I have been a member of the DAR more than 25 years. I've also been an
officer of my chapter for much of those 25 years.
While it is not a requirement that one visit a chapter before beginning the
application process, I advise prospective members to do so.
And while I think my chapter is the very best, other chapters in the area
may be a better fit for the prospective member. Meeting times, types of
projects or lack of projects, the other members, location of the meeting can
make a difference.
DAR members join for many reasons. Some join because they want to be
active in the chapter - and DAR has leadership roles just like other
organizations - in some cases they just have different titles - Regent instead of
President or Chairman. Some join because they want to research their family
history. Some join because some family member or friend encouraged them to
do so. My chapter has members that I would not recognize if I met them on
the street, because to my knowledge they have never attended a chapter
meeting since I have been a member, but they faithfully pay their dues.
I joined the DAR all those years ago because I was interested in history
and in my ancestors. I also thought my sons should know something about
their families as we're now far removed from the areas where our families lived
Some groups, not just DAR, keep their local dues low, but then take up
collections for everything as was this member's experience. I personally am
against such practice, as it meets those who come to the meetings get nickel
and dime to death and end up paying far more than if they raised the local
groups dues $5.00.
In a message dated 4/30/2012 11:14:06 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,
I don't know about the SAR but the DAR chapters around here do have
meetings & some activities.
I did finally, after several years' research, collect all the documents
needed to join DAR via one of my 5th great-grandfathers.
Joining DAR wasn't cheap or at least not cheap for us. By that point,
the Recession had gotten us, body slammed us & had us pinned to the mat
where, unfortunately, we still remain :( but I'd worked so long & hard by that
point, come he** or high water, I was going to join. And though I
shouldn't have, I held out a little bit from any pay I got from temp or per diem
work, coupon savings, loose change, etc. until I had enough to apply for
For a year, I was officially a member of the DAR. However, I soon
learned, DAR isn't for us poor folks. My first meeting, I had $5 for the week in
my wallet. When I left, I had whatever spare change was floating around in
the bottom of my pocketbook.
When the first collection came round, I was in a panic trying to do the
quick math in my head to see how much I could put in & still have enough for
a gal or two of gas if I needed it. And I was mortified as I tried to
"palm" the two 1 dollar bills I was putting in the basket of $5 & $10's so
the woman to either side of me wouldn't see how little I was putting in.
Then came the second $ collection & I was sunk :(
I don't know if I just had the poor luck to affiliate with a Chapter that
collects for everything or if all Chapters in my area are like that but I
learned at the first meeting that my Chapter, anyway, has a standard
collection for the Chapter's sundry expenses as well as occasional collections of
$ for cards & memorial contributions to a charity in a deceased's name or
savings bond for a new baby when there are births & deaths in members'
I never went to another meeting although I would have liked to. They had
some very interesting speakers scheduled for some meetings as well as some
group visits to some historical local sites I've always wanted to visit
but never got around to going to when I had the income to afford to do so.
It wasn't just the standard every meeting $ collection that kept me away.
Every meeting notice I received always had a reminder to bring some
specific item or items for some sort of collection going on that the Chapter was
doing for some food bank or charity - bring non perishable food items,
women's toiletries, good condition woman's clothing - I laughed at that one
because anything I do have that's in presentable shape I need for the
occasional work I get & what I wear everyday around home has now disintegrated to
the point of rags or close to it; new or like new books, diapers &/or
children's clothing, and the list went on & on.
Back in the day before the Recession got us & we were middle class, I'd
have had no problem with the collections but now that we're working poor,
money to spend on something to give away, I didn't & don't have. If it had
been volunteer time & labor they'd wanted, being mostly unemployed, THAT I
have plenty of! :D
I don't know how costly it might be to join SAR or if the Chapters have
meetings or if those meetings have a steady stream of money outlays like the
DAR Chapter I had poor luck to affiliate with. Anything's possible, you'll
just have to check on it.
If you're on a tight budget like us, I would definately recommend that you
check with any Chapter you might be considering affiliating with (that
goes for DAR, too)to see what regular, extra costs are involved & if they
regularly look for donations for charities. I was naive & never dreamed I'd
need a steady flow of discretionary cash to be a member & attend meetings.
Ah well, at least anyone in the future who shares a part of my lineage
back to my 5th great-grandfather & wants to join DAR or SAR, will have it
easy. I submitted civil records of BMD - NJ had those in the 1800's, bible
records, references from 19th century histories, my ancestor's Rev. War
service records as well as the usual census schedules, etc. so their work's
mostly done but for establishing their link back to a point common with my line.
All they have to do to get that documentation I submitted is send to the
DAR for copies of contents of the actual file I'd submitted. There is a fee
but I don't know what it may be.
I might not be officially DAR anymore but at least I do know some of my
family's history with respect to our country's founding & I do have the DAR
certificate to prove that once upon a time, I was a DAR member :)
--- In RI_Ancestors@yahoogroups.com, HDBiker1@... wrote:
> Thanks, Gloria. I did know that much but wonder about he
> organizations. Do they have meetings, activities and such or is it
> more of a tag on one's name ?
> On Apr 30, 2012, at 8:44 AM, Gloria Silverman wrote:
> Daughters of the American Revolution
> Sons of the American Revolution
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