Some thoughts from GraceWatcher - 3-30-2006
- Being Aware of Our Gift
Each of us has the opportunity to accept and welcome the gift of
living fully in the present. When we awaken to the eternal here and
now, we feel alive, mobilized, our senses quickened. Each moment fully
experienced becomes an integral part of the sculpting of our future.
As we live today, we create our tomorrows.
Today we may choose to be happy, cheerful and kind, to do our creative
best at work, to relax in play. We may embrace life, accept and learn
from the good and the not-so-good moments, appreciate and understand
our family, friends and colleagues and support and forgive one another
when difficulties arise.
All of these choices represent a creative way of living the fullness
of our day. When we spend a day that way, we feel great when we go to
bed. We have done our part to create a happy, productive tomorrow.
By contrast, if we spend the day grumbling, groaning, sad, depressed,
resentful, withdrawn, fearful or angry, we're not having a very good
today -- and we are definitely not creating a good tomorrow.
Think about it. We are offered many choices. We choose how we perceive
and handle life's happenings. We choose how we want to respond to each
experience in our life. With every choice we carve another aspect of
Pain as an Essential Inner Teacher
We can actually reach a point where a sudden happening and the
accompanying loss or pain is not such a big deal. We accept that pain
is simply a part of life. We cut our finger, and it heals. We lose
friends and gain new ones. We smart from the hurt of someone's unkind
action and either work it out with that person or decide to let it go.
Wounds, losses, pain -- yes, they do hurt, but pain itself is a part
of the healing process.
Think of people who are born without pain receptors, who do not feel
pain. They often injure their bodies terribly. They can put their hand
on a hot stove and not feel it and come away with the tissue totally
burned. So pain is a teacher; pain is a warning; pain is a signal.
It's a type of inner radar that says, "Hey, there's something
happening you need to pay attention to."
As the Tibetan Master, Djwal Kul, once said, "Pain has no dominion
over you, but pain is an essential teacher.... Embrace her, move
through her, beyond her and find your manifest reality."'
When we are faced with pain, we may choose to explore it, to
understand it and to learn the soul lesson inherent in it. The secret
is keeping our heart open. Think of the avatars and the saints. They
kept their hearts open even when they suffered great pain. Jesus and
Gautama kept their hearts open. Padre Pio, Mahatma Gandhi and Mother
Teresa kept their hearts open. We may choose to walk in their footsteps.
As we allow ourselves to realize we are wounded, to be aware of the
pain and go deeper and deeper to its source, we reach deep into the
well of our being to release old hurts, old poisons. That's why we
embrace pain. It's not because we love the fact that it hurts. Nobody
likes to hurt. But we choose to embrace pain because it's a piercing,
an opening of a wound that allows the hurtful poison to be released.
Then we can let it heal.
Think about that for a minute. Isn't it true that we tend to hold on
to what we have? Even if it's poisonous, at least it's familiar. So we
hold on to old wounds, old ideas, old grudges by thinking about them,
recreating them. Whether it is a person, a lifestyle, family, friends
or simply our way of doing things -- whatever we hold on to gives us
pain when it goes its way. When we release our attachment, we feel
surcease from the pain.
The Buddha as the Enlightened One taught nonattachment because he
understood this process. How did he get there? Through communion with
God and his determination to be awake. The Buddha said we all need to
be awake! We need to be awake to greet the new day -- with new eyes,
new perspective, new hopes and dreams.
We deny ourselves this awakened state when we stay stuck in our pain.
Our awareness doesn't extend beyond the pain and the fixed ideas we
may have about what is causing it. Or it may be that we try to hide
from our feelings, from fully experiencing the pain. When we do this,
we feel upset, tense, boxed in. Yet it is a box of our own making.
It's as if we are holding tightly to the past with our eyes firmly
shut to the present. Of course, with closed eyes, we can't see the new
day, the new opportunity, the possibility of a lesson learned, a gain
of new perspective. What to do? We may choose to open our eyes, even
as we open our hearts and turn on the awareness of our five outer
senses and our sixth sense -- our intuition.
What is intuition anyway? It's that sense of inner knowing that comes
from being "awake." Buddha's state of awakeness is not as far from our
grasp as we might think. It is the awakening of our soul to inner
perceptions, inner truths, inner wisdom. You have probably experienced
this state many times in your life without even realizing it. It's a
part of our spiritual nature that we sometimes take for granted. Life
sure is a lot easier when we allow our intuition to guide us.
