An in-depth look at why men cheat by Cody G. Carson
- Why Most Guys Are Cheating Womanizers That Breakup With You Shortly
After You Start Putting Out
Girls, you may have heard some of this from other girls before, but
this is your opportunity to get a man's perspective on cheating.
First I want to say that his dishonorable conduct is NOT your fault.
He did not cheat on you because YOU were not enough for him. He did
not break up with you because you were unable to keep him pleased.
Yes, that subject will come up when you confront him, because he
knows that is how you will feel. You are a woman, designed to
nurture, and it is natural for you to take on the blame for
the "mistakes" of others.
If he can convince you that you somehow share the blame, then he
does not have to face what he has done. He can justify it in his own
mind, and if he can make you feel sorry enough about what has
happened, he can give you one last tear jerking, bitter sweet
bedroom encounter before he leaves you for the next girl. If you
think you have anything at all to do with his cheating, then he can
play you again and again and it will be difficult to get out of that
Today's postmodern culture is lead mostly by the liberal media
(including Hollywood celebrity role models) and it does more to
raise kids than parents who focus on their careers. One of the
effects has been that young girls feel the need to compete with
female movie stars in the areas of physical beauty and sexuality.
Most of these celebrities began their careers in the upper echelon
of facial beauty, have spent thousands of dollars on their figures,
and wear clothing that shows every dollar invested. How can the
average girl compete with a Hollywood standard?
Today's girls also read magazines that focus on perfecting their
superficial qualities and they receive little (if any) positive
affirmation from their fathers. This reinforces a belief that their
self-esteem is linked to competitive beauty and the ability to
attract men. They feel spiritually empty if they do not have a
boyfriend. These girls dress and act like the sex symbols they
idolize and can link their quality of life with the quality of a
relationship to a boy that is based on physical attraction. This
leaves her wide open for disaster because although she craves an
emotional bond with him, her skills of attraction have been
developed and focused on sexual arousal and performance.
Because of how the female mind operates, intimacy is an integral
part of the sex act. To her, opening her body to a boy is an act of
trust and an intimate invitation to the emotional bonding she needs.
However, with the way a boy's mind works, sex can be (and often is)
a superficial, recreational activity that can be compared to
conquest and conquer. If she has not built the emotional bond with
him prior to having sex, he can skip the bonding process all
together and enjoy the sexual encounters with her exclusively as
physical and visual experiences.
Today's boys are also imprinted by the unrealistic standard of
beauty set by Hollywood celebrities. The postmodern culture has
taught that morality is relative - "What's right for me is right for
me, and what's right for you is right for you." "Truth is relative;
there is no real truth." It has also taught that sex is a legitimate
form of recreation- "friends with benefits."
The philosophy of evolution has programmed his mind to think, "We
are all just animals," "nothing really matters," "the quality of my
life is the sum of my experiences."
These philosophies working together produce a mindset that life is
the fulfillment of his desires from a "Me" perspective: When hungry
eat. When sleepy sleep. When aroused have sex.
Porn teaches guys that variety is good, that men know more about
what a woman needs sexually than she does, and that even in a rape
situation the woman enjoys it. Therefore, date rape drugs, getting
her drunk or high, is fair play.
According to porn, if she lets him get to third base, she really
wants it to be a home run; it is an invitation to be as persistent
as it takes to get sex even if it means holding her arms and forcing
his way in. To him it's not rape; it has all been rationalized in
relative truth that she is just pretending so he won't think she is
cheap. He can justify it by believing that she enjoyed the
experience even if she cannot admit it to herself. To him, the proof
of her real need for forced sex was in allowing him to get to third
base and teasing his desires to the point of "loosing self control."
According to relative truth, even if she convinces him at the last
moment that his entry will be unwelcome, his reasoning can be that
she is in the wrong for building up his desires without providing a
release. To him she is in the wrong and he is justified to proceed.
To understand this, consider that a person's actions are a result of
a person's thoughts. Thoughts are a result of core beliefs
(worldview) as influenced by environment, peers, needs and emotions.
