RE: [SanghaOnline] household problem
- All of the Puhtujana have to face that type of the problem more or less. It
is very difficult to get along within two person such a diffrence age but
your name is Khanti means forbearance, patient, self-control, tolerance.
It is very good meaning. you should practise according to the meaning of
An advice for you , the opposive of the lust is loathsomeness,
repulsiveness, ASUBHA impurity of oneself, so when you feel sensual craving,
you should comtemplate of impurity of ourself. It might be reduce our lust.
One another way is you can control by diet. you should avoid some food which
are very rich of nutriment of sexsual desire.
>From: "khantilife" <khantilife@...>_________________________________________________________________
>Subject: [SanghaOnline] household problem
>Date: Sat, 24 Jul 2004 08:10:58 -0000
>Dear venerable monks,
>Could you please give your opinion on the following problem;
>My wife is 10 years older than me,she's 41 and I'm 31 and her sexual
>appetite has gone down since a couple of years, she doesn't practice
>(she is not buddhist). I try to as much as I can, and this helped me
>a lot to deal with her lack of sexual lust.
>Everytime I feel sensual craving I refer to the kayanupasanna sutta,
>but I'm not superman and we still sleep in the same bed.So sometimes
>it's very difficult.
>She admits that she has a problem concerning her libido, but it
>doesn't solve the problem. We still love eachother, we don't want to
>This lack of intimacy creates problems.She has no problem with
>having no sex, but as for myself...
>Please advice me on how to handle my ego in this situation, because
>sometimes it really pisses me off.
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