#2460 - Monday, May 1, 2006 - Editor: Jerry Katz
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Munday contributes to this issue. In the next issue of the Highlights
we'll feature the second half of her article.
In my work (as
a Transpersonal Psychotherapist - 30 years)
I continue to see that we can
read, talk about, and pursue
that abstract continuum of Bliss, Nirvana,
etc an entire
lifetime but if we don't do the self-analytical work
finding out WHERE we got those beliefs - WHO gave them
to us, and
IF they are really doing for us what we want
them to - we won't
Most of the messages say: "Know thyself" or "Seek
truth and the truth will make you free".
I have a hard time
cracking the shell of the ego (or
conditioned belief system of new
clients). It takes months
to make them ACCEPT that their thoughts
are not even their
own. For that fact will start whittling down the big
Anyway, I am attaching the "fact
sheet" which I have given
to them after they have had 24 or 36
sessions (when they
seem to be able to handle it). And from then
on, I keep
taking them back to the "facts" of how they got to
who they think they are !!! and this allows them
continue to say/or say NO to continuing change/improvement
their life space.
THE CONDITIONING PROCESS AND IT'S CONCLUSION -- Part
by Jenny Munday
At a certain (pre-destined) point in Life, each of us arrive at the space
where we question "what
is IT all about" -- meaning Life, of course. Meaning
"my" life in particular. Previous to this
point, we have just gone on
thinking our programmed thoughts and arriving at our programmed
But now tragedy intervenes - a loved one dies - a spouse of many years decides
the relationship - a child is taken away - or even more often - Life
sours. We just can't stand it
any more. None of the toys (wealth -
acquisitions - relationships - escape mechanisms (i.e. street
drugs, alcohol, etc) work anymore.
We go to the therapist or the priest or the friend/relative, the medical
doctor, and pour out our
heart. We discover that: the friend hasn't time to
listen - the relative says "Well, I told you
so.....you never did
listen...." - the priest says: " Follow the dictates of THE CHURCH and all
will be well"; and the psychiatrist says: "Take one three times daily as
anti-depressants, ritilan and you will be fine".
Does any of this advice from any one or multiple sources solve our problem?
The wife/husband still
leaves. The child still is missing. The job is still
gone or so dreadfully stressful that we can't
handle it any more.
Life has done it's thing. We don't know how to deal with it because we were
CONDITIONED to believe
that WE - ( my "I" ) was the actualizer of all that
came to pass. That my "I" COULD control: the
future ! - other people and
their lives ! - any outcome of any situation (if only "I" paid close
attention and exerted the force of My Will upon the situation.
That situation has not seemed to occur. In fact - the reverse has seemed to
occur. It would appear
now (usually in middle age but increasingly in
younger and younger groups) that instead of my "I"
controlling the script -
that the Script is controlling my I. My "I" now has to become "i" -
increasingly smaller and lesser effective - or not effective at all. Things
are happening all over
the place that big I did not program. How is that ?
Is this good news or bad news ? To the Personality it is BAD NEWS. Mainly
because it suggests that
the Person-ality must now let go of that particular
belief which says: "I" AM THE DOER". Thus the
personality must now realize
it's limitations. It must realize that all those endless thoughts were
"the mind stream - or the collective tape recorder". It must accept that all
emotions (i.e. anger, fear, resentment, isolation, and even
occasional joy, happiness) were also
ONLY passing states and only seemingly
cause and affect under the control of the personality - or
So what affect has all that previous "stuff" ( belief systems, ideas,
which was imposed on us by society ? For
starters, we were CONDITIONED by our parents to believe
that we actually
were who they thought we were - the identification they laid on us at birth --
such as the "NOT FAVORITE".
WOW ! how that hit home . Discovering you are the NOT favorite and having
to learn how to play out
that role means (basically) that you will spend the
rest of your incarnation attempting to PROVE
that you are "alright !" - not
damaged - not insufficient - not inadequate, etc.
So life becomes a journey to disprove the thoughts of another who has
programmed you -- that is ---
someone who has told or convinced you of their
view of your identity and future. Since they did
this when we were not
capable of competing with their "developed intellect" we "accepted" their
conditioning and their assigning of our role in life.
Shortly after this "education and schools " took over. By that time we
already pretty well had a
picture of WHO we were. We WERE ....that "special
wonderful princess" or that "NON-FAVORITE" - or
that "UNWANTED PREGNANCY" -
or whatever it was that we has been a symbol of to the parent couple
brought our physical bodies into existence.
We were the physical expression of the emotional/psychological mindset of
the individuals who mated
together and birthed us. OR so it would seem to
be. We lived that existence and accepted that role
and even played out that
role. But eventually, the role would end and we would come into misery and
desolation (with or without drugs) and ask: "Is there anything more than
this ? Is THIS all that is
? Our role as programmed had not played out as it
was supposed to. We had done all the "things we
were supposed to do" and we
were unfulfilled in the extreme - to put it mildly. We were suicidal
depressed beyond imagination.
This is the moment of something known in the non-material spectrum as
Grace. It means: " Turn at
the next light and go straight ahead until you
see a sign that says: " Here" There is always a sign
- you will never miss
it - but you have to SLOW DOWN to see it.
Slowing down equals getting away from the conditioning from all sources.
Parental: "THIS is WHO you are....."
Educational: "YOU are in control...what you DO is WHO you are !"
Theological: "You were born in SIN and GUILT but if you will follow OUR
traditions and doctrines WE
will save you". (Please remember to support THE
CHURCH i.e. 10% of income ! for the best salvation
Commercial: "If you buy OUR product - you will be happy (!) because all
your neighbors and friends
will understand that you now own a (fill in the
blanks) and therefore you have arrived. You are a
Political: If YOU vote for US (which-ever political party) we will
guarantee you that justice WILL
be done and the economy will rise and wars
will cease. (!) (But as an aside-- you do know - don't
you - that the
economy is really best when there's war ).
So each of these institutions tell us their lies and eventually we come to
realize that we have
been "programmed" from birth. Then intense anger arises
(but we have been taught that "anger" is
bad ! Or intense aloneness/
isolation will arise; but we have been told that we SHOULD not feel
or isolated - so we are caught again. There's no way out it seems.
~ ~ ~
Part Two of Jenny's article appears in the next issue of The