111[DhammaStudyGroup] Re: Helping elderly parents
- Feb 3, 2000
>I, too, had a lot of dilemmas and difficulties in this regard when myOur limit is the maximum drive we are capable of to fulfill our lobha. And
>parents were having a lot of marital problems and when my father became
>alcoholic. I still have a feeling (or rather thoughts) of conventional
>failure in this regard. Sometimes we try to do more than >we're>really up
>to and not realistic about our limits. But what are these >limits? What is
failure is dosa, due to unfulfilled lobha.
Trying to do more than we�re really up to and not being realistic about our
limits is due to excessive lobha. A very common state of mind, as are
thoughts of failure of regret.
Our limits and our successes and failures are just thinking (a story), due
to the rising and falling away of cita/cetasika. Every moment has its
characteristic that can be known and the story that they are creating
distracts from knowing the moment for what it is. If the moments of dosa or
lobha etc. do not arise, then how can there be contemplation and eventual
understanding of their characteristics? The stories that cita/cetasiaka
create can be confusing, the characteristics of each moment are not. Is the
answer found in manipulating the story to make it different from what it is
or understand the moments ( kusala or akusala) that create the story?
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