Re: Rules for marriages compiled by Abin Geogre
- Dear All,
Had been on vacation and so the silence.First of all,
let me wish all SOCM forum members a fabulous and
blessed new year ahead. Have a wonderful 2004 which
can take us and our church to great heights and which
can offer us the strength to stand against all awaited
>Quote from Mr. Sabu's mail "I belong to St. GeorgeI understand and appreciate the underlying sincere
>Orthodox church Abudhabi and an ordinary member with
>no knowledge in theology or anything...I really feel
>ashamed to say I am a christian when I see ourselves
>fighting like street dogs. I am not only saying about
>IOC or SOC, but about all christian denominations and
>the sect groups...It is very sad to read the letter of
>Mr. Abin George...When we analize all our decisions in
>any denomination of christians we can find that some or
>other vested interests were there. It can be either
>financial or of position etc."
call for a better tomorrow.As we step on to the fresh
year,it is definitely a good thought.But,for every
individual,the process of transforming a thought to
a decision is definitely and clearly dependent on
previous experiances..Let me analize my thoughts
By birth I belong to the Jacobite church and you
belong to IOC.But,as we start to understand the days
around us,I believe we are moved.And now,I can proclaim
firmly that I belong to the Jacobite church by birth
and by deeds..courtesy IOC..they only made me use this
term.You feel sorry for the street fight and I feel the
need to give it back.Same answer will be ready with all
neo historians of IOC also.
I belong to St.George Jacobite Syrian Chapel ,Kavumbhagom,
Thiruvalla which was built overnight when Kattappuram
Church's key was taken and locked inside Devalokam aramana.
From the day I could remember,I had been a witness of all
those stage-managed action-packed performances by IOC
members at Kattappuram pally's cemetry as we also shared
the same. Our priests were not allowed to step inside the
same and there had been plenty of instances when their vicar
had removed the 'moodupadam' and performed 'azhichu chollal'
as per their dictionary.We were forced to buy new plot and
go through all the hazzles to get approal for a cemetry.Then
they came up with a sequence of stay orders and objections
from nearby residents.Then came the petetion to cut down
the trees and to give place for a compound wall since our
new cemetry is beside another IOC church's auditorium.One
by one, everything was lifted by Geevargis Sahada and as
we completed the structure now,IOC managed to file another
petetion that says that the compound wall we made (withion
our plot) is a retention wall and asking us to spare more
area for new compound wall...Let me stop here and ask..what
do you feel now?shame? pity?anger? Why all these things were
arranged by two IOC parishes (the later one only have few
families)?What are they going to lose if we light a candle
and could have dhoopaprathana for our departed ones?..
Now on to the climax..By the grace of god and the guidence
of Sahada we could find out that the IOC parish's auditorium
itself is violating the approved plan by Thiruvalla
Municipality.We filed a counter petetion for the same and
2004 january has a compromise talk in hand for both factions.
Only settlement would be to take off both the suites.Only
they knows what else will follow..Just narrated this to make
it clear that since it is not theology that differentiates
us,the feeling of shame should come from the people who
started all this.
It should not be like that to ask JSOC members to feel
shame and to file court cases against us side by side....
It should not be like that to criticize 8 day lent at
Manarcaud as uncanonical and to go ahead with vidyarambham....
It should not be like to criticize Christmas on Dec 25 as
westernized and to support Indianization just to get the
sympathy of RSS so that the verdict from Delhi will be in
It should not be like sending 3 messages from HQ to vote
for somebody at Thirualla just beacuse JSOC supported the
other group for their victory at Ernakulam....
It should not be like asking ordinary members who dont
know anything about the dirty games to stand for a united
2004 and to wait for a flexible verdict by man and money
power from supreme court....
To conclude,in my personnel openion,I extend my appreciation
to Mr. Abin and his friends for the good work.It will be
great,whatever it may be,when you try to uphold the faith
taught by our ancestors.For my marriage,no one in my family
will ever agree to an IOC girl,no matter how good she is or
what she is.I know many people who think like the same..on
both sides..:-)Your idea of a database is really appreciated.
All of us are aware that IOC forum runs their own matrimonial
helpline on a weekly basis.So..keep up the good work.
All the best.
Alex Jojo Joseph
St.Mary's JSO Church, Queen's Road, Bangalore
St.George JS Chapel, Kavumbhagom, Thiruvalla