Re: [Slovak-World] Harsh treatment of children-apology
- Looks like I put my foot in my mouth again!
Julie's right, all behavior does depend on the individual.
And I stupidly broke the rule on my own advice; never criticize another's way of raising their children. It is the closest to their own heart and something they feel very deeply. I can only admire greatly that they have the courage to try, and wonder how they can take on the challenge every day with so much devotion and sacrifice. There is nothing more important to any country than loving parents.
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From: J. Michutka
Sent: Sunday, June 01, 2003 9:59 PM
Subject: Re: [Slovak-World] Harsh treatment of children
>Sounds like you were out with an upper class lady who has someone else to
>manage her kids for her. Rich people are never interested in their
>children that much, and will tend to ignore what they can't control.
Wow, now there's a sweeping generalization!!!
While I don't live near the inner-city problems that you do, I do know
people in the range of economic brackets from welfare/not making it on
minimum wage all the way up to wealthy folks in mansions. There are
horrible parents, disinterested parents, ok parents, and fabulous parents
all across the board. I think we expect more from the rich folks (do we
assume they're educated and should know better???). I know rich folks who
leave their kids to the care of a nanny, and don't pay enough attention to
them. I know poor folks who leave their kids to the care of a TV, and
don't pay enough attention to them.
I've heard people from all economic brackets speaking to their children in
ways that chill my blood. And I believe you get great parents from all
I really have to take issue with "rich people are never interested in their
children all that much"....I know too many who really are wonderful &
Sorry this is disjointed, it's been an exhausting week.
Julie Michutka, solidly middle-class, trying hard to be a good parent
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- To reply to a couple of posts:
>Looks like I put my foot in my mouth again!I took exception, but I didn't take offense or take it personally.
>I suffered not only "assholism" (as I personally like to refer to theOne of the best books I've recently read is _The Complete ACOA Sourcebook_
>disorder) but physical and mental abuse at home -- and yes, ALL from my
>mother -- dad's fault was his inability to stop the cycle and quit his
>enabling. Took lots of counseling to realize I'm not the only one. At
>least with knowledge, we've got the ability (will we use it?) to stop.
by Janet Geringer Woititz. (ACOA is Adult Children of Alcoholics.) It
explained a lot of behaviors I've encountered over the years! Also, much
of the information is applicable to various dysfunctional family
situations, not just alcoholism. Even though I'm not from an alcoholic
family, I found the book very useful and enlightening; I recommend that
anyone/everyone read it.