318Re: [U-Zendo] anger(CHAT)
- Aug 15, 2006On Sun, 13 Aug 2006, Walt Taylor wrote:
>I don't think this is totally true. Anger is largely a learned response.
> On Aug 13, 2006, at 7:19 PM, Richard Horvitz wrote:
> > Whether it would help or not to have a prohibition
> > against anger, I don't know.
> Maybe we're confusing anger with its unfettered expression. You can't
> ban anger any more than you can sexual desire. What you can do is
> exercise control over its expression, which we do all the time.
If you live with people who get angry easily you are likely to do so also.
Won't being mindful of how anger arises make it less likely?
From another point of view, an incident of anger is a long chain of
events. First you see someone doing something, then you think that it is
contrary to your interest, or offensive to you, then you think that the
person is doing it with the intention of harming you, then you think about
how you have objected to this behavior in the past yet they are doing it
again, then your ears turn a bit red, then you swear a bit under your
breath, then you start thinking about how you might hurt them in return
(justice, if you will), then you pick up the knife and creep up behind
them, and finally you plunge it into their back. So this last step is
clearly unfettered expression, but where is the cut off? It can end
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