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  • lukup2001
    Hi Alan, I m not quite sure what you meant by a play on words. I m curious what did I say? In answer to your question I m not seeking change but God has
    Message 1 of 628 , Sep 3, 2001
      Hi Alan,<br><br>I'm not quite sure what you meant
      by a play on words. I'm curious what did I say? In
      answer to your question I'm not seeking change but God
      has kept me away from going back to that lifestyle
      for many years. I wish to encourage others who may be
      discouraged with trying.<br><br>God Bless,<br>Lukup
    • ctickle777
      I want to chime in alongside Debbie regarding Tem49. I do hope other male members will still respond to this man, as I know many of our members have
      Message 628 of 628 , Oct 1, 2009
        I want to chime in alongside Debbie regarding Tem49.

        I do hope other male members will still respond to this man, as I know many of our members have experienced the same struggle he has so bravely shared. It does appear he joined the group and then changed his mind shortly thereafter; however, all of the posts are viewable to non-members to my knowledge which means he can still read the response messages that post to the general discussion board.

        Members, if you feel as though your experience could be of comfort to him, I want to encourage you to respond even though he is no longer considered a member, as he may check the main page periodically.

        Tem49, if you are reading this, I want to recommend you seek counsel and guidance through Exodus ministries. Their website is http://exodusinternational.org/

        On a personal note, I believe sin is sin, and there is no sin scale by which we may compare your temptation to other temptations (i.e.: drinking, fornication, murder, slander, etc.). I also realize there is a good deal of shame in what you are feeling, but remember that God does not shame or "guilt" us as this is not the role of the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit convicts a person, but shame and guilt are not from Him - those feelings are from our enemy. It is clear by your account that you are convicted of these feelings and you have been able to turn from this temptation time and again.

        Just don't allow Satan to use shame to prevent you from seeking guidance, help, or Godly counsel from others who share in your struggle. :) I realize you are married and have much on the line right now; just admitting your struggle publicly was a huge first step because you have an arsenal of prayer partners now that you didn't have before. :) You are not alone. :) Also know that God loves you and we will continue to pray for you in the midst of your struggle, whether you choose to rejoin the group and respond, or not. I hope you will reconsider joining the group as there are many people here who can offer you their encouragement and support; however, if you really feel you need more immediate support, which is something this forum cannot offer, please contact Exodus as they have representatives all over the U.S. as well as local ministries who may assist you in a variety of ways in addition to maintaining your privacy.

        Blessings in Christ,


        --- In exgaydiscussionboard@yahoogroups.com, "DebbieThurman" <debbie@...> wrote:
        > As a moderator, I am in the position to know who subscribes and unsubscribes from this group, and when. Some of you may get those notifications, too. What we can't know is why unless someone tells us.
        > The fellow who just joined and posted this comment is one of those who came and left pretty quickly. Was that because he did not get an instant response to his questions, thereby getting the impression that no one here really cared? Who can say?
        > While what I am posting here may not help him, unless he decides to come back, it may help others who are wondering whether or not anyone notices them or cares. Sometimes, it is simply the busyness of life that keeps us from responding right away to someone's needs. We can't beat ourselves up for that (the codependents or chronic rescuers will, of course). Most folks realize some patience is required of them when availing themselves of forums like this.
        > We must all be aware of the degree of desperation that prevails among the strugglers out there. Many want help or answers, and they want them yesterday. All in good time, if we put our trust in the Great Physician and Wonderful Counselor.
        > Food for thought.
        > Debbie
        > --- In exgaydiscussionboard@yahoogroups.com, "tem49" <tem49@> wrote:
        > >
        > > Thank you for allowing me to join this group.
        > >
        > > I am a Christian man who is struggling to deal with certain issues
        > > (homosexual desire) that have plagued me since I was a teenager but have
        > > just recently started to become more stronger now that I am grown.
        > > I have never had the chance to act out my desire to be with another guy
        > > even though I had made plans to. Each time I came close to doing what my
        > > desires wanted I pulled back and stopped myself from doing something I
        > > knew I would regret later. I fear though that some day I may not pull
        > > away from the temptation I put myself under and will give in. I know in
        > > my heart it's wrong and a sin but the physical desire I have some times
        > > causes me to forget all that and go ahead any way.
        > > Any case that's my story. I am also married and I would be sinning
        > > against my wife. I try to assure myself that I'm normal but I'm not so
        > > sure any more. I am not interested in a dominate role or even lust after
        > > guys. My desire is passive and submissive one. Without going into gross
        > > or sick details my urge is not oral or anything like that. not sure
        > > where this came from or why I desire this but I do at times and fear
        > > falling again. Have not done anything like this with another man or
        > > allowed myself to be touched that way. I desire anal sex or at least to
        > > have someone preform anal sex upon me. My desire comes and goes. At
        > > times the urge is so strong I can't stand it and at other times I can go
        > > weeks without thinking about it and than it starts up again and I post
        > > ads on Craigslist to find someone. I did that last week and had
        > > arrangement to meet someone but I was convicted of my sins and called
        > > it off again. This makes about the fourth time I have done that. Can any
        > > one here relate to what I'm going through?
        > > And yes, I am a Christian and know what the bible says about these
        > > things but it still isn't easy. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank
        > > you all.
        > >
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