Children recovering from neglect and/or abuse
I am hoping for some feedback to some social situations with young
children - I'd like some comments on anthroposophical ways to approach
some situations in regards to caring for a young child (say 2 to 5
years old) who has previously suffered from neglect and/or abuse (ok -
some people say neglect is a form of abuse).
The behaviours that I've been considering are given below - and they
are specifically in relation to a child who has previously suffered
1) the child is stealing
my suggestion is to give the child some responsibility, for
example, the ownership of a puppy or kitten, and/or be given some
chores (like take the bin out or feed the dog) and the child is given
pocket money for doing chores and can buy his/her own things from this
2) the child runs away
my suggestion is to ask the child to help design his/her room, that
is to pick out a new bedspread, new curtains etc - go shopping
together to get them - have the child help to put the up - to choose
paint for the book shelf and toy shelves and have them help to paint
3) the child has temper tantrums
my suggestion is that during the temper tantrums - to hold the
child close until they are calm.
But in the mean time to buy musical instruments that can be banged and
4) the child keeps setting fires and/or playing with matches
my suggestion is to buy a remote control boat and go down to the
lake or the river or the dam a lot.
a friend of mine suggested - just letting them play with fire (in a
controlled setting) and let him/her get it out of their system.
5)the child keeps telling lies
i don't have suggestions for this??
If you have comments about these - or feedback, please reply.