Re: [Covenanted Reformation] Trying to help catch someone...
I am beyond adolescence, but this was edifying!
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From: "thebishopsdoom" <email@example.com>
Sent: Thursday, February 27, 2003 5:13 AM
Subject: [Covenanted Reformation] Trying to help catch someone...
> I am posting this for a certain young lurker on this forum who
> appears to be quite depressed, and has left signs of his calling out
> in desperation. I am not sure what words to say. But I will try to
> say something. I don't even know if this certain young man will see
> this message, I am only praying that you do, and that it might be of
> some help or encouragement in your hour of distress.
> First, it is not unusual for a young man to struggle in their
> entrance in towards adulthood with difficulties. Raging hormones,
> differences in perception between parents and children about how
> mature the child is or differences of opinion on certain things, and
> various crises that hit everyone at that age. When other problems are
> added to it, things can seem really bad. I went thru depression in my
> youth, and know of others on this list who did as well. Some perhaps
> a little, some perhaps real bad. There are people here in this very
> forum representative of outcast "nerds," broken homes, living with
> domestic violence, and any number of other things who understand to
> some degree or another what it is like to suffer and to question
> where their life is headed and what to do with a life they believe at
> the present is but a mess. It is true that people are individuals.
> There is something "existential" to suffering. What I mean is that
> people going thru the same things don't always expeience them the
> same (in terms of how well they are able to deal with them, how they
> are affected and effected by them, etc.). So I don't think anyone
> will pretend to know "exactly" what it is like to be you going thru
> the exact set of circumstances you are going through, with the exact
> same prior life experiences as you have. We are all different. And
> yet there is much similarity in the human experience. And from that,
> we are able to reach out with the Lord's help and grace, to others,
> and minister unto them, even as others and the Lord ministered unto
> us (2 Cor. 1:2-6).
> Let me assure you, youth passes. High school for me was terrible. I
> didn't know how I'd ever make it thru the next few years. But I did,
> and as much as the memories sometimes hurt me, in the end, those few
> years passed much more quickly in retrospect than I had feared would
> be the "endless agony" and things got better. I made a life for
> myself. While many of us don't know exactly the extent of what you
> are going thru right now or what is on your mind, we can encourage
> you. We've all had rough times, and made it thru. This is a time of
> temptation - when it seems you are tempted to just give up on God and
> react according to the sinful dictates of the flesh. That is a great
> temptation for someone going thru depression. Sometimes it is a
> lesson for us - and a hard one for some, whereby God uses situations
> in our lives, and pulls back just enough restarining grace, that we
> may catch a glimpse of the awful sinner that we are and would be but
> for the grace of God in our lives. But rest assured that when He does
> so, He has not left us without His word, that if you confess your
> sins and trust upon Jesus Christ, God is faithful and just to forgive
> our sins, and He shall sanctify us yet more, and He can make us
> stronger thru the trials. So if you have found yourself feeling like
> you've sunk into depths of your own heart that you never knew, and
> that looking at that seed of corruption in you, it fightens you of
> knowing the heart of man, rest asured that God knew about all of that
> in man, and it did not keep Him from sending us Jesus to help us, to
> heal us, to save us. We would all do well to consider how much the
> Lord's grace is upon us, and how boundless and matchless is His love
> towards sinners such as us. And we must be careful that as we pray
> for healing, we not pray one thing with our mouths, then forget it
> and work contrary to our prayers with our deeds. When I was
> depressed, I kept saying I wanted to get better. But in time, it was
> apparent I was not wanting to get better until things changed,
> because things were "unfair" and I deserved pity, and it really
> worked against me and helped me plunge deeper into the depths of
> depression. Not that people shouldn't at times be pitied, but the
> person to be pitied must beware not to love it so much as to refuse
> to get better. If you are depressed, there is among some a tendency
> to lean immediately upon the Lord. And this is good, and part of what
> God puts people thru such trials for, to bring them closer to Him.
> But to others, it is a temptation to wallow in self absorbtion, and
> to either ignore God or to lash out at God (who has the more cause to
> lash out at us than we at Him - if we got what we deserved, we'd all
> simply be born in hell). Either way, its bad news, because we find
> ourselves too easily swayed by the flesh. Keep up your prayers, kid.
> And hang in there, because when you are young, a few years, a few
> months, even a few days can seem like "forever" to you, but when you
> get on a bit in years, you are surprised how quickly they have past,
> and how resilient a man can be to bouncing back from difficult
> situations with the help of the Lord on their side. Tremble in your
> anger, but depart from sin. Eat right, even if you don't feel like
> eating. Poor eating can make your body feel worse, and that can
> trigger the physical sensation of that depressed feeling just
> intensify. Keep active. I'm not saying be a workaholic to ignore your
> problems, but sometimes depressed people like to spend time all alone
> laying in their bed crying and wallowing in their situation. Be
> careful about this. Obviously, some times such an outlet is simply
> natural, but there is that which would rather wallow than recover,
> and that is what you need to watch for. Industry also tends to keep
> the mind off of things, at least to some extent. Be frequent in the
> Psalms. Thru your day try to take time to think about Jesus. Remember
> that He was a man of sorrows. He understands. He left His throne in
> heaven to go thru pain, humiliation, rejection, taunting, torture,
> the cross - as a token of His love. As something He was willing to do
> to save sinners. Sinners like me. Sinners like you. Keep Him close to
> your heart. Especially when you find yourself tempted into despair
> and to fall into lashing out in sin. Then especially, think about
> I'm not going to pretend that this short note will make your life
> suddenly change and be a bed of roses in a day. But it may encourage
> you to strive forward, to lean upon Christ, and to keep the faith,
> and not to let anger and depression become a snare to pull you into
> the flesh and to sink into the mire of man's depraved self.
> At this point, I'm not sure what else to say. Be assured that you are
> being prayed for.
> I will be reposting a section from Samuel Rutherfurd's THE TRIAL &
> TRIUMPH OF FAITH: OR An Exposition of the History
> of Christ's dispossessing of the daughter of the woman of Canaan,
> from a previous post, in hopes that if you did not read it, perhaps
> you might glance over at least some of it, and find it to be of help.
> May the Lord keep you, and may He that is the Light of the world
> shine upon you with some meaure of the brightness of the countenance
> of His love, even behind a frowning providence.
> "Come all ye that are heavy laden, and I will give you rest."
> "For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy
> to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us." (Rom.
> "Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? [shall] tribulation,
> or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or
> sword? As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long;
> we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. Nay, in all these things
> we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. For I am
> persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor
> principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,
> Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to
> separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
> (Rom. 8:35-37).
> Sorry that this is just a quick note and may sound like its an offer
> at "simple 1-2-3 solutions." I'm not claiming to offer a quick fix.
> What I am offering is my brotherhood, my prayers, a few hints of
> guidance and encouragement, and a calling to you to hold out and hang
> in there.
> Peace, brother.
> I love you, man.
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