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  • Mike Gothard
    Sep 14, 2007
      Hi all,

      This has been a most intriguing dialogue, though seemingly one-sided until
      now. It's interesting that we discuss the minutest of minutia regarding
      Don - his life, his art, his habits, his history - and then we feign
      disinterest in this one area of his life as though a discussion would in
      some way tarnish his image. We spend time trying to figure out what he ate
      for breakfast on a trip to California on a specific day of the year; seems
      something as pervasive as his sexual orientation would not just be as
      important but even more so given the fact that it shaped him far more than
      whether he ate bran or blueberry muffins on Thursday, April 3, 1924. I
      agree that in the big scheme of things it really doesn't matter. But
      neither does so much else of what we speculate and research about his life.
      We all respect his work or we probably wouldn't ponder, diagogue, and lurk
      here searching for answers and points of interest if we were apt to pass
      judgment.

      With that said, thanks, Michael, for continuing to probe with academic
      integrity. And thanks, Keith, for shedding light on this and so many other
      facets of Mr. Blanding's life.

      Have a great weekend all,
      Mike


      ----- Original Message -----
      From: "Linda Allred" <linall9@...>
      To: <aloha-donblanding@yahoogroups.com>
      Sent: Friday, September 14, 2007 12:16 AM
      Subject: Re: [aloha-donblanding] Re: Curious


      > I, personally, don't see that it matters and wouldn't want to spend the
      > time trying to figure it out. What he's given to the world says enough as
      > to what kind of man he was. Linda
      >
      >
      > ----- Original Message ----
      > From: keith2draw <keith2draw@...>
      > To: aloha-donblanding@yahoogroups.com
      > Sent: Thursday, September 13, 2007 10:41:53 PM
      > Subject: [aloha-donblanding] Re: Curious
      >
      > Michael,
      >
      > This board has had conversations on this subject many times over the past
      > 7-8 years, and
      > the conclusion that we have reached is that we just don't know. He had a
      > very public
      > personna, but he was in fact a very private person. His close friends were
      > very protective
      > of his privacy and he lived in a time where sexual preferences were not
      > openly talked
      > about.
      >
      > He definately had girlfriends and was engaged to be married on at least
      > three
      > occasions... and did get married once, which ended in divorce after only a
      > few years.
      >
      > He had male companions too, for lengths of time, which seem to be more
      > intimate than
      > would be normal for a mere friendship. They too didn't last very long
      > though.
      >
      > So the feeling is that he was probably bi-sexual, but that he was not able
      > to committ to
      > relationships for more than a year or two.
      >
      > I have been researching Don personally for almost a decade now, and I have
      > read
      > hundereds of letters to and from him; read hundreds of articles and dozens
      > of interviews;
      > met and talked to people who knew him; and I can honestly say I have never
      > seen any
      > evidence that would point one way or another as to his sexual orientation.
      >
      > And the consensus amoung us is that it doesn't really matter one way or
      > another anyway.
      > He is defined by his verse, his art, and his many creative pursuits...and
      > not by his love life,
      > or lack thereof.
      >
      > Keith Emmons
      >
      > --- In aloha-donblanding@ yahoogroups. com, "canoeist35" <canoeist35@ ...>
      > wrote:
      >>
      >> I'm surprised to see that no one replied to my previous post
      >> (below). Is there really nothing known by the DB aficionados in
      >> this forum on such a fundamental aspect of his life? Or is this
      >> possibly another case of people not wanting to discuss the subject?
      >> That would seem the ultimate disrespect to DB, though, so I'm at a
      >> loss on the silence here. Not one person had a reply to make on
      >> this?
      >>
      >> Michael
      >>
      >>
      >>
      >> --- In aloha-donblanding@ yahoogroups. com, "canoeist35"
      >> <canoeist35@ > wrote:
      >> >
      >> > This forum was suggested to me when I raised this general question
      >> > during some discussions of Don Blanding's Vernonware designs on
      >> > another board. I am curious about what, if anything, is known
      >> about
      >> > his broken engagement with Ruth Norton, and his divorce from the
      >> > Binney woman (whose full name I forget right now). Reading
      >> through
      >> > the biographical material I've been able to find, including the
      >> > timeline with all its details--plus a dozen or so of the poems--I
      >> > did get occasional impressions of elements that were sometimes
      >> parts
      >> > of a closeted life. Is there anything definite known about Don
      >> > Blanding's intimate relationships? He wrote so eloquently of
      >> Hawaii
      >> > not merely for its beauty, but also for its value as a refuge from
      >> > the harsher world he had known. If someone were either homosexual
      >> > or sexually ambivalent, the change from Oklahoma, say, to the
      >> > tolerance and relaxed atmosphere he described in Hawaii would
      >> > certainly have seemed that much more like paradise. Are there any
      >> > known facts that would establish an answer to that issue quite
      >> > plainly, one way or the other? It would certainly seem like there
      >> > must be such facts on record somewhere. Yet the overall
      >> impression
      >> > I've received (to date) is one of pure mystery.
      >> >
      >> > Michael
      >> >
      >>
      >
      >
      >
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