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  • yiftos18
    I am new to this group and I would like to HONESTLY talk to godly MEN about my problems. I think I am older than most of you (54) divorced, gay background. I
    Message 1 of 3 , Jul 31 5:54 PM
      I am new to this group and I would like to HONESTLY talk to godly MEN
      about my problems. I think I am older than most of you (54) divorced,
      gay background. I once spoke to my pastor about a personal sexual
      problem and it was all over the congregation. I don't trust men in my
      congregation.I got (and still do to some extent)the 'unclean leper'
      treatment. To complicate matters, I am a former pastor myself.

      I live in S. Texas where it is HOT (climate). I often sit around in the
      apt in my underwear and the 'hanging' and friction of my balls want me
      want to j-off. (Forgive me if I am too graphic) I have a problem with
      it and like advice. There are myriads of groups ENCOURAGING j/o and SSA
      but I want to be holy unto the L-RD. I struggle not to do it(j/off).

      Any men over 40 (or at least middle aged) in the group? (I'm not
      cruising. Just want to know if I am in the right group)

      Any one in S. Texas?
    • John R
      Hi glad you joined up. I am 42 and can relate to what you are going through. Although I was never crucified before the congregation as you have been, I still
      Message 2 of 3 , Aug 1, 2005
        Hi glad you joined up.  I am 42 and can relate to what you are going through.  Although I was never crucified before the congregation as you have been, I still go through the tought periods of horniness and all.  My big weakness is the computer and such.  Porn and jacking go hand in hand and the computer can be a hot ticket to it as many of you know already.  I am sorry for the immature way that your situation was handled at that partcular church.  That just goes to show that we need to mautre in the Lord spiritually.  Remember that Paul talked about Christians who were still babies and not on solid spiritual food.  He chastisied them for not growing already and that they should be teaching others as mature christians and not remaining the babies that they still were after all the the time passing.  So mt advice is to have mercy on them, forgive and move on to another church if need be.  Actually it might be better to just spend alot of private personal time with Jeusu and God and the holy spirit.  Often King David and also Jesus would go to be alone with the Lord to find strenght and solitude.  God is very much into quite time with him.  Thats where we experience the greatest fellowship with him and we get strong in our relationship with Him.  I am also gay and fall many times over but like I always tell the other fellas here, Just give it all to God.  Your situation can change because you will change by being with him.  The people who hurt you can only change if they want to.  You can pray for them to help heal your soul and set them free from all of the hurt they caused ou.  But the number one way and bset way for now is to just spend time with the Lord on your own and take a break from the church stuff until you're ready.  Often I find comfort from the scriptures and love reading how Jesus handled situaions on the gospels.  Try reading a bit of the psalms and als just allow yourself healing time.  If you need to share, you can always share with us, or if youd like visit Brothers in Christ at yahoo groups section.  There we also talk about this stuff and share too.  Actually I got inspired to create that group form this group here.  I guess it may be related because the topics are the same.
         
        Yes alos you are a guy and those nuts can be a real distraction.  We all have em and God understands that.  But He knows tyour heart and struggles but there is also tremendous mercy in Chist.  he can heal us day by day.  Just don't get frustrated with yourself.  Whenever you jack and cum, right at that point just turn to God in your heart and He forgives because of his grat love for you.  As Joyce Meyer says, You were no suprise to God when He called you into relationship with Him.  He know it all and loves you just the same. So be encouraged.  Christ is the lifter of our heads.  Rest in Him.  Give ti all to Him.  He has strong shoulders and never tires.  We are weak, he is strong.
         
        Keep sharing it helps bring healing to us all.
        Peace,
        John

        yiftos18 <ezyiftosev@...> wrote:
        I am new to this group and I would like to HONESTLY talk to godly MEN
        about my problems. I think I am older than most of you (54) divorced,
        gay background. I once spoke to my pastor about a personal sexual
        problem and it was all over the congregation. I don't trust men in my
        congregation.I got (and still do to some extent)the 'unclean leper'
        treatment. To complicate matters, I am a former pastor myself.

        I live in S. Texas where it is HOT (climate). I often sit around in the
        apt in my underwear and the 'hanging' and friction of my balls want me
        want to j-off. (Forgive me if I am too graphic) I have a problem with
        it and like advice. There are myriads of groups ENCOURAGING j/o and SSA
        but I want to be holy unto the L-RD. I struggle not to do it(j/off).

        Any men over 40 (or at least middle aged) in the group? (I'm not
        cruising. Just want to know if I am in the right group)

        Any one in S. Texas?





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      • farmallcub57
        Yiftos18, you are in a good mix of ages! I have been reading messages for quite a while and just recently joined. I am 62. I have the same problem with
        Message 3 of 3 , Aug 9, 2005
          Yiftos18, you are in a good mix of ages! I have been reading messages
          for quite a while and just recently joined. I am 62. I have the same
          problem with sitting around semi-nude or nude. It is more
          comfortable, but is tempting. The cool thing about this group is that
          God expects us to mentor each other and it is happening comfortably
          on here! Young can teach old and old can teach young. As far as I'm
          concerned, there is no "generation gap" ! I have the most awesome
          relationships with young guys. All we older guys have to do is be
          available, and not put up walls and it happens! In our men's groups,
          we have 16 year olds up to 82 year olds and we can all talk easily &
          do things together!

          When there are sexually involved questions, they are usually handled
          individually & personally with whomever is comfortable with that. I
          am, and I have numerous young guys come to me for advice.

          I agree, that talking about sexual stuff in church can get you into
          situations that you don't want to occurr.....

          E-mail me if you'd like, and we can communicate further.


          --- In Jesus-is-our-victory@yahoogroups.com, "yiftos18"
          <ezyiftosev@a...> wrote:
          > I am new to this group and I would like to HONESTLY talk to godly
          MEN
          > about my problems. I think I am older than most of you (54)
          divorced,
          > gay background. I once spoke to my pastor about a personal sexual
          > problem and it was all over the congregation. I don't trust men in
          my
          > congregation.I got (and still do to some extent)the 'unclean leper'
          > treatment. To complicate matters, I am a former pastor myself.
          >
          > I live in S. Texas where it is HOT (climate). I often sit around in
          the
          > apt in my underwear and the 'hanging' and friction of my balls want
          me
          > want to j-off. (Forgive me if I am too graphic) I have a problem
          with
          > it and like advice. There are myriads of groups ENCOURAGING j/o and
          SSA
          > but I want to be holy unto the L-RD. I struggle not to do it(j/off).
          >
          > Any men over 40 (or at least middle aged) in the group? (I'm not
          > cruising. Just want to know if I am in the right group)
          >
          > Any one in S. Texas?
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