Most of us either have some form of PTSD or know someone who has,

so it is recommended to include the following techniques in a workbook for future reference, to use and share with others.

Included are methods for healing relationships.

c. Dr. P. M. Schlosser, PhD. 2002
Permission is given to share this information.

Emotional Healing – Part II

In 1985, Dr. Michael Schlosser was treating severe cases of post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) at the VA Medical Center in Tuskegee, Alabama.

  PTSD was considered incurable by professionals, who generally treated the combat veterans with heavy medications.

Michael knew in his heart there had to be a better way, and when he was introduced at that time to information regarding the heavenly hosts, he appealed to them for guidance in helping his patients.

This resulted in a most amazing turnaround in his clinical psychology practice, the new trauma clearing approach he developed

working so well with veterans and their families that he was given an entire floor in the Center with complete staffing and all other necessary support. 

The success of this clinic made him a legend in the field. 

His formulation involved a way for the veterans to not only help themselves, but to teach it to their buddies who were too angry or alienated to come to the clinic.

It is an emotional healing technology, inspired with the angels' help, that puts power back into the hands of individuals so they can heal themselves.

Dr. Schlosser treated over two thousand veterans, meticulously following up with studies on his patients; in every case, nightmares and flashbacks were found to be healed permanently.

After he retired in 1995, he  taught this technology along with couples communication skills to the civilian population with great success.

Because these techniques are so integral to the angel messages, I am including the following succinct excerpts from his voluminous works, which is in process of compilation for publication.

The prevailing notion of 'being responsible' in our society, unbeknownst to most of us who are over-responsible, has a very limited connotation to physical-material-financial issues, born of so-called conventional wisdom.

I term this "middle range thinking." In this context of middle range thinking, being responsible has taken on a puritanical tone of martyrdom or going without in order to meet one's obligations.

It is a consciousness focused on, and limited to, one finite level of reality.

But, staying focused on the material level alone causes a deep nostalgia and sense of longing for 'something more'. 

Avoiding the deeper self becomes ever more painful and unfulfilling.

What has been omitted is a much larger sense of responsibility to oneself that might be termed "responsibility to the soul."

In this larger context of responsibility, which very few people have attuned to in the past, a broader spectrum of thinking, including 'possibility thinking', and a broader spectrum of being, i

ncluding feeling good and being true to the spiritual purpose of one's incarnation, become included in the broader meaning of being responsible.

Truly, being responsible to all levels of the self is quite a balancing act that can become extremely difficult and demanding, especially for those who have been overwhelmed by the financial level alone!  

Just focusing on emotional self responsibility, the problem is that most people avoid bad feelings for the simple reason that they don't have a clue how to deal responsibly with their feelings.

Even the idea that they are stuck in 'middle range feeling' does not occur to them.

We are inured to patterns of avoidance, and opening to 'bad' feelings too often is like opening a Pandora's box of such unpleasantness that, once briefly glimpsed,

our feeling awareness gets immediately slammed shut upon first viewing.

We say, "Even if it's broken, if it can't be fixed, then why give it any attention?"

Most people bow to the ignorance of conventional wisdom and avoid or drug bad feelings, eating, popping a pill or distracting themselves by putting their mind on something else,

reading, meditating, watching a movie, escaping physically by going on vacation, exercising, having sex.

They do not have the means to be emotionally self responsible, and lack the skills of emotional release to help themselves feel better when bad feelings arise.

They just don't know where to start.

Conventional ignorance about which techniques to use to heal painful feelings stems from lack of standards, values, or guidelines to govern emotional self responsibility.

People have no rules such as, 'If you feel bad, you're in an old feeling'.

Also, the distinction between hedonism ('If it feels good, do it') and guidance is confused.

The ancient shaman’s rule is that if you feel increasingly worse after making a decision, you chose the wrong option,

whereas feeling better and better over time is your innate wisdom's way of telling that you made the right decision. 

