43767Touches of Love That Matter the Most
- Nov 5 3:08 PMTouches of Love That Matter the MostFresh Manna
by Pastor Tim Burt
Many years ago, I tried investing in the stock market. If I were to be
perfectly honest, I really didn’t know what I was doing. Oh, I
understood the mechanics of how to invest, but didn’t really have the
financial understanding of a company's value and balance sheet and the
kinds of things that are necessary to know for prudent investing. That
made investing in the stock market in my case, more like gambling. You
don’t invest in a company simply because you like their toothpaste.
There are many other factors to understand. After getting burned pretty
bad, I had two choices, get out and stay out or take the time to learn
what I was doing. Renee wanted me to get out of investing on my own and
I agreed. Our investing today is through a financial advisor.
Marriage can be very similar. I mean how hard are the mechanics? Get
married, have a honeymoon and move into your new dwelling together. For
way too many people, that's about as far as their thinking has gone
prior to marrying. Marriage is anything but simply coming home with
your marriage partner. That is why God through His Word tells us,
“Likewise, you husbands, dwell with them (your wives) according to
knowledge…” (1 Peter 3:7) This of course applies both ways.
Guys, the word knowledge here is referring to taking the time to know
and understand your wife. Understand what love means to her. Does it
just mean sex? Of course not but some men act like it does. What are
the things that contribute to helping your wife feel loved? Does it
mean spending more quality time with her? Does it mean helping her
around the house and with the kids? Does it mean sweet touches of
affection such as a card or note or flowers? Does it mean that she
desires the affirmation of respect and sweet words of your great love
for her? And of course the daily confirmation that she is
absolutely beautiful to you? (The answer to that one is absolutely yes
and always!) Does it mean touches of affection? A pleasant greeting in
the morning with a kiss (brush your teeth first.) Or a back rub (that
doesn’t have to finish with sex?) Or a warm embrace when you come home
leaving the day's work behind you? Or you holding her hand when you're
out for a walk or walking through the shopping mall? These are all
expressions of love to most women and each of them contribute and
deposit feelings or love in her love bank? Some of these are more
important to her than others. It is your job to learn which ones are.
This is learning to live with your wife according to knowledge. It's
not complicated. It's simply paying attention and then consistently
executing what you've learned. It can help produce great results and
leave her bragging to others what a great husband you are!
Take out a piece of paper and a pen and scribble a note saying, “I was
thanking God for such a precious wife as you this morning.” How hard is
that? How much did that cost? How long did it take to write that? How
much value did it bring to your marriage? Far more than you could
imagine. And if you haven’t figured out which of those touches of love
your wife most appreciates, asking her is the best way to find out and
take note of.
Of course this all applies in reverse to women toward their husbands.
Learn what He loves and learn to avoid what he hates or provokes him.
Learn to adapt to what is important to him as he should learn to adapt
to what is important to you. This is learning to dwell with your spouse
according to knowledge.
Does the effort this takes reap benefits for you? Absolutely! This is
an honoring love – a love that seeks to learn and know how to bless
your spouse. And that ultimately helps keep your prayers from being
hindered and sets you up to receive the promises of God’s blessing upon
your life. 1 Peter 3:7 “Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with
understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and
as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not
Honoring your spouse with the touches of love that matters to
and blesses them becomes a shock absorber that helps absorb the bumps
that marriages experience in their path of life. The little foxes
spoil the vine but little simple touches of love make your vine healthy
and your marriage strong!
And one last note, if you're not married, learning what most blesses
people in the ways I mentioned earlier, will enhance any relationship!
1 Corinthians 13:8 (NIV) "Love never fails..."
If Fresh Manna is a blessing to you, let me know how. I’d love to hear
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In His Love,
Pastor Tim Burt
Published by Pastor Tim Burt
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