Inter Religious Family
- Dear Venerables,
I have a question that I do not believe has been raised before.
I am student of The Dhamma and a Buddhist, I am married to a non-
Buddhist and have 2 children. My wife does not attend any church and
is resistant to me exposing the kids to The Dhamma. My kids are 9 and
4 and they understand that I meditate and offer respect to The
Should I be assertive with my wife about exposing the kids to The
Dhamma? Or should I suggest that she take them to a church she is
I want my children to be exposed to a spiritual foundation whether it
be Buddhist, Christian or other.
I understand my over- all duties as a householder, but I would be
very thankful for any Sutta reference or other assistance.
With Metta and Respect,
Jim Arizona. USA
- My advice to parents is always, "Kids will do as you do, they will not do
what you tell them to do." Teach by example. If you go to a Buddhist
temple, why not take them along with you? If they hate it, then don't force
them to go. If they like it, they will nag you to take them. The most
important thing is to teach kids basic morality. At six and nine they cannot
easily understand Dependent Origination, but they can understand "What
goes around, comes around." Whether or not your wife and children gain
faith in Buddhism depends on their potential. Don't fret about it. Just take
care of your own spiritual life, and let them take care of theirs.
Remember the simile of the Acrobat and his assistant:
While performing acrobatics on top of a bamboo pole, the assistant said,
"Master, I will take care of you, and you take care of me, then we will both
get down safely from this pole." The master replied, "No. You take care of
yourself, and I will take care of myself, then we will both get down safely
from this pole."