Re: Visiting your relatives in Slovakia
I am glad that you took the time to post your observations. These are
all questions that I have had in the back of my mind and that I had
concerns about. Like you said, I am going there to meet and get to
know them, not come across like "Daddy Warbucks". BTW the dinner
planning is already in the works.
-World@yahoogroups.com, "Vladimir Bohinc" <konekta@n...> wrote:
> Dear Freinds,regard.
> I just can't help myself, I must say a couple of words in this
> Please, remember, that you are earning at least TEN times as muchas the people you are visitng.
> I know, it is a wonderful feeling to be like a millionaire in apoor country.Generally, in world tourism, there is a segment of
people, who visit poor countries just to experience this feeling once
in their life time.
> But, you are supposed to visit your family, that is supposed to beyour friends.
> You will make no good friends, if you will;and everything that you have ( probably not really own) back home.
> - show off with all the gadgets of this world, that money can buy
> - talk to them via a laptopAmericans are already well known here for giving away one dollar
> - believe, that they will kiss your feet for one dollar note.(
> People know of all this and will not love or admire you more forthat. It is really not neccessary the embrio of a good family
relationship to be disturbed by plain envy, that is very common here.
> All this can come later, when the relationship matures.approach them with modesty and wisdom.
> If you really are interested in a geunine human relation, then
> You are on their territory, so do not try to be bigger or wealthieror stronger than they are. Try to be equal. Do not be affraid of the
langage. Learn some basic phrases and then, while with them, listen
and learn as a child, with a good dosis of humor. Let them enjoy the
feeling, that at least in language, you are helpless for a while.
> You can keep your notes about the words and phrases, but it willtake some time, till you will begin to understand the language
really. Especially slovak grammar is very difficult to understand.
> Your relatives will probably make great sacrifices for you, inmoney and time. There were cases, when people took a loan to finance
> Try not to overstretch this and think about how you could dosomething for them in return, that has as much value for you, as it
had for them.
> Observe their habits and try to follow.( like shoes off, when youenter the flat etc.)
> They will be asking you about your wealth. Hesitate to revealeverything. Be modest.Actually, your wealth should make you about as
happy as their, although limited, wealth is making them satisfied as
> Also remember ; ( I was asked this question once, while I wastouring some Americans " Vladimir, do those people really own all
this - houses etc?")
> Yes, they do. In the past, there were no loans like in the US, sopeople had to save and build their houses with their own hands. Only
recently, loans are being used for cars and houses, but very limited.
>slowly, in 'special english" and do not use complicated words and
> If there is anybody in the family, that "speaks" english, talk
sentences.This will avoid misunderstandings. Often, the listener is
affraid to admit, that he did not quite understand, and skips the
word or takes it wrong. Make sure, you are well understood.
> A day or two before you leave, throw a dinner for all in a placethey will choose. It will not cost you much, but will remain in good
memory of all.At this dinner, you could give a special present to the
Lady of the household ( she is the head of the family anyway), where
you were as a visitor.You must stand up, have a short speech, where
you express your thanks for the hospitality (have someone to
translate), add whatever is on your mind and then have a toast with
all.(sorry, not sure about the word, but have a glass of good slovak
wine with everyone)
> Presents for the kids and general presents are given at arrival.lessons learned should be the thrill of the journey.
> There is much more to say, but that would be too long.Surprises and
> You just can not be prepared for everything.
> With best wishes,
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