Pilgrimage India, Ch 5, a.
- Pilgrimage India, 5a.
Association with Wise Friends
We read in the ³Gradual Sayings² , Book of the Fours, Ch XXV, § 6, Growth in
wisdom, that the Buddha said:
Monks, these four states conduce to growth in wisdom.
Association with a good man, hearing the true Dhamma, right attention and
practice in accordance with the Dhamma.
Association with a good friend in Dhamma is one of the conditions for
enlightenment. A good friend in Dhamma is a person who understands Dhamma
correctly and can explain it. It is very fortunate that Acharn Sujin is our
good friend in Dhamma who reminds us all the time of the meaning of anattå.
We continue to take all dhammas for ³self² if right understanding of them
is not developed. When kusala citta arises we are likely to take this for
³my kusala² or we may think of ourselves as being a good person, and that is
conceit. When akusala citta arises we may have aversion about it or be
ashamed about it, and we fail to see it as merely an impersonal element that
arises because of its own conditions. There can be mindfulness and
understanding of whatever dhamma appears without any selection of the object
One of my friends, Khun Purani, told me that her father, after the passing
away of her mother, was inconsolable and desperate. Khun Purani told me how
much Khun Sujin and other friends had supported him during the days
preceding the cremation of her mother. Acharn Sujin spoke about the Dhamma
right in front of the coffin. Formerly Khun Purani¹s father did not have
much interest in the Buddha¹s teachings, but the support of the good friends
in Dhamma helped him to have more confidence in the teachings. Khun Purani
could persuade him to join our pilgrimage and day by day we could see how he
changed. It was like a miracle. The Dhamma can change a person¹s life.