The core belief structure, however, is the strongest governor of
actions. People, who believe that they are animals, will indeed act
Today's girls need a committed relationship from her boy, and
today's boys want a variety of beautiful sex partners. This means
that if the girl will only have sex with her boyfriend, then
becoming her boyfriend is what the boy will do in his conquest to
Through trial and error, he learns to be a very convincing actor. He
only lets her see his nice guy side until he has won her as his
prize and has satisfied his desires. Since his goal was to get sex,
the relationship is built on a lie (that he feels does not really
exist since truth is relative). If another girl will sleep with him
while he is in the "commitment", then he will. If he needs to tell
more lies to cover it no problem. After sex with his girlfriend
has become routine, he breaks up. If she hangs on to him, he becomes
a real jerk. This, like the nice guy, is a character that he plays
to make her let go with less drama and share as much blame as
As her spirit darkens and her hope fades, she looses her self-esteem
and therefore lowers her standards somehow thinking she can't get
any better. After jerk one is gone, she finds that jerk two is an
ever bigger jerk. Jerk three is even worse. By the time jerk four
has come along and seduced her on a one night stand, she realizes
that two years ago, she would not have been interested in dating a
guy like that and would never have slept with him. She can
eventually give up inside and get passed from player to player with
no hope. When she gets tired of the pain, she may choose to become a
lesbian to protect herself from another man's sting. Her soul then
becomes hollow as she tries to find her self-esteem in the arms of
another broken woman.
Behind the Scenes
The codependent dysfunctional relationships between today's boys and
girls work exactly as they have been designed by the architects of
the postmodern worldview. After sixty years of mass media and
government ideological infiltration, the fruits of their labor are
maturing. This worldview was constructed by liberal atheists for the
purpose of disempowering and replacing the biblical worldview that
founded the United States of America.
The Problem with America and Christianity
The U.S. has been the primary target of ideological attack from many
different anti-Christian, anti-Semitic, and anti-capitalist cultures
for over a hundred years because it has been the evangelical
Christian influence of the world which protects Israel from Islamic
aggressors and propagates capitalism and freedom.
The biblical worldview is so threatening to so many other types of
ideologies, that there has been a mergence of many opposing special
interest groups and ideological views around the same core - the
hatred of conservative evangelical Christianity. An example of this
is the alliance of the pornographic industry with the feminist
movement. Editors of Porn magazines claim to be feminists yet
publish material from the male dominant viewpoint. The pornographic
industry exploits women, propagates rapists, and fuels the lust that
spreads sex trafficking. Meanwhile, the feminist movement degrades
men, denies gender roles, and its extremists view all heterosexual
sex that involves some seduction or persuasion as a mild form of
rape. Yet, both the feminists and the pornographers sell the same
lie that porn, "frees women." The feminist movement turns a blind
eye to the many incidences of rape that occur during the production
of pornographic movies and during adult photo shoots.
The strategy of the anti-Christian allies of the postmodern
worldview is to weaken the civilization of the United States by
destroying its foundation: the family. Pornography, feminism, and
the radical homosexual movement march relentlessly against the
strength and definition of marriage. After years of fighting,
conservative evangelical Christians are now loosing the culture war
in America and because of that, the morality of its citizens as a
whole is in a state of decline. Thus the statement, "where have all
the good men gone?"
Girls, you can see by the condition of your heart and the hearts of
your girlfriends that this replacement worldview is not working. You
may not have luck finding a good man today in America because they
have been raised by today's conventional "wisdom." However, you
girls will one day become mothers. You can choose to let things
continue as they are or you can stand against today's alliance of
anti-Christian ideologies. You can raise your kids with a biblical
worldview; It teaches that there is truth, there is right and wrong
and that people were created by a loving God and are expected to act
according to the morality that God made. Men should love, honor,
cherish and protect women. A man should be faithful to the woman he
is with. She is his friend and has equal value as a human. The bible
teaches that sexual experiences are for husbands and wives to enjoy
for intimacy and pleasure. It teaches that women are not the sex
toys of men; it teaches honor, respect and integrity.
