Young woman takes precepts to heart, converts to Islam - South Bend Tribune, USA
- Young woman takes precepts to heart, converts to Islam
By SARA TOTH
Tribune Staff Writer
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A young woman with a pink head scarf and blue eyes
doesn't speak during a Quran study group at the
Islamic Society of Michiana.
She just smiles and nods intently as the other three
women in the group discuss the Quran, capping most of
their English sentences with the Arabic phrase
"Insha-Allah," which literally means "if God wills
This quiet woman is 21-year-old Brandy Korman. But
soon she will be Zahra Abaza. In the spring, Korman
converted to Islam, then married a Muslim from Egypt.
She has replaced sweaters and jeans with long dresses
and scarves, and switched from being a single woman to
a wife who didn't date her husband before she agreed
to marry him.
Even as Christmas -- a pillar of her old faith, Roman
Catholicism -- draws near, she voices few doubts about
her new creed and new life.
Curiosity leads to faith
Shortly after the attacks of Sept. 11, Korman, then an
18-year-old church-going Catholic freshman at Penn
State University, typed the words "Islam" and "Quran"
"It was just out of curiosity," she recalls during a
recent interview. "I was thinking, 'What kind of
religion tells their people to kill?' "
She began reading. From Web sites she moved on to
library books, then to the Quran. She read thousands
of pages, she says.
And with each page, the idea of Islam as a faith that
promotes killing faded.
She began to see Islam as a way of life of submission
to God -- a God who forbids killing innocent people
even in the name of faith, she says.
"Just as God provided laws for nature, he provided
laws for us through his scriptures," she says.
"When I read the Quran, I didn't really see things
that I would disagree with, like I did when I read the
Bible," she says.
She discovered that Muslims didn't believe in the
Trinity. She had always questioned the Trinity.
A few months after that initial online search, her
study of Islam dwindled to make time for schoolwork.
Instead of spending whole days reading about it, she
spent a few hours a week, she recalls. Meanwhile, she
and her mother moved from Pennsylvania to South Bend.
Korman increased the intensity of her study of Islam
again last January, when she began to talk with some
of her Muslim classmates in the business department at
Indiana University South Bend.
In the spring, Korman e-mailed her IUSB classmate
Osama Abaza, 24, who is from Alexandria, Egypt, and
asked to go to the mosque with him.
She stood in the back of the mosque at the Islamic
Society of Michiana, 3310 Hepler St., South Bend and
watched the women and men on their respective sides of
the room pray in a routine of standing, kneeling and
bowing their heads to the ground, she recalls. The
Quran commands Muslims to pray this way five times
each day, no matter their location.
Because she had done her own extensive research, she
says, she felt comfortable at the mosque and didn't
see or hear anything unexpected from the members
She began visiting the mosque each week with Abaza.
During these visits, she talked at length with Abaza
about Islam, she says.
Abaza was in the midst of rediscovering Islam. Before
he left Egypt for the United States four-and-a-half
years ago, Abaza did not consider himself a devout
It was only after living in the United States that he
began going to a mosque on a regular basis, he says.
"I felt like I needed something to belong to in this
very divided society with many ethnic groups," he
says. "You can't feel any better than belonging to
God." Fueled by her extensive research and
conversations with Abaza, and three months after her
first visit to the mosque, Korman recited her new
beliefs in Arabic and English in front of two
witnesses, becoming a Muslim.
Another change in life
Shortly after Korman's conversion, Abaza invited her
to lunch at the Olive Garden restaurant.
Korman says she didn't consider it a date because she
thought Abaza was married.
"Then he pretty much started talking about how we were
going the same way," Korman recalls. "He didn't really
ask me (to marry him). He just hinted at it."
(Abaza was married but going through a divorce.)
Later that day, Abaza called Korman and asked her to
Korman was stunned and scared. She hardly knew Abaza,
Abaza, however, seated next to Korman in the couple's
apartment, says the proposal "was very rational." He
could help her in becoming the person and Muslim she
wanted to be. And she could provide companionship for
him, he says.
They talked about the idea of marriage for about two
weeks, they recall.
Then, Korman says, she discovered "we both wanted the
same things. And we are going the same way."
She felt that Abaza could help guide her into becoming
a better Muslim. He also has the same goals in life,
she says -- to have children, to raise them Muslim and
to live outside the United States.
