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326Re: anger(CHAT)

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  • Scott
    Oct 22, 2006
      Hi, Ive been away for a while. On this subject, would anyone like to
      comment/chat on the link between anger and trauma?

      Scott
      --- In U-Zendo@yahoogroups.com, Richard Horvitz <rhorvitz@...> wrote:
      >
      >
      >
      > On Sun, 13 Aug 2006, Walt Taylor wrote:
      >
      > >
      > > On Aug 13, 2006, at 7:19 PM, Richard Horvitz wrote:
      > >
      > > > Whether it would help or not to have a prohibition
      > > > against anger, I don't know.
      > >
      > > Maybe we're confusing anger with its unfettered expression. You
      can't
      > > ban anger any more than you can sexual desire. What you can do
      is
      > > exercise control over its expression, which we do all the time.
      > >
      >
      > I don't think this is totally true. Anger is largely a learned
      response.
      > If you live with people who get angry easily you are likely to do
      so also.
      > Won't being mindful of how anger arises make it less likely?
      > From another point of view, an incident of anger is a long chain
      of
      > events. First you see someone doing something, then you think
      that it is
      > contrary to your interest, or offensive to you, then you think
      that the
      > person is doing it with the intention of harming you, then you
      think about
      > how you have objected to this behavior in the past yet they are
      doing it
      > again, then your ears turn a bit red, then you swear a bit under
      your
      > breath, then you start thinking about how you might hurt them in
      return
      > (justice, if you will), then you pick up the knife and creep up
      behind
      > them, and finally you plunge it into their back. So this last
      step is
      > clearly unfettered expression, but where is the cut off? It can
      end
      > anywhere.
      >
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