Of course, this doesn't mean that difficult life situations are always
going to "come up roses." But every time we meditate, pray,
contemplate and take positive action, we learn and grow. Our victories
strengthen our faith, and defeats bring lessons our souls need to learn.
Either way, when we choose to be awake, aware and grateful in the
present moment, we offer ourselves the best opportunity for happiness
today. In so doing, we create a better tomorrow. And you know what? We
may catch a glimpse of the angels smiling.
Humor in the Ups and Downs of Life
Our sense of happiness also has to do with the way we choose to look
at misfortune. We may look only at the downside or we may choose to
discover an upside. The choice is up to us.
Do you remember the folktale of the old man whose only horse
disappeared? When his friends tried to console him, the old man said,
"How do you know this isn't a lucky omen?"
Sure enough, after several months, the lost horse came back home
accompanied by another excellent horse. Now he had two fine steeds.
When the old man's friends congratulated him on his good luck, he
replied, "How do you know that's not a bad omen?"
Sure enough! One day the old man's son fell off the horse and broke
his leg severely. It left him crippled. When the old man's friends
called to tell him how sorry they were, he responded, "How do you know
this isn't a good omen?" As the story goes, shortly after the man's
son broke his leg, all the young men in the land were ordered into the
army to fight a war far away. However, the old man's son, lame from
his accident, was spared.
We could carry this story on and on. It illustrates the ups and downs
of life, which we may view as misfortune or opportunity, depending on
the way we look at them. Some times the seemingly tragic or insolvable
dilemma of today is only a prelude to a great opportunity of tomorrow
-- especially when we choose to look at it that way.
When we accept the misfortunes of today as a potential blessing for
tomorrow, we put in motion positive energy that helps make it happen.
It's like noticing the silver lining of the clouds -- when the clouds
move on, we discover the sun has been shining brightly all the time.
In our inner world, we begin to move the storm clouds along by
focusing on loving, creative thoughts and feelings.
Another way of nurturing a hopeful attitude in the present is to keep
your sense of humor alive and well. A good laugh relaxes our body and
mind even as it lifts our spirits. A sense of humor about the slightly
ridiculous aspects of life generates laughter, and the joyful energy
of laughter brings a brighter perspective.
When we stay in the here and now of the present, we find more laughter
and fewer tears. The problem for many of us is that we bury the tears
of yesterday and carry them into our tomorrows. Instead, let's choose
to cry when we are hurt, smile when we are happy and welcome each new
day with hope and humor.
Now you might be thinking, "I don't usually wake up feeling hopeful
and humorous. In fact, until I get my first cup of coffee, it's better
if I don't talk to anybody." Let's take a look at this: You could moan
and groan all day -- especially if you discover you are out of coffee.
Or you could see the funny side of the drama: "Hmmm, here I am basing
my whole day on passing feelings and a cup of coffee. That's pretty
ridiculous!" Cartoonists are masters at taking the minor mishaps of
our lives and satirically showing us the humor of our ways.
What does it take to cultivate a sense of humor about our mishaps?
Perspective. Adopting an attitude of positive expectancy instead of
gloom and negative pronouncements.
Planting Seeds of Love and Hope
People have written and talked about this phenomenon as having a
"positive mental attitude. " I believe it is a natural law of the
universe that whatever we send out to life returns to us. We know this
from our interactions with people every day. When our heart is full of
love, everything seems to move along harmoniously. When we put out
negative vibes and verbiage, we get it right back. We would do well to
follow Thumper's advice in the movie, Bambi. "If you can't say
somethin' nice, don't say nuthin' at all!"' The lesson here: Whatever
we send out, we get back. Karma is our teacher!
Each of us puts on many faces, sometimes all in the course of a day.
We take on different outlooks depending on our circumstances,
companions, thoughts and desires. As Piero Ferucci puts it, "Life may
appear to us at any time as a routine, a dance, a race, an adventure,
a nightmare, a riddle, a merry-go-round, etc."'
In a word, we have the opportunity to see life as a cup half-full or a
cup half-empty. When we see our cup of life half-empty and draining,
we feel drained and empty. When we see our cup of life half-full and
filling, we feel energized and overflowing. It is all a matter of the
perspective we choose.