Re: Hello, New Member
- I've dealt with those issues some, since I recently found out
basically my whole family knows about the multiple heritages
(one or two flat out deny, but there's been genetic-testing
done so there's no question) yet I am the only 'person of color'
in my family still and I am disturbing the flow and the "peace"
-- by being real and acknowledging and embracing it.
For me it ain't about comfort so much though.
I don't know if I could really feel comfortable in any catgory.
For me it is making sure my identity doesn't unjustly step on
anyone's feet, cause my Afro-American identity does, step on
the feet of people close to me, it is polar opposite of white
-- their chosen 'identity' --so it makes them uncomfortable and
challenges previously held notions, perceptions, and stereotypes.
I guess I have given up on fitting in (even though deep
down I still want to) and have attempted to construct
an identity that challenges and confronts society,
an identity with social and political meaning.
There is no right way to handle these issues I believe though,
we each have slightly to very different specific circumstances,
and we each gotta make peace in our own way in a way where
we can cope the best and be happy and proud of who
we have chosen to be or who we identify with.
Well I've actually put some thought into
this (although it may not seem that way).
But I've decided to just stick with what I know.
I won't use either term.
African-American isn't true,
I was born in the US, and last time
I checked my skin is still brown.
So I'll just call myself brown, I
feel more comfortable with this term.
But thank you for your advice, Jeff.
"'"Yet I still wonder if I'm supposed to just
consider myself (the way I'm been told, and
at times, forced) `African-American' or "black".""
Only call yourself that if it's how you truly feel.
If you don't "feel" that way and can be objective with
yourself that it's genuine, and not a discomfort with
being "black", etc then I suggest you start to explore
your components and see what intuitively seems to be
most compatable with your temperment and personality.
Some who have known you for a while, including family,
may be condescending or hostile to you about this
so you may want to keep it to yourself or only
share it with those who are the most open-minded.
When we are starting on a new path it is easy to get
sidetracked by the negativity and ignorance of others.
And I'm sure you'll find some support in this group too ;)
BTW welcome aboard!!
On Behalf Of moltenlava_cat
Sent: Thursday, November 02, 2006 1:06 PM
Subject: [Generation-Mixed] Re: Hello, New Member
I was suprised too, considering that particular incident was in
high school, but yes. It usually happened because of my answers
on the forms issued to students for the standardized testing.
I can recall a time when, one of the women (who was in charge of
checking the validity of the forms) refused to believe me at first.
I stood my ground, and made sure she knew I wasn't joking.
Sad part is some of my teachers, were more accepting
of students like me, than the staff.
OK, here you are, welcome Moltenlava!
I'm a young college student, with an interest in languages
and other cultures. Growing up this, Being Multi-Racial
concept, was virtually unheard of in the schools I attended.
Or people, majority authority figures, had the tendency
to not believe me (or in other cases, tell me not to fabricate
my ancestral origin)! An unfortunate side effect of growing
up American, how often does this occur elsewhere?
WOW, that is amazing, how can someone tell you
that you are lying about your ancestry and you
are YOUNG and in 2006 experiencing this!!
I would expect this to happen to an 'old lady'
like me, LOLOL, growing up as a child in
the early to mid 70's. Guess I am naive.
You are who you are if they don't
believe you it is not your problem.
You've come to the right place, welcome again!
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