So a few weeks after her conversion, Korman married
Abaza in an Islamic ceremony in the apartment the
couple now shares in Mishawaka.
Both describe the marriage as the "beginning" of their
They have yet to unite in marriage under state law:
They plan to do this soon in Las Vegas, although no
date is set.
In her apartment, Korman wears jeans and a fitted
black sweater. Now that she is a Muslim, she would
never wear this outfit, which clings to her slight
figure, outside the home, she says.
At first she didn't wear her head scarf to school or
to her job. Only at the mosque.
"I was really worried about what people would think of
it," Korman recalls.
Now she pretty much wears her head scarf everywhere
outside of her apartment.
"Sometimes you get people looking at you," she says.
"It makes me feel uncomfortable sometimes."
"Liking to wear it?" she asks, repeating a reporter's
question. "I don't know about that. But the Quran says
you are supposed to wear it."
(While the Quran instructs men and women to dress
modestly, it does not order specific clothing, says
Rashied Omar, a Muslim and coordinator of the Program
on Religion, Conflict and Peace Building at the
University of Notre Dame's Joan B. Kroc Institute for
International Peace Studies. But some Muslims
interpret modesty for women to include a head
covering, he says.)
"It makes you stay away from things you are supposed
to stay away from," Korman says. The head scarf
prevents her from talking to men and hanging out in
bars, she says. It would just be weird to wear the
head scarf to a bar, she says with a laugh.
Korman's conversion has required a lot of explaining.
"(My mom) asked me how I could convert to Islam if I
wasn't from the Middle East," she says with a laugh.
Recently, a clerk at a grocery store glanced at her
credit card, then at her head scarf and asked how her
name could be Brandy, she says.
She is, in fact, in the process of changing her first
name to Zahra, which means "flower" in Arabic. Her
e-mail account says her name is Zahra, but she still
introduces herself to people as Brandy.
One thing she is emphatic about is that her conversion
to Islam happened independently of her marriage to
(According to Islam, Muslims are permitted to marry
Christians or Jews, two faiths with common roots, Omar
A new life
"To me it's not just a religion, it's a way of life,"
Korman says about Islam. "You have to change the way
you act, the way you dress."
For Korman, this new way of life means not celebrating
"It was hard to have my family calling and to know
that they were all together and I couldn't be there,"
she says. "But it
wasn't the holiday that I missed; but just being
without my family is hard for me in general."
(Korman's family has moved back to Pennsylvania.)
Omar, at Notre Dame, says that Muslims should
celebrate Thanksgiving if they are American, and he
says one risk for people who convert to Islam is
giving up too much of their old culture and confusing
cultural obligations with religious ones.
"Are they also throwing off their cultural identity?
The good things about their culture?" he says.
At Christmas, she will meet her family in Florida.
"But I am going with the intention of strengthening
family ties and not to celebrate Christmas," she says.
In addition to leaving her old way of life behind, she
feels there is a long way to go in becoming a Muslim.
That's why she attends the Quran study group every
Thursday and reminds Abaza to use the simple Arabic
terms she knows as often as possible.
"There's always more things you should do," Korman
Most Muslims feel like this, not just new ones, says
Parveen Basher, a member of the Quran study group
Korman attends at the Islamic Society of Michiana.
There are always more ways to bring behaviors up to
the standards set forth by God, Basher says.
"It's the humility that keeps us going," Basher says.
In keeping with that, Korman says that she doesn't
approve of killing innocent people in the name of
faith, as some terrorists claim to do.
"But on the other hand, I don't agree with the
American administration that is bombing people all
over the world in the name of freedom and democracy,"
she wrote recently in an e-mail.
Something that does worry Korman is moving to a
"You always have to surround yourself with people who
know God so you can't get turned away. It's sort of
like a defense line," Abaza says. In principle, Korman
But she doesn't speak Arabic. And her husband's
suggestion that they move to Medina, a holy city in
Saudi Arabia, makes her especially nervous.
"Just the stuff you hear on the news, you know, it's
kind of scary," she says. "And most of the women there
are completely covered from head to toe, and that
would be extremely different for me since I am just
now starting to wear hijab."
She has heard in her Quran study group that when you
have belief and a fear of God in your heart you can
accept whatever happens to you. If something bad
happens, you should be happy because it's a test from
God, explains Hunada Alkattan, a Granger resident
leading the group during a recent meeting.
Rabia Shariff of Granger, another member of the study
group, adds that passing that test means God sends you
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