#3995 - Friday, August 28, 2010 - Editor: Jerry Katz
- #3995 - Friday, August 28, 2010 - Editor: Jerry Katz
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Here's another article by David from http://raptitude.comDavid wrote the article in which six songs were featured, in my previous Highlights (#3992)
Good News: Happiness Doesnt Existby David
Happiness is slippery. It doesnt like to stick around. We know weve had it before, but its gone away, and we know there are certain things we have to do to find it again. Certain ducks have to be in a row. After all, if you didnt have to do anything to be happy, you wouldnt do anything at all. It cant be too hard to find. Other people seem to be finding it all right.Yet for all our efforts, we never seem to get this happiness problem nailed down, and theres a very good reason for that.When we start talking about solving the problem of unhappiness, its hard to avoid the topic of Buddhism. I know not everyone is a fan, but they have lain some important groundwork, even for those of us who like the idea of improving our quality of life but arent prepared to buy the whole package, with all its baldness and orange robes. Despite its promises of peace and enlightenment, I havent leapt in with abandon, so dont worry, this article doesnt delve into pratitya-samutpadas and tathagatagarbhas. Its about a plain-jane concept you know very well: happiness.Buddhism developed as a response to mankinds search for happiness. In the simplest terms, its not a belief system but a methodology for being happy. Yet Buddhist literature is known for focusing much more on suffering than happiness. Its curious preference for morbid subject matter has led some to describe Buddhism as preoccupied with negativity.The reason suffering has become Buddhisms primary focus, rather than happiness, is that happiness, as we conceive of it, doesnt really exist at least not in the same way suffering does. What we refer to as happiness is really just what the absence of suffering feels like.Although its become the favorite term for the concept, suffering is really not an adequate word. The Buddhists call it dukkha. Suffering is perhaps the most common English substitution, but Ive also seen anguish, unease, dissatisfaction, stress, discomfort, or unsatisfactoriness. None of them are quite right, and so many writings in English will use dukkha.I avoid the casual use of Sanskrit or Pali words in my articles because I think they make a lot of readers tune out, as they sense theyre being led into an esoteric religious discussion. Books and articles about Buddhism can get pretty dry and cryptic, scaring away readers who would otherwise be fascinated by the very same concepts if they werent presented in such stuffy, user-unfriendly language. But for the rest of this article Ill use dukkha, if it hasnt scared you off yet.Unease might be the best of the English translations of dukkha. The original word was meant to evoke the feeling of a potters wheel that would screech as it turned.I often substitute dukkha with suffering but I realize that may be misleading for those not acquainted with the Buddhist meaning of that word. Before I encountered suffering in the Buddhist context, it meant something different to me. It meant great pain. Sobbing, aching, despair.Suffering, from a Buddhist perspective, refers not so much to outright catastrophe as to the persistent, low-intensity feelings of dissatisfaction or yearning that human beings feel most of the time. Indeed, most of our suffering is extremely minor:* The faint hint of financial angst you get when you notice gas has gone up again* The tiny feeling of urgency you get when you discover you only have 19 more minutes to get ready to go, and you thought you had 30* The slight unease you feel when youre opening a gift in front of the person who gave it to you, and you want to make sure you look pleased no matter what you really think of it* The sinking, here we go again feeling you get when so-and-so begins to get impatient with the waitressThis is dukkha. This is life.Moments in which unease is not present are wonderful. There is a light, problemless, everything in its right place quality to them. Weve all had these moments, and they arent particularly rare, but they are not your typical moment.Often they happen when you experience something so powerful that it wrests all of your attention away from your thinking mind, such as a picturesque sunset or an incredible piece of music.Other times, this peace blindsides you at a perfectly ordinary moment, maybe when youre filling up a glass of water and youre taken by a perfect, glowing triangle of sunlight on the countertop. Suddenly the mind shuts off, you can hear the delicate background noise of the kitchen and the surrounding neighborhood, and everything looks and sounds exactly as it should.The potential for it seems to be always there.Buddhisms genius is that it reduces all human problems to a single one: the problem of dukkha. This is a very powerful perspective. The implication is that our ordinary state is one of peace, perfection, problemlessness, and clarity the very things we are always ultimately seeking. Dukkha is the only thing standing between a problematic moment and a problemless one. The problem is not gas prices, or your bank balance, or your love handles. Without dukkha, none of them would be problems. The price of fuel would strike you as perfectly appropriate, as would your net worth and your physique.The Buddha developed a method for transcending dukkha, but many other approaches have been discovered since by sages, psychologists, seekers and average joes. They all amount to overcoming your attachments in the moment.
Happiness iswhats left when you take away unhappiness.Since the only problem we ever have is the presence of unease in our moments and not the absence of anything happiness itself doesnt really exist. Its just what we call moments in which we dont experience dukkha. And that means what we refer to as happiness is always there behind the current moments unease; ultimately, it is always accessible.I find its more empowering to think of happiness this way as the absence of unease, and nothing else and heres why:We tend to think of happiness as something out there, waiting just beyond some future achievement or change in circumstances. This makes our happiness contingent on factors we cannot directly control. If we think of unhappiness (or unease) as a function of how we are relating to the present moment whatever it contains then we always have an opportunity to improve the quality of our moment. This way power over our quality of life resides with ourselves, and not with luck, status or other externals.Happiness is too easily confused with gratification. Gratification is simply getting what you currently want. It provides a fleeting cessation of unease, which makes it feel awesome, like an end in itself. It is such an intense release that it feels as if the problem has been conquered, when really its only been chased away for a short while. As a strategy for happiness, gratification is a poor one for three reasons:1) You cant always get what you want2) Depending on getting what you want in order to be happy increases your attachment to getting what you want, which intensifies the suffering youll experience next time3) Getting what you want often makes it harder to get other things youll soon want for example, when you spend all your money on what you want right nowThe typical approach to seeking happiness is to add something to our lives, because we perceive ourselves as needing something we are missing: more security, more money, another possession, the approval of others, a personal achievement. But on closer inspection even these actions are actually driven by a desire to remove something: insecurity, hunger, angst, tension of some kind. We are driven to acquire and achieve in order to remove dukkha from our experience.
There is no happinessDont seek happiness. If you seek it, you wont find it, because seeking is the antithesis of happiness. ~Eckhart TolleHappiness (or whatever you want to call that state we are all seeking joy, well-being, peace) occurs when something is removed, not when something is added. Happiness is an opposite, a negative mold an imaginary abstraction created to define precisely what it is not. Its no different than darkness, which itself is nothing at all only a way of describing an absence of light. Light is real, darkness is just a concept.So why did we get it backwards? As with most of our inefficiencies, we evolved that way. For millions of years our behavior has been driven by dissatisfaction, which manifests itself in a sentient creature as desire. Our very clever biology has us desiring, non-stop, for anything that appears to put us into a better position to survive. Its the ultimate carrot-and-stick setup, and we still fall for it because we dont know what else to do. We can always use more security, more esteem, more power, so the desires never cease. It works very well to the survival end, by constantly creating a mental itch that must be scratched. This itch is unhappiness, unease, or to Buddhism fans, dukkha.This is how the human mind works now. It creates unhappiness to keep us moving, with no regard for our quality of life. You can scratch the itch your whole life and it wont go away. It will only put you in the habit of scratching the itch. The human mind has developed to a point where we are finally understanding this awful cycle, and developing ways of dealing with it. About 2500 years ago a New York minute, in evolutionary time a curious young prince nailed the problem down. He found we werent actually missing anything after all.Happiness, it seems, is just a shadow. By continuing to gaze at it, weve overlooked whats standing in the light.