Joe Q Public would love to learn emotional self help, but has long since given up on the possibility, especially after watching his parents blow it,

seeing therapy that did not work, and watching gurus oversimplify the means (in essence, telling us to just 'think positive').

The spirit is willing, but the flesh and mind has been unaware of what is possible.

Worse yet, our well intentioned outreach toward growth has met largely with disappointments in terms of numerous new age type fads.

The track record of growth technology in our culture has been poor, leading us to pessimism and the assumption that no new paradigm exists which would work any better than the many methodologies already sampled.

This dilemma is a double bind: damned if you do seek help, damned if you don't, so why try?

Perhaps the single greatest obstacle to most people's taking emotional responsibility is their lack of understanding about the phenomenon of being triggered.

One of the prime areas of non-awareness is knowing when you are triggered into old feelings toward someone else;

this is called transference, and it means putting the face of a significant other (sometimes a parent) on a new significant other, making them into either a hero or a villain, or both.

This process of turning someone into someone else in terms of your emotional reaction to them is so prevalent and automatic in any close relationship that it is amazing how blindsided you feel not to have seen it coming.

Psychotherapists typically see couples separate after their transference flips from hero to villain and the unsuspecting jilted mate complains,

"I don't know what hit me! Everything seemed to be going so well.

Sure, we had a little fight, but it was no big deal."

 The perspective of the one leaving because of a negative transference is, "I never saw that dark side of her/him before.

It's a good thing I found out what he/she was really like before it's too late.

Boy, I hate how petty, nasty, picky, bitchy, abusive, he/she gets, and I won't put up with it!" which can be translated to, "I can't stand these triggered feelings like I felt with my stepmother/dad."

As long as one lacks awareness of the dynamic of being triggered in a close bond, blaming is inevitable.

Taking responsibility for feeling bad makes the difference between actually believing that your partner has mysteriously metamorphosed

into the beast of the black lagoon forcing you to take steps to protect yourself from this monster (a knee jerk reaction termed 'acting out of trigger')

versus recognizing that, sure, you've discovered a darker side in your significant other that you had not seen before, but this change is really an expansion of your perception rather than a change in the partner.

The shift is dramatic from 'it's something terrible in him/her that I can't stand' ('he must change') to 'I got triggered into the same horrible conflict I felt with my dad

, and I need to clear it,' ('I can change; this memory is my responsibility, and I can handle it').

The key change in perspective from believing that the problem is in the other person to seeing it within myself is all the difference in the world;

one goes from helpless victim to empowerment, from emotionally irresponsible to response-able, able to respond in the true sense of the word.

Using emotional healing skills, one can do something about it once the bad feelings are owned –

'It is me feeling bad, regardless who triggered me or how I got triggered;

I was an accident waiting to happen with these painful, monstrous feelings inside myself that my partner inadvertently revealed to me.

It’s a wonderful opportunity to heal a wounded part of myself that has been waiting inside.

 It's truly work on my own pain that I would have had to do sooner or later anyway in order to become emotionally free'.

Most couples without emotional healing technology feel too overwhelmed to figure out how to heal this past emotional baggage,

how to maintain high integrity (win-win) during the hero-to-villain flip phases of the relationship.

Another crucial insight in transference wisdom is realizing ahead of time when entering an intimate relationship that the hero-to-villain flip is inevitable.

This "aha" will save you from total heartache and having to break up.

The inevitability of the flip is because no one on this plane can perfectly parent their child, and a love-hate bond is formed to some extent with your parents

regardless how good they were; even the best parents sometimes fail to respond to the child's cry in a timely manner, or even inadvertently abandon them,

from the perspective of the helpless child.

These wounds experienced by the child make up the traumas which are healed using emotional healing skills [also referred to as alchemical trauma transmutation, or ATT].

The closer the love bond, the more powerful the pain and outrage the child feels toward the loved parent when the parent does not respond according to the child’s needs,

and so the stronger the potential villain transference later in life.