The bible provided the foundation of morality that ended slavery and
influenced the cause for equal woman's rights.Please do not take my
word for it I'm just a guy; start visiting any conservative
evangelical Christian church that teaches the bible as the Word of
God and as a literal history book and you will hear the same
I wish I could say that all men who have been brought up by the
Christian Church are faithful and truthful all the time; however,
there are many complicated factors that can cause a person to live
in contradiction to their own morals. A few of these include:
addiction, depression, hunger, discouragement, anger, rebellion, and
fear. However, a person's life tends to follow their core beliefs. A
person's worldview is like the rudder on a ship that guides him or
her through the storms and currents of life. The influence of
circumstance may blow that life temporarily off course; the current
of temptation or addiction may point it to an undesirable heading,
but the rudder will eventually guide it back onto the course set by
the worldview. It is logical and statistically proven that the
biblical worldview produces happier, more faithful, more truthful,
longer living, better providing men, who make better fathers than
does the postmodern worldview.
The postmodern world view teaches that parents should let children
discover their own values. This is taught, because the values
desired by the postmodern worldview are being indoctrinated to
today's children in the schools and through the liberal media.
What world will your daughter grow up in, and what kind of man will
your son become? You, as a mother, will have the ability to teach
the values of your choice to your kids. That is unless the designers
of the postmodern worldview achieve their eventual goals to
institutionalize childcare under the guise to free up parents for
the pursuit of their own careers without the kid factor interfering.
At that point, states' rights will trump parental rights and the
children will be spoon fed whatever ideology the institutions decide
is best for ridding the world of marriage, the family, Christianity,
Israel, capitalism and freedom.
It is now the time for all mothers and future mothers to fight for
their right to shape the next generation by being proactive with
instilling their own pro-family values into their kids, or the hand
that rocks the cradle will soon be the state that rules the world.
By Cody G. Carson
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Future Article: How to Find a Good Man in a Bad World
- I assume this will be followed with an article on
why women lie and cheat to men.
I have never been the type of man as represented by
this article, and I resent the implication that I am.
My friends are not like this, either. There are bad
and evil men in the world, but to imply that all or
even the majority of them are is stupid and crass.
Canadian Progressive Music Society
Read my writing at:
- I'm inclined to agree.
On Tue, Dec 2, 2008 at 12:30 PM, Doug LeBlanc <fraiswe@...> wrote:
> I assume this will be followed with an article on
> why women lie and cheat to men.
> I have never been the type of man as represented by
> this article, and I resent the implication that I am.
> My friends are not like this, either. There are bad
> and evil men in the world, but to imply that all or
> even the majority of them are is stupid and crass.
> Doug LeBlanc
> Canadian Progressive Music Society
> Read my writing at:
Cody G. Carson
This article is a degrading misrepresentation and generalization of the objective purpose of a relationship between a man and woman. It represents a single atheistic carnal point of view, with total disregard to the main purpose of human love.
To present the reason, that it is not the woman's fault, why men cheat on them after they have had a sexual encounter, is plain Wrong! It is equally their both their faults! The objective of a relationship should be based on love and respect, for each other. To entice; promote; encourage or seduce a person into a sexual encounter, before marriage, is not love, but rather a selfish, harmful and destructive motive.
As for today's postmodern culture, which is lead mostly by the liberal media and celebrities is but a small cause of our cultural demise. The main cause is the lack of parental teaching and spiritual guidance as you have written in your article. Boys and girls, who have not received religious instructions and The Holy Sacraments, are most likely to live a life, of low self-esteem.
The evils of our time have existed since the time of Adam and Eve. The sinful evils of Satan are well imbued on mankind, when we live by the Flesh. Murder, rape; homosexuality; incest; thief; etc are but a few examples. But, by God's mercy we were given a Redeemer and Commandments, by which we live a life of Faith in the Love of God; Hope in our salvation of our Souls and Charity to love one another. It is therefore important to live by the Spirit, which free us from the corruption of our sinful souls. Anything, other than that is self-destructive.