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  • Jim Aiden
    Deborah, My problem is not that I don t understand why people have this psychology towards thinking about serious ideas, but how to assist them to feel
    Message 1 of 48 , Nov 2, 2001

      My problem is not that I don't understand why people have this
      psychology towards 'thinking' about serious ideas, but how to assist
      them to feel comfortable when such topics come up. I get an
      overwhelming sense that people view philosophy as pompous or
      irrelevant to their lives.... when in fact it means everything to it.
      Most actions in modern Homo Sapiens are the children of their beliefs
      and upbringing, not so much inherited instinct. I'm talking from a
      pure quantity standpoint. Sure we eat, we fuck, we sleep, we shit. But
      we do it just a wee bit different than an orangutan.

      I think many also find Neitzsche, Socrates and the Marquis De Sade
      (and such) boring because most people remove the emotion from the
      ideas that were attached to these men's lives. They become things, not
      people. Like a 'musty 'ol book' book eh BookDoc? If it's not visually
      exciting or does not carry some sort of fix (the tingle of a joke say)
      then it's not worth anything to this throw away existence.

      I say no.

      What I'm searching for is a way to breathe the excitement I feel
      in my heart when I imagine the monumental ethical struggle Neitzsche
      experienced with his Christian upbringing. Could ideas echoing through
      his mind literally have driven him mad? Although I have not seen the
      recent films, I try to picture the raw excitement the Marquis must
      have felt in his 'unbound fury' of sexuality. I think of Socrates
      looking into a cup of hemlock before he calmly took it into his hands
      and died for an idea. Nor do my ideas of thinkers end with
      philosophers. Warner von Braun building model rockets, then building
      V2s for Nazi's, then Saturn V's to send men into space. Oppenheimer, a
      humanist, consumed with the guilt of being the father of the most
      devastating weapons humanity was ever created. These people lived.

      If someone finds watching Friends or Seinfeld is more exciting,
      well.... enjoy. I only know of one life, and choose to explore the
      ideas and emotions that are the foundation of my being. It's not like
      I really made the choice, I'm just possessed by it. Everything else
      seems devoid of passion.

      Not offended at all. I look at people caught up in their dreary
      little lives, struggling for their next hit of 'happiness' and all I
      can feel is not anger, but pity. I want them to feel the joy I feel
      every single day exploring the universe. I think the Buddhist's call
      it 'awakening', others might call it the numinous. Whatever you call
      it, I see more life, hope and colour in this little nonsense
      philosophy group, a noplace of wires carrying ones, zeros and ideas,

      then the thousand empty eyes I stare at everyday on the commute to



      --- In existlist@y..., "Deborah Yates" <druthyates@h...> wrote:
      > Jim,
      > I really think you are onto something in the sense that you are open
      > to what I said and not offended! Our department held a colloquium
      > yesterday and I feel rather stupid to say that I was very attracted
      > to the speaker. He was married and of course women in philosophy
      > do not hit on the men, at least not anyone I know.
      > But I panicked and left immediately after the speech. I had to
      > get out of there! And unfortunately later I found out when a girl
      > friend invited me for the future that they went out for dinner and
      > the department picked up the tab. So, philosophers do have fun,
      > and are romantic.
      > But this guy had he been single would have still scared me off. He
      > so serious, into his head and never mentioned anything funny, light
      > or sexual at all even in jest. He was really a good guy. He gave
      > me a handout and everything.
      > Everybody was so bored listening to and he even mentioned something
      > about boring people. And it was so sad. He was so handsome and
      > smart and kind. Any woman would have wanted to date him, but he
      > was hiding his feelings so that it appeared that maybe he didn't
      > have any.
      > So, this is a common problem. And you are courageous to address it.
      > Men in philosophy are really good to women, they are kind people,
      > psychically strong, faithful to their women, very approving of
      > women in their field. They are great people.
      > It's just this one thing. And yet when they try to get into these
      > issues women don't respond well! It's a catch 22 situation.
      > One of my favorite faculty members started making racy comments to
      > me at a dinner commemorating one of my former professor's life after
      > his recent death.
      > I was so embarrassed that the color drained out of my face and I
      > barely talk or look him in the eye. So, see it's so hard to know
      > to do.
      > But had it been someone I was very close to, not a faculty member,
      > being alone, talking and drinking coffee and just being real and
      > but strong in one's emotions and not trying to shock me or gross me
      > out it would have been a start.
      > Maybe if you are already in a relationship, there is less risk to
      > direct. But I am going to try something. I am going to give the
      > philosophers a chance. Maybe I should break my rule and date one.
      > You helped me there. I hope what I said helped!
      > DY
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    • greg goodwin
      Deb, I don t believe I d care to be with a woman that would love to sleep with every man in town , even though she doesn t do so, wouldn t she still have her
      Message 48 of 48 , Nov 6, 2001
        I don't believe I'd care to be with a woman that
        'would love to sleep with every man in town', even
        though she doesn't do so, wouldn't she still have her
        desires, her curiosities??
        --- Deborah Yates <druthyates@...> wrote:
        > Greg,
        > I will be bold and answer that question honestly.
        > What's a boy to do
        > if commitment precedes sex. Find a woman who would
        > love to sleep with
        > every man in town, but won't because she's fiery and
        > passionate and in her
        > heart she is a one man woman.
        > Then be her friend and wait until marriage and marry
        > her!
        > But that's just what I would if I were you, I am
        > really stupid and naive
        > how would I know?
        > DY
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