As an adult, the best defense against allowing the hero-to-villain flip to destroy your intimate relationships is to build ground rules ahead of time for how to handle this inevitability.

While still in the hero or honeymoon phase, plan for what to do when you encounter the transference into villain.

Develop a support system of others you both can turn to for clearing at times when either one of you feels too devastated and betrayed by your significant other to use ATT together.

See the hero to villain flip for what it really is – a call to growth, a chance to reintegrate some of the most powerful 'diverted' love energy of your life.

When you experience the hero to villain flip and all of a sudden your significant other becomes the enemy, this is a chance to claim your power as never before!

It is a chance for true soul retrieval of your wounded magical inner child self in the deepest, most satisfying sense. 

 In creating your future as a couple in an intimate relationship, set up a oneness space that includes ground rules for safe and effective sharing.

Honesty is the pathway to intimacy, and it must be carefully nurtured and maintained throughout the relationship for realness to exist.

Being intense is really staying in love.

Straight talk and intimacy keep love alive, and prevent game playing that deadens the heart;

dishonesty or ‘fogging’ in relationship is lethal to the trust of the inner child self.

Ground rules should be carefully created and adhered to, therefore,

an important task in a new relationship is to create rules for emotional sharing and self responsibility, especially in the case of upsetness.

This must be done right away, while still in the glow of the honeymoon phase of falling in love.

  Don't wait until one of the partners is triggered into painful feelings.

When a person does become triggered, they are experiencing an altered hypnotic state of consciousness, similar to a dream,

a dream that usually originates from emotional traumas at an earlier age.

In this stage, a person is effectively a small child, and is in the throes of intense painful feelings, even of life and death. In this state,

creating a safe container is difficult if not impossible to do. 

When a person is upset, do not expect them to be rational.  Ideas are rational, feelings are not, in the conventional linear way of figuring rationality.

Feelings are compressed information, like 'zip' files in a computer, and can be opened and expanded to produce enough information to fill many pages.

  Remember that feelings are the water element and, like water molecules that scientists have discovered have the capacity to hold more information than any other known medium

(research reports that computers of the future will store information in purified water), feelings can unfold rational information almost to infinity under the right conditions.

Focus and attention on feelings, letting them flow in deep meditation on them, unlocks or unzips information contained within them.

Like water, they operate according to flow intelligence.

Feelings must flow in environments of love and empathy to heal best. 

As children of light usher in the golden age, they learn how to flow with feelings in safe and non-destructive ways,

with love and empathy for the feelings themselves and the inner wounded parts of the self that are generating them. 

Even though a person can safely heal feelings in deep meditation alone,

it can be very helpful and advantageous for a triggered person to work with a facilitator who holds the loving space and helps if any blockages occur in the flowing process.

 If you are facilitating a triggered person and he or she gets stuck and feelings stop flowing,

usually repeating back to them whatever they were feeling just before the blockage happened will serve to get the feelings flowing again.

  If that does not work, you can ask them to do a body scan and find places of tension in their body.

Unconscious feelings are stored in body tissue as tension.

Remember that the body is about eighty percent water

When the place with greatest tension is identified,

have them put their hands over this spot and repeat over and over quietly to these tense feelings, "soften and flow, soften and flow, soften and flow," until feelings are flowing once again.

If the feelings merely move to another part of the body, repeat the process, and if this doesn't work,

have the person pretend that the most tense spot in the body has a mouth and can talk; have them 'ask' this part of the body,

"What information are you holding for me? What do you have to tell me?" 

They almost always receive an answer.

As a facilitator, be very quiet while this is going on. It is wise to never interrupt long silences.

In these deep introspective silences, the dramatic alchemy of emotional healing takes place.

Resist urges to offer sage counsel and advice, to 'fix it'.

Healing must come from within a person to be permanently effective.

If they need help, they will let you know, either with words or body language, and the only help to offer is to get them back into their flow of feeling.

Whether you are working alone with your own feelings, or facilitating another person, invoke the golden rule – feelings must flow to heal.

