Re: [MarvWalkerHorses] Re: Bonded, and then Not Bonded!
- My horse has never done anything at all aggressive towards me - running towards me yesterday may not have been aggression, she was just REALLY feeling her oats and trotting towards me. However, I warned her off and she stopped immediately.As for kicking, biting, rearing, bucking at me - never. She "gives" to me very easily when I want to move her around. The day before yesterday she was just as you described towards me - licking her lips, lowering her head, etc. Then the next day just a total jerk.And I've been bonding with her throughout the past week that I've had her. Evidently it hasn't taken 100% yet, but we have plenty of time to work together!Thanks for your reply!Morganna-------Original Message-------From: Richard AndrewDate: 3/31/2007 10:11:06 PMSubject: [MarvWalkerHorses] Re: Bonded, and then Not Bonded!
sounds to me like you did not get her bondered. You might have gone
thru the motions correctly, but you stopped before your horse really
understood who is the boss.
Did your horse kick out, rear up or anything aggressive when you
bondered him or her? How long did you bonder him? I have worked with
horses are good at faking being obedient. When I see them get upset,
then start licking their lips and lowering their head then I know its
really at the point they understand and accepting of who is the leader.
You might have to do it again.
And I dont know if you do anything to treat your horses like pets or
more like dog. Don't, at least not until you establish who is the the
leader. They will take that as a subornate stance. (been there done that)
You say that you must try to compelte the bonder all in one session.
Can you tell me what happens if you don't. Is it harder to do the next
time because they know what to expect?
Actually, you can quit the bonder ANY TIME you want. If you
become distracted, uncertain or whatever you can just stop.
There are no hills to die on in horse training no matter what
anyone tells you. WHATEVER you can train a horse to do you
can untrain it.
Getting the horse to know what to expect is the purpose of
the bonder. It learns it can expect you to be the leader and
that it must do what you wish provided it is able to.
My son's horse, Lady is the perfect trail horse. She knows what a trail
is and is quite happy to go along any where you want her to. If you
want her to go through the water, she will, if you want her to veer off
the trail around some trees, into the bush, whatever you ask on the
trail she is happy to comply. She has never spooked at one single
thing, not even the partridge flying up in her face. She is somewhat
lazy, however and although she will trot and canter, its usually more
work for the rider to keep her in that gait than it is for her to be in
If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
I do have a few problems with her as far as asking for things on the
ground. For instances, she loves people, any people, and has a hard
time understanding "my space". When I try to lead her past me (like
through a gate or something), she is crowding me, when I ask her to move
off she pins her ears and has even cow kicked, never making a connection
but the threat is real. She was a mountain trail horse before we
purchased her and because of her personality (put me on a trail with a
rider on my back and I'm happy) I don't think a lot of time was spent
doing ground work with her. I know she is confused because she was
always able to come right up to any person for a scratch and doesn't
understand the concept of her space, my space at all. The confusion is
causing her to get "angry". I feel it necessary to teach her about my
space since she weighs 1300 lbs and although I am quite confident that
she would never hurt us on purpose, accidents do happen.
This is what the bonder fixes in both of you. It teaches you you
need not put up with that and it teaches her you won't.
I thought I would start the whole process by doing the bonder session
with her. She did not like me directing her one little bit and every
time I asked for a change of direction, she would pin her ears and even
kicked and bucked a few times. I did finally get some chewing but never
got the head down or the licking.
She wasn't happy you were going to have your way?? Oh, too bad,
so sad. She'll get over it just like she does in a herd situation where
a higher ranked horse makes her show respect.
I realize that I have to do the session again, maybe a few more times
but was just wondering if we will still be at the kicking, bucking, ears
pinned, head shaking stage or if she will be a little less "active" the
This too shall pass. This is actually good because when it stops
you'll have a clear turn-around point.
The reason I stopped the first session was because it had started to
snow and was getting way too slippery for both of us.
You don't need any reason to stop beyond you wanted to.
I cover all these points and a LOT more in my DVD "How To Form
An Intense Mental Connection With Practically Any Horse In
Less Time Than It Takes To Clean A Bridle." Information about
this and other DVDs I have at the moment can be found at:
Marv "One left makes a left, two lefts make a back, three lefts
make a right!" Walker