Re: [Generation-Mixed] Just joined
- Welcome JohnYes living life as a mixed race person is not the easiest!you are forced to choose? and no matter which side youchoose, your still feel unwelcome. Your learn early onthat race is a serious matter to most people, becauserace is a pass port or a stop sign depending on whichdirection your going in society.You,ll find that somepeople don't feel comfortable around you` becauseyou don't reflect their characteristics which opens doorsof distrust or fear.Emotionally most mixed race peoplethem selves are confused and untrusting as a result.If people don't openly ask "What you are" they arealways thinking it trying to place you into a categoryor file cabinet.Even getting angry at you for being sucha puzzle to their visual perception.Even your love lifecan present problems? should I marry white or black?or another race. Or perhaps I should marry a mixed raceperson like my self. Sadly your life must have been sodifficult concerning these issues. The way I see it isthat mixed race people are like combonation lock` fortheir is no key to open it, just a set of numbers andclicks. And if these numbers dont line up as expected,then your lock may have difficulty opening a locked DOOR.For skin color is a signature that most people have nodifficulty in reading.Because race for most is the Biblebelt of humanity.Pierre
--- On Fri, 1/9/09, Denise Baker <bblueii@...> wrote:
From: Denise Baker <bblueii@...>
Subject: Re: [Generation-Mixed] Just joined
Date: Friday, January 9, 2009, 2:48 AMHi John,
Thank you for sharing your oh so very common story w/us...i have a similar story w/different twists...but, we can delve into this topic much deeper soon enough...Welcome to the group...I'm sure we have much 2 chat about...
On 1/8/09 10:58 AM, "Danielle Hill" <gatadelafuente@ yahoo.com> wrote:
Welcome to the group. What an inspiring story.
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From: john.cashin <fastercash@tiscalic o.uk>
To: Generation-Mixed@ yahoogroups. com
Sent: Wednesday, January 7, 2009 4:55:01 PM
Subject: [Generation- Mixed] Just joined
I've just joined here, I suppose I better begin by telling you a bit
about my background, I'm 44 years old and needles to say I'm of mixed-
race/bi-racial origin, my parents are long since dead now but my
father was black from Guyana, formaly "British Guyana", my mother was
white and from Ireland in Dublin, she raised me alone, I was always
aware of what I was though, because she told me from a very early
age, I just think that she thought I needed to be aware and I think
she was right in that respect because there were plenty of people who
reminded me later in life but not always in a nice way.
It was hard as a teenager because let's face it those teen years are
tough anyway but when you've got this "what are you??" question
hanging over you it just makes it hell, growing up there seem to be
this double world, one black and one white that would never meet and
I could go either way but never fully belonged to either, and there
was always one or two who made it clear that I wasn't too welcome
when I went into "all black clubs" and later "white pubs", so it was
obvious to me that when your mixed you've got to fight that much
harder and be that much better to be excepted and respected either by
white people or black people, whichever you choose your in for an
Well, the years rolled on and I suppose as I got older it became
easier, like the old Queen mother use to say 'life doen't get better
but we get better at it', she was right, and it has to be said things
really have developed between black and white now and there is a lot
more mixing than there used to be, which is good for us, however,
there is still a hard core on both sides that want to keep black and
white apart and obviously as mixed race people we present a problem
to them in that respect.
I'm certain that the die hards on both sides will give up eventually
and that they will realise that it is much better and more fun for
everyone to mix, and besides, we really are the future, it is our
destiny as bi-raciials, one day the world will be overflowing with
racially mixed people, there's plenty even now, not all can or want
to be identified as such though, some can hide so well that you would
never guess that they were actually mixed.
- Thanks all, there are indeed many twists and ironies
in being mixed race, including the fact that we
challenge the very notion of "race" itself,
I think that much of it has to do with the fact that
many mono-racial people just simply don't know
what to make of us and what to do with us,
some think we should be classed as black,
others think we should be White, some say we
are just nothing but none of them can agree.
We cause arguments amongst them (I know I have),
we confuse them and we rock their world,
it's not our fault, we don't do it on purpose,
we know what we are and most of us are not confused,
but there are lots (not all of course) of non-mixed
race people, Black, White etc who ARE confused
about us and this is where the problem really lays.
Denise Baker <bblueii@...> wrote:
Thank you for sharing your oh so very common story w/
us ...i have a similar story w/different twists...but,
we can delve into this topic much deeper soon enough...
Welcome to the group...im sure we have much 2 chat about...
On 1/8/09 10:58 AM, "Danielle Hill" <gatadelafuente@...> wrote:
Welcome to the group. What an inspiring story.
"I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard
of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than
to be false, and to incur my own abhorrence."
Check out my books on Goodreads: