Thank you for putting forth this interesting question and giving us
the opportunity to share our feelings on this subject.
In this era, women are in the vanguard of many activities that were
not available to them in former times, and the progress they have
made in most arenas is remarkable. Sri Chinmoy has selflessly and
naturally fostered and encouraged this process.
Within the Centre many women are married, while others are single.
There is no stigma attached to either approach. With married women,
the attitude is taken that they will make progress through their
soul's connection with another person, and that they can run
together in the spiritual life with four arms and four legs. For
single women, such as myself, my personal feeling is one of
liberation. Liberation from dependence on a partner. Liberation from
society's dictates that one is incomplete without a partner and the
basic idea that the meaning of life is simply to find the perfect
relationship. Liberation from the pain of attachment,
possessiveness, expectation and demand that seems to develop so
easily in a relationship. Freedom. Freedom to express my inner
qualities without absorbing or being weighed down and shackled by
the problems of another human being in a close relationship. Freedom
to expand the love in my heart to all forms of creation rather than
focusing too much energy on a single person in a one-to-one
relationship. Freedom to experience the purity of divine love, to
strive to be united with the Supreme. The fact that in the Centre it
is fine - even positive - to be single, if that is your choice and
your preference, is in itself refreshing.
Sri Chinmoy has created a unique spiritual path with equal and
abundant opportunities for both women and men to achieve personal
growth and spiritual progress. It is a lifestyle infused with
culture and creativity, with much variety and many things to do. The
Centres around the world are quite possibly unique in that they
provide a very pure environment where people can focus on their
inner progress, as free as each individual is able to be from outer
distractions. A place where men and women can respect each other
based on their inner qualities rather than their outer appearances
and personalities, where they treat each other as brothers and
sisters and offer their higher qualities of concern, compassion, and
oneness rather than binding each other with limiting desires.
Before entering into the spiritual life I did feel incomplete. At
the time, I mistakenly thought that a relationship would fill the
void, but this only created a few more problems in my life. I was
seeking spirituality and meaning in life, and so entered into the
spiritual life, and found that void was replaced with love of God -
and the expansion of this divine love has become the goal of my
life. Seeing the expression of divine love, compassion, concern in
Sri Chinmoy serves as my inspiration. If one has not experienced
divine love it may be difficult to understand how superior it is to
ordinary human love! God loves us unconditionally and we reflect
this unconditional love back to God. Humanity has forgotten that the
world can only be transformed through pure love, that love is the
greatest power in creation. Without pure love, the brightest future
will remain a dream. With love, joy will return and joy will
transform the negative thought patterns and behaviour that devours
so much of our energy and life force.
In the world, it seems that men are releasing their hierarchies of
power and dominance, and making room for feminine softness, love,
wisdom and oneness, allowing women's natural abilities of
communication, listening, sharing and compassion to come to the
If people choose to label women in the Sri Chinmoy Centre as
repressed, etc., they are sadly mistaken with their limited
viewpoint, or perhaps they only seek to stand in the way of human
progress. Fortunately, the time has come when women - each one in
her own way - are being asked to step into the light of a new
consciousness, and to realise their most significant role...we are
ready and Sri Chinmoy will encourage us every step of the way.
Love, joy, gratitude,
--- In Sri_Chinmoy_Inspiration@yahoogroups.com
> March 8th was International Women's Day. We failed to mark the
> event, but I'm thinking maybe we should have. I would like to ask
> the women how their experience as students of Sri Chinmoy has shaped
> their lives.
> We see that in the outer world, there are so many problems with
> rape, abuse, and harassment. I get the feeling that many women stick
> close to Sri Chinmoy Centre because they feel protected there.
> Sometimes in the outer world, people make fun of women who choose
> the spiritual life, saying they are "repressed" and other unkind
> things. But I once heard an interview with a woman who said she felt
> empowered by living the spiritual life, and that the role of women
> in mainstream society has become vulgarized.
> Sometimes in life, those who are most virtuous are taunted by those
> who are most wicked, and those who are most innocent are victimized
> by those who are most guilty of wrongdoing. Recently, Johnji posted
> a poem by Sri Chinmoy called A Life of Innocence. At the time, it
> struck me that one reason people are often moved to tears when they
> meditate with Sri Chinmoy is that the consciousness he brings down
> is one which is completely pure and innocent - so much so that it
> brings forth what is pure and innocent in us, and cleans away all
> our impurities, like a mother bathing her children.
> A painful reality of life is that what is most pure and innocent is
> often what is attacked by people who have become troubled. I do not
> fully understand it - except that maybe spiritual sickness leads to
> mental sickness.
> Sometimes it seems that in the outer world, people have many strange
> ideas. They think that because someone prays and meditates and joins
> in the life of a spiritual community, that means they are "abused."
> Also, it seems that if someone leaves a spiritual group and later
> enters into therapy, there is tremendous pressure on them to conform
> to negative stereotypes about "cults." In some cases, they seem to
> make up ridiculous stories designed to please their therapist. Maybe
> this is one reason there is so much confusion about spiritual
> I would love to gain some enlightenment from the women on these
> issues. Let me play devil's advocate: Is Sri Chinmoy Centre a safe
> place for women?
> I Think I Love You
> God, I think I love You.
> "Daughter, what is the proof?"
> God, this is the proof:
> You know, God,
> I do not live with ignorance
> I do not play with doubt
> I do not cry with fear
> I do not eat with jealousy
> I do not dance with despair
> "Daughter, enough.
> You love Me
> I love you.
> Be happy. Remain happy."
> -Sri Chinmoy