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- Hi! My name is AL. I have been looking for a site where I feel i could get
an honest answer. I hope U help provide that answer. I just want you to know
i'm not trying to make waves! So with fear and trembling here goes:
I am an older guy who is attracted to men only and has never been
attracted to the so called "gay lifestyle." The way i have met men
of same sex orientation has been on a hit and miss basis. I have NEVER
been inside a gay bar or club. I am a Christian and belong to an
intergenerational Roman Catholic Parish whose members accept me
The problem: Before i became a member of this parish, I visited a
local "gay" church on my own to see what it was like. I was
made to feel uncomfortable. I was ignored by both the people and the
minister. I am known as an outgoing person and have many close friendships
with straight men and women who know of my orientation.
The "gay" church followers didn't even give me a chance to introduce myself!
I left feeling
(pardon the expression,) like shit!
After my emotional reactions subsided, I came to this conclusion.
(1) I was rejected because of my being physically unattractive.
(2) The age factor
In regard to relationships, my straight friends use more
realistic criteria for accepting me. Im asking U should I even bother
to try to reach out to others of the same orientation when all i can expect
is rejection? I have some SOLID straight relationships and i don't want to
give them up for a mess of pottage! Should i even consider
seeking friends of the same orientation when such shallow cosmetic criteria
is used as a basis of contact? How would U handle such a situation? PAX!
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