Re: [WOW Friends] Adultery: A sin we don't talk about
- Not to mention, adultery is a sin which requires some pretty serious
punishment, if I read my Bible correctly <GRIN>. I think perhaps (although I
haven't checked the passages) the Bible talks even more about that than it
allegedly talks about homosexuality.
But, of course, the religiously bigoted won't tell you that one . . .
neither will the President, I'm quite certain.
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Subject: [WOW Friends] Adultery: A sin we don't talk about
> Fri, Jan. 30, 2004
> Adultery: A sin we don't talk about
> KEN GARFIELD - Charlotte Observer
> On Faith
> With all the fuss over gay marriage, we tend to ignore another marital
> issue everyone can agree is a sin.
> Or as pastoral counselor Ralph Milligan says of the sad and complicated
> act of ending up in the wrong bed, "People are doing it."
> "People doing it," though, isn't the only problem.
> The broader problem, Milligan and others fear, is that the rest of us
> aren't doing enough to help people establish boundaries of behavior --
> and then stay within those limits every single day.
> Says Rabbi Murray Ezring of Temple Israel in Charlotte: "We have lost
> the desire to be moral."
> `If they feel good'
> Go to a Super Bowl party or Sunday school class, and experts estimate
> that one in five spouses there has cheated on their mate at some
> point.Though the research is inexact -- these surveys don't exactly
> inspire honesty -- researchers believe the number is going up. The
> Internet doesn't help: 26 of the 86 people interviewed in one study
> said they had had affairs with someone they met online. Two men said
> they each had 13 affairs that began with a chat or an e-mail.
> Ezring believes too many people today are lusting for entertainment,
> and something to take their minds off economic hard times. He also
> decries a culture in which sex and money are put on a pedestal.
> It's the creed of the modern man (and woman): "If they feel good," says
> Ezring, "that's what's important."
> Milligan, who heads the Presbyterian Samaritan Counseling Center in
> Charlotte, says adultery often has little to do with sex; he mentioned
> one man who can't give up his mistress even though they haven't made
> love in a year. It's often about people seeking a spiritual intimacy
> lacking at home, he says. For others, it's the thrill of the affair
> that provides an adrenaline rush often missing in a 9-to-5 world.
> Milligan sees the growing incidence of adultery as one more sign that
> we're afraid to talk about right and wrong. He offers another
> illustration of our timidity -- when an unmarried couple visits a
> church, signs the attendance register and lists the same address, does
> anyone have the courage today to raise a red flag?
> "When I was a kid, Protestant morality ruled the country," says
> Milligan, 63.
> Today, he adds, "We still believe in sexual morality. We just don't
> know how to talk about it."
> `More pervasive things'
> I'm not saying we ought to avoid the issue of gay marriage. It's not
> going to go away.
> I'm just saying we ought to save some energy and prayer to talk about
> another dimension of marriage that doesn't often find its way into
> speeches by politicians and sermons by preachers. This is the side of
> love and marriage that should trouble everyone who cares about society,
> our neighbors, perhaps even a loved one keeping a dark and painful
> Milligan says we've become really good at fighting over abortion and
> It's time now, he believes, to start dealing with "the much more
> pervasive things."
> Ken Garfield: (704) 358-5094; kgarfield@...
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