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  • celticshiva
    Hm.. I think you are right. Do you get the feeling that you are mothering him or otherwise taking care of him all the time? If not he may, subconsiously,
    Message 1 of 3 , Aug 25, 2002
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      Hm.. I think you are right. Do you get the feeling that you are
      mothering him or otherwise taking care of him all the time? If not
      he may, subconsiously, think you are.

      The other possibility I can think of is that you remind him of his
      mother. Uh.. I can't remember that myth very well but I think his
      name was odipus? The guy who slept with his mother and killed his
      father.

      Ok more contemporary.. have you ever seen the episode of Fraiser
      where Frais gets a girlfriend who looks exactly like his mother?

      In any case it is possible that you maybe reminding him subconsiously
      of his mother, and this is appearing in his dreams.

      That said however, I don't think there is neccesarily any problem
      with this unless aspects of his dream are interefering with your
      relationship.

      --- In dreams@y..., "grlysmiles" <grlysmiles@y...> wrote:
      > My boyfriend has been having dreams for the past two weeks very
      > night about being an infant. In the dreams he looks like himself
      (a
      > 21 year old boy) but wears diapers and I (his girlfriend (21)) take
      > care of him. Feed him, change his diaper, coo and giggle at him
      >and
      > then the dream concludes with very sexual relations. He has told
      me
      > about these and feels they are simply fantasies and wants me to act
      > them out with him and I have absolutely no desire to ever cross
      > those lines with him or anyone else. To me it is possibly a sign
      of
      > some subconscious issues that need resolved and not a fantasy at
      > all. Could someone add some insight or advice to this situation?
    • P Ingerson
      Hi, grlymiles. Sorry about the delay about replying. I don t read messages from this group very often -- too many off-topic posts about ghost hunting, etc.
      Message 2 of 3 , Aug 25, 2002
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        Hi, grlymiles.

        Sorry about the delay about replying. I don't read messages from this
        group very often -- too many off-topic posts about ghost hunting, etc.
        and not nearly enough dreams.

        Anyway, the "adult baby" fantasy is a genuine, recognised sexual fetish,
        despite your doubts. Your boyfriend isn't suffering from any serious
        subconscious issues -- at least no more than, say, a transvestite.
        You're probably creating far more issues for him by being in denial over
        his fetish.

        In fact the transvestite analogy is a good one. Sometimes specialist
        cross-dressing and/or BDSM shops also sell adult-sized nappies, etc.
        If there's one in your town, you and your boyfriend might
        want to visit it and ask the staff for more information about the
        subject.

        (Don't be put off by bad movie cliches of the staff playing at grotesque
        flirting with the confused, innocent customers. In my experience, the
        assistants in those shops tend to be very reassuring and very helpful,
        especially to newcomers.)

        Hope this helps.



        ----- Original Message -----
        Date: Fri, 16 Aug 2002 16:05:03 -0000
        From: "grlysmiles" <grlysmiles@...>
        Subject: very strange
        |
        | My boyfriend has been having dreams for the past two weeks very
        | night about being an infant. In the dreams he looks like himself (a
        | 21 year old boy) but wears diapers and I (his girlfriend (21)) take
        | care of him. Feed him, change his diaper, coo and giggle at him and
        | then the dream concludes with very sexual relations. He has told me
        | about these and feels they are simply fantasies and wants me to act
        | them out with him and I have absolutely no desire to ever cross
        | those lines with him or anyone else. To me it is possibly a sign of
        | some subconscious issues that need resolved and not a fantasy at
        | all. Could someone add some insight or advice to this situation?
        |
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