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    TheDailyEnlightenment.comWeekly 25/11/04 Are the Events & Notices below not relevant to you? Clutter-free TDE-Weekly International Version is now available.
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      TheDailyEnlightenment.comWeekly 25/11/04

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      Realisation:
      The Invisible Lover



      As I was walking up the stair,
      I met a man who wasn't there.
      He wasn't there again today.
      I wish, I wish he'd stay away.
      -Hughes Mearns

      I have a friend who misses an invisible lover. No, not talking about unseen spirits here. She yearns for the arrival of her ideal lover into her life. Sometimes she is optimistic of meeting this dream lover eventually. Sometimes she is wistfully unsure whether he will appear. Sometimes she wishes he never came to mind. Like the person in Mearns' poem, she lets herself be haunted by the "presence of his absence". Surreal indeed, as she searches and sees fleeting traces of him in different guys in the crowd. "So far, so bad" - she ends up disappointed each time. Much ado about nothing... and there is nothing else she can readily do to find him. As if tormented by a real lover who spurned her, she often feels incomplete and loveless.

      I didn't want to burst her bubble, to tell her she was obsessed with a "ghost lover". Afterall, there was no way to tell whether he exists. As long as she clung to him, s
      he misses the real people around her. Maybe her dream guy's appearance is not that she thinks? Maybe he looks better. Beyond looks, maybe he IS better. With her attachment to her absent love, she has become an absent person to the rest of the world. Living an "unreal" life, she herself becomes a ghost of sorts. Who are the absent people who haunt you? If mere thinking does not exorcise these ghosts or make them real, why not let them go and live fully now for those around you? The ghosts of our desires cannot be had and held. If you deserve their manifestation in real life, they will appear. In the mean time, look beyond form, for we are all physically and mentally shape-shifting beings. Just remember how many times you misjudged someone by their appearance. Just as we wouldn't like others to judge us by our appearance, let go of your preconceived ideas and see others as they are. It's only fair to everyone.

      In Buddhism, hungry ghosts represent beings who have neurotic craving for what they cannot get. Metaphorically, human "hungry ghost lovers" are those who crave for physical and spiritual fulfilment beyond themselves, seeking qualities missing in themselves in each other. Starved for love, they have forgotten that they can be complete persons in themselves. Are you living a ghostly life seeking a ghostly lover? Only you can make yourself whole. The love you have, be it from yourself or another, is spiritual only when it shows you that!
      -shian | pic: Placebo's "Sleeping with Ghosts"

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      Simply by rejoicing, without the need for extensive preparation or any special effort, you can accumulate incredible merit, incredible good karma. In one second you can accumulate merit infinite as space. If you really practice it honestly, rejoicing in others is the easiest way to accumulate extensive merit and attain ultimate happiness...

      The practice of rejoicing can prevent the arising of pride, jealousy, or anger. Whenever you hear that someone else has been successful, rejoice. Always practice rejoicing  for others - whether your friend or your "enemy" - even about samsaric success. For example, when you hear that someone has been successful in business, you should rejoice. When you hear that someone has found a partner, again rejoice. You should think "How wonderful it is that they have found the happiness they were seeking!" Practice feeling as happy for others as you do for yourself. In other words, cherish others as you cherish yourself. Feel happy when others find happiness, as if you yourself had found happiness.

      If you cherish only yourself, you cannot experience happiness, but if you cherish others as you cherish yourself, happiness arises naturally... without any need to think of reasons. When something good happens to anyone, you naturally feel happy. Every positive trait is the result of past good actions, and all can be a basis for you to rejoice. When you see someone possessed of physical beauty, think: "How wonderful it is that this person has a beautiful body now as a result of practicing patience and morality in past lives."... If someone is very intelligent or has more understanding of the Dharma than you do, you can rejoice in it as well.

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