I must admit I am not very much used to communicate with people who do not reveal their real name.
I also do not have instant messenger switched on, so I received your mail and your second mail to the list simultaneously.
I see, some people find my response rude etc. This was not my intention at all. Compared to what has been seen on slovak lists before this is almost like " maybe I could even like you.."
I was not insulted at all.
Whoever asked me about the names got a positive reply. But, as you already have been told by others, here in Europe, me particularly, we have different customs.
Imagine, what I have to do, when I want something from somebody here; I have not only to fully identify ( verifyable) myself, but also have to use a very formal way of explaining everything and compose my letter or message in a way that will motivate the other party to move and do something for me.
Not seldom I have to send money or send an additional fax or make a call. An enquiry without such formalities is always ignored.
Although I do this as a profession I very very often provide various services for free. My motivation is not only money but also pleasure with helping someone who needs help. here I have to make a good blend of the two, since there is no work, which does not take time and this is limited with me.
I do this for living.
So, the real minimum what I expect from another party is to take the trouble and address me with my name and sign with his/her name.
Then I will take the trouble and look for information and send a report.
Internet is fine, but it tends to reduce all those formalities to the level where I do not feel comfortable any more. Of course, it is different, when I communicate with a friend.
Other lists which I am a member of strictly require full name and address etc. This is more to my liking.
To encourage others who want to contact me I even included my photo, which is not very common. I have nothing to hide.
So, deal Little Listener, I will have a look what I have on your names, but would welcome if you could tell me more about the problem on your side. This would help me in preparing the answer to you better.
With best regards,
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Wednesday, November 01, 2006 12:05 AM
Subject: Re: [S-R] trying to contact Vladimir Bohinc
When I had tried to contact you via e-mail and instant messenger, I
did not realize that you do genealogical searches as a profession,
and had assumed that you were, in some distant way, related to
myself. Furthurmore, I had, incorrectly, assumed that your name was a
screen name, and not your actual name. As I guard my privacy online,
I do not use my real name. I did not mean to offend you, and
apologize for any offenses I may have caused.
--- In SLOVAK-ROOTS@yahoogroups.com, "Vladimir Bohinc" <konekta@...>
> Dear maly posluhac,
> I hardly know you. I mean, I don't know you at all.
> You would like a service from me, but do not care to address me and
sign the mail with your name. During years I adopted a policy to
leave such mails unanswered. I do believe you that you would
appreciate receiving information, yes. This I do believe.
> I am answering this mail in open for others to see, what is not a
proper way to ask somebody to do something for you.
> Vladimir Bohinc
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: maly_posluchac
> To: SLOVAK-ROOTS@yahoogroups.com
> Sent: Tuesday, October 31, 2006 1:31 AM
> Subject: [S-R] trying to contact Vladimir Bohinc
> I thought I had posted an e-mail to you before, and had sent an
> message, as well, but have received no recognition of having sent
> these. If it is possible, would you please send me an e-mail
> (musiced1999@...) concerning the Skapik and Sladicek families. I
> would greatly appreciate anything you could send. Thank you.
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