Zen and Anger
- Re Pat's story. I read it years ago and the punch line I read was, "Don't you know that before you sits a man who could let you do that!"ZEN AND ANGER.Anger is a false emotion, which becomes a false identity the basis of anger is impotency, a deep fear of one’s inability to cope. A strong man can do without anger; he will be confident of his ability to handle this situation or this person. The purpose of anger is to frighten the other by showing how tough and fierceful I am.
Maybe you could do well to remember that when next the wrathful deities of the Bardo confront you.
There are many ideas and schools of anger management but many of them are anger suppression rather than management. No therapy or anger management course can really release anger for keeps, the way Zazen can. That is my experience.
When I began, I would get anger, mainly associated with past bad experiences. The intensity wasn’t v. strong but it would hang around and I would wonder when I was going to be thru it. With practice I became less resistive and emotions would flow off faster. Then, the anger would rock in, at high intensity but go almost before I had realised it had arrived. Then there would just be continued peace and breathing.
The test is in one’s ‘real’ life. When we were first married, my wife could throw me into confusion and anger by pressing my buttons and doing things that were unfair to me. After, I would feel quite ashamed that I couldn’t control my anger. But later, I would just stand there, breathing easily and allowing her vent her emotions!
I think I should open an “Anger Management” school and make all the students do Zazen!