair?

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  • George Dinwiddie
    ... Adam, You probably /are/ wired differently. We /all/ are. You re unique, just like everybody else. ;-) I know what you mean about the uncertainty from
    Message 1 of 53 , Dec 1, 2008
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      Adam Sroka wrote:
      > On Mon, Dec 1, 2008 at 6:06 PM, George Dinwiddie
      > <lists@...> wrote:
      >> Yes, it may be that pairing isn't, strictly speaking, the best way of
      >> working. It's pretty limited, and doesn't reach the richness displayed
      >> by human society. It's just /so/ much better than working alone. I'm
      >> sure we've barely scratched the surface on better ways to collaborate in
      >> software development.
      >>
      >> - George
      >
      > Hi George: It never ceases to amaze me how far software developers are
      > willing to go to avoid working closely with others. Yet, we have
      > literally dozens of tools at our disposal that are supposed to
      > "facilitate" communication. Jabber, irc, email, Yammer, confluence...
      > I'm just naming the ones that are open on my desktop right now.
      > Somehow, we cling to these tools even though none of them even
      > approaches the utility of looking at the guy next to us and opening
      > our mouths.
      >
      > I bet you are right that we haven't "scratched the surface." But,
      > still I find it a constant struggle to convince others that we should
      > be communicating more openly. Some even believe that more
      > communication == more distraction == Bad. What is that they fear? I
      > find the uncertainty that comes with a lack of communication far more
      > distracting. Maybe I'm just wired differently ;-)

      Adam, You probably /are/ wired differently. We /all/ are. You're
      unique, just like everybody else. ;-)

      I know what you mean about the uncertainty from lack of communication.
      Yet there is something deeper within me that will sometimes prevent me
      from walking a few steps to talk with someone--even when I know I should
      and I know it's important. My preferences would lead me to hide in a
      hole and not talk with anyone, at times. No, I don't like the result of
      that, but I still have that feeling.

      I used to hate that feeling. Now I've come to accept that it's there,
      and do something about my behavior, instead. I spend a lot of effort
      studying how people work together effectively. I practice at it. These
      things make it easier. There are still times when I'm paralyzed by my
      feelings, but not as much. And I'm much happier and more effective
      working more collaboratively.

      I can't say that it's the same for other people. This is just my
      experience. But I don't look askance at people who are loners or
      isolated. Or people who feel more comfortable communicating via a tool
      (such as this email). I just want to help them be happier and more
      effective, too.

      And maybe, just maybe, if the people around me get better at
      communicating, then it will be easier for me, too.

      - George

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    • Zhon Johansen
      ... Similarly, my friend, who has an autistic son and was one time diagnosed with aspergers, was told by his high school counselor: You can be either a
      Message 53 of 53 , Dec 5, 2008
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        Mike Hill wrote:
        > Along those lines, my wife tells me that specialists in autism refer
        > to university math and computer science departments as sheltered
        > workshops for Aspergers.
        >
        > Hill
        >
        Similarly, my friend, who has an autistic son and was one time diagnosed
        with aspergers, was told by his high school counselor:

        "You can be either a garbage man or a computer programmer."

        He chose the latter.

        - Zhon
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