 Being 'in your head', intellectualizing, can get in the way and cause dissociation from the feelings.

Whether it is you or someone you are helping, whatever it takes to stay with the feelings so they flow, do it.

There are many methods to access feeling states. For example, playing soft evocative beautiful music in the background, such as by Enya, can set the stage.

As long as the means to opening and staying with feelings do not cause harm to self, others, or property, use them to facilitate the flowing of feelings.

The role of facilitator is to stay in a meditative state of seeing the inner being – all the wonder, power, ability and love – of the partner while he or she is clearing.

  A most important skill is keeping focus on that perfection, the radiant image of your partner's divine presence, the eternal, omnipotent, omnipresent, omniscient inner Self that is perfect,

 not on outward actions or limited temporary identity.

Always see the good(god) in the other.

This is incredibly important.  

If you are working on your own feelings alone, this is also the guiding star of meditation.

Always be aware of yourself as a perfected divine being, even while temporarily experiencing  emotional pain.

  During the process of healing, pathways form like currents of water in the ocean; and then, like the hundredth monkey phenomenon,

a time comes in the astral plane when quantum leaps for all are made.

Information forms a morphogenetic field, so that all who experience painful feelings more easily heal them in safe and natural ways.

You must be as little children to enter the Kingdom of Heaven.

Enlightened people are childlike.

They laugh when they are happy and cry when they are sad. In so doing, their emotional bodies stay clear and pure, healing on an ongoing basis.

A healthy emotional body vibrates with awe at the splendor and majesty of Divine Being, with supreme happiness.

Working with emotions and feelings is one of the most beautiful gifts you can give to the world at this time.

Healer, heal thyself. Keep the eye single, and the body shall be filled with light.

Here is a story about a couple  implementing a safe container for emotional sharing:

In it you will see why simply reflecting a person's emotional process is more effective than trying to do it for them.

 Madge got upset, very upset.

She could hardly contain herself

and informed Joe that she is experiencing difficult and disturbing feelings with resultant distraught thoughts.

She asked Joe to help her by sharing with her in a safe container.

So Joe checks within himself and decides whether he can do it right then,

or if it would be better to wait until later that evening,

when the kids are in bed and all is quiet.

He decides it is best to wait and agrees to share with her at 9:00 PM;

he asks her if it is okay if they limit her sharing to a half hour,

so that he will have time to process his own feelings in case he has strong reactions to what is bothering her. 

She agrees.

At 9:00 PM, they go alone into a private room where no telephone, television, or other interruptions will occur.

They sit on a couch and face each other.

Joe asks Madge, "What is bothering you?"

Madge goes deep within in silence to get fully in touch with her disturbing feelings.

After a pause of about a minute she says, "I don't know. I guess I am afraid you will leave me."

Joe thanks her for sharing by saying, "Thank you for sharing these feelings with me.

What makes you afraid I will leave you?"

Notice that he does not try to talk her out of it, or reassure her of his love;

he is merely helping her get in touch with her feelings to the bottom of what is bothering her.

She replies, "I don't know. I am just afraid.

She continues, "My father left my mother when we were six, and every guy I ever got involved with left me after a couple of months.

 I have tried to trust, over and over, but it just doesn't work.

  I guess I have never trusted anyone since my father left."

Joe remains silent, not interrupting her.

He keeps steady eye contact, and uses his facial expression and body language to let her know she is safe to continue.

She continues, "I just don't know...."  At this point she bends over crying, her head in her hands.

The crying turns into wracking sobs.

Inwardly Joe is rejoicing, for he knows that this is a major healing catharsis for Madge.

He is witnessing an emotional miracle, and remains very quiet, careful not to disturb her deep inner flow, simply handing her a Kleenex.

  Madge cries deeply for four or five more minutes.

Finally she looks up, as if waiting for a cue from Joe, who can see that she looks very relieved.

Obviously, these are tears that have been wanting to come out

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