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  • Gary Gearon
    John, I am beyond adolescence, but this was edifying! Gary ... From: thebishopsdoom To:
    Message 1 of 1 , Feb 27, 2003
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      I am beyond adolescence, but this was edifying!

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      From: "thebishopsdoom" <no_reply@yahoogroups.com>
      To: <covenantedreformationclub@yahoogroups.com>
      Sent: Thursday, February 27, 2003 5:13 AM
      Subject: [Covenanted Reformation] Trying to help catch someone...

      > I am posting this for a certain young lurker on this forum who
      > appears to be quite depressed, and has left signs of his calling out
      > in desperation. I am not sure what words to say. But I will try to
      > say something. I don't even know if this certain young man will see
      > this message, I am only praying that you do, and that it might be of
      > some help or encouragement in your hour of distress.
      > First, it is not unusual for a young man to struggle in their
      > entrance in towards adulthood with difficulties. Raging hormones,
      > differences in perception between parents and children about how
      > mature the child is or differences of opinion on certain things, and
      > various crises that hit everyone at that age. When other problems are
      > added to it, things can seem really bad. I went thru depression in my
      > youth, and know of others on this list who did as well. Some perhaps
      > a little, some perhaps real bad. There are people here in this very
      > forum representative of outcast "nerds," broken homes, living with
      > domestic violence, and any number of other things who understand to
      > some degree or another what it is like to suffer and to question
      > where their life is headed and what to do with a life they believe at
      > the present is but a mess. It is true that people are individuals.
      > There is something "existential" to suffering. What I mean is that
      > people going thru the same things don't always expeience them the
      > same (in terms of how well they are able to deal with them, how they
      > are affected and effected by them, etc.). So I don't think anyone
      > will pretend to know "exactly" what it is like to be you going thru
      > the exact set of circumstances you are going through, with the exact
      > same prior life experiences as you have. We are all different. And
      > yet there is much similarity in the human experience. And from that,
      > we are able to reach out with the Lord's help and grace, to others,
      > and minister unto them, even as others and the Lord ministered unto
      > us (2 Cor. 1:2-6).
      > Let me assure you, youth passes. High school for me was terrible. I
      > didn't know how I'd ever make it thru the next few years. But I did,
      > and as much as the memories sometimes hurt me, in the end, those few
      > years passed much more quickly in retrospect than I had feared would
      > be the "endless agony" and things got better. I made a life for
      > myself. While many of us don't know exactly the extent of what you
      > are going thru right now or what is on your mind, we can encourage
      > you. We've all had rough times, and made it thru. This is a time of
      > temptation - when it seems you are tempted to just give up on God and
      > react according to the sinful dictates of the flesh. That is a great
      > temptation for someone going thru depression. Sometimes it is a
      > lesson for us - and a hard one for some, whereby God uses situations
      > in our lives, and pulls back just enough restarining grace, that we
      > may catch a glimpse of the awful sinner that we are and would be but
      > for the grace of God in our lives. But rest assured that when He does
      > so, He has not left us without His word, that if you confess your
      > sins and trust upon Jesus Christ, God is faithful and just to forgive
      > our sins, and He shall sanctify us yet more, and He can make us
      > stronger thru the trials. So if you have found yourself feeling like
      > you've sunk into depths of your own heart that you never knew, and
      > that looking at that seed of corruption in you, it fightens you of
      > knowing the heart of man, rest asured that God knew about all of that
      > in man, and it did not keep Him from sending us Jesus to help us, to
      > heal us, to save us. We would all do well to consider how much the
      > Lord's grace is upon us, and how boundless and matchless is His love
      > towards sinners such as us. And we must be careful that as we pray
      > for healing, we not pray one thing with our mouths, then forget it
      > and work contrary to our prayers with our deeds. When I was
      > depressed, I kept saying I wanted to get better. But in time, it was
      > apparent I was not wanting to get better until things changed,
      > because things were "unfair" and I deserved pity, and it really
      > worked against me and helped me plunge deeper into the depths of
      > depression. Not that people shouldn't at times be pitied, but the
      > person to be pitied must beware not to love it so much as to refuse
      > to get better. If you are depressed, there is among some a tendency
      > to lean immediately upon the Lord. And this is good, and part of what
      > God puts people thru such trials for, to bring them closer to Him.
      > But to others, it is a temptation to wallow in self absorbtion, and
      > to either ignore God or to lash out at God (who has the more cause to
      > lash out at us than we at Him - if we got what we deserved, we'd all
      > simply be born in hell). Either way, its bad news, because we find
      > ourselves too easily swayed by the flesh. Keep up your prayers, kid.
      > And hang in there, because when you are young, a few years, a few
      > months, even a few days can seem like "forever" to you, but when you
      > get on a bit in years, you are surprised how quickly they have past,
      > and how resilient a man can be to bouncing back from difficult
      > situations with the help of the Lord on their side. Tremble in your
      > anger, but depart from sin. Eat right, even if you don't feel like
      > eating. Poor eating can make your body feel worse, and that can
      > trigger the physical sensation of that depressed feeling just
      > intensify. Keep active. I'm not saying be a workaholic to ignore your
      > problems, but sometimes depressed people like to spend time all alone
      > laying in their bed crying and wallowing in their situation. Be
      > careful about this. Obviously, some times such an outlet is simply
      > natural, but there is that which would rather wallow than recover,
      > and that is what you need to watch for. Industry also tends to keep
      > the mind off of things, at least to some extent. Be frequent in the
      > Psalms. Thru your day try to take time to think about Jesus. Remember
      > that He was a man of sorrows. He understands. He left His throne in
      > heaven to go thru pain, humiliation, rejection, taunting, torture,
      > the cross - as a token of His love. As something He was willing to do
      > to save sinners. Sinners like me. Sinners like you. Keep Him close to
      > your heart. Especially when you find yourself tempted into despair
      > and to fall into lashing out in sin. Then especially, think about
      > Jesus.
      > I'm not going to pretend that this short note will make your life
      > suddenly change and be a bed of roses in a day. But it may encourage
      > you to strive forward, to lean upon Christ, and to keep the faith,
      > and not to let anger and depression become a snare to pull you into
      > the flesh and to sink into the mire of man's depraved self.
      > At this point, I'm not sure what else to say. Be assured that you are
      > being prayed for.
      > I will be reposting a section from Samuel Rutherfurd's THE TRIAL &
      > TRIUMPH OF FAITH: OR An Exposition of the History
      > of Christ's dispossessing of the daughter of the woman of Canaan,
      > from a previous post, in hopes that if you did not read it, perhaps
      > you might glance over at least some of it, and find it to be of help.
      > May the Lord keep you, and may He that is the Light of the world
      > shine upon you with some meaure of the brightness of the countenance
      > of His love, even behind a frowning providence.
      > "Come all ye that are heavy laden, and I will give you rest."
      > "For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy
      > to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us." (Rom.
      > 8:18).
      > "Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? [shall] tribulation,
      > or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or
      > sword? As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long;
      > we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. Nay, in all these things
      > we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. For I am
      > persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor
      > principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,
      > Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to
      > separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
      > (Rom. 8:35-37).
      > Sorry that this is just a quick note and may sound like its an offer
      > at "simple 1-2-3 solutions." I'm not claiming to offer a quick fix.
      > What I am offering is my brotherhood, my prayers, a few hints of
      > guidance and encouragement, and a calling to you to hold out and hang
      > in there.
      > Peace, brother.
      > I love you, man.
      > -thebishopsdoom
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