Fwd: ADVICE - Ten Golden Rules for Marriage
- Mubaashir Uqdah <mubaashir.uqdah@...> wrote:
Date: Tue, 24 Oct 2006 22:04:39 -0400
From: "Mubaashir Uqdah" <mubaashir.uqdah@...>
Subject: ADVICE - Ten Golden Rules for Marriage
To: "Mubaashir Uqdah" <mubaashir.uqdah@...>NJ Muslim E-mail NetworkTen Golden Rules to Keep Marriages Healthy and Happy
Once again, MCC Board conveys their best wishes at the occassion of Eid-ul-Fir and thanks you for your continued support of MCC projects.
- Keep spouse informed: inform spouse of what is happening in your life and inform spouse of your schedule
- Help your spouse, especially when he or she is working hard on a project. It conveys sensitivity and devotion.
- Communication: regularly taking time to talk and explore feelings, spend 30 minutes each week not focusing on work or controversial issues.
- Non sexual affection: Affectionate, nonsexual touching reaffirms the emotional bond.
- Elimination of irritating habits. Recognize what is irritable to your spouse and change the habit even if you do not see it as important.
- Apologies: no one is perfect, yet many men and women hide behind false pride by never admitting that they have been wrong.
- It is a sign of strength to personally acknowledge a mistake or when you have hurt your spouse's feelings to directly and sincerely say, "I am sorry", it is also a sign of being caring.
- Calmly disagreeing: You do not have to agree with each other on all matter but you must have a capability to resolve the differences of opinions.
- Loneliness: Loneliness is the most troublesome and uncomfortable feeling a couple has when they have drifted apart. Loneliness is a psychological despair due to a sense of not being understood or accepted by those you care about. Make every effort to prevent this from happening.
- Attempt to make sure changes have overcome the fear of change. Change of any kind is uncomfortable and with practice the discomfort will disappear. Influence of peers: Relatives and friends with whom you share your problems may not support the changes you are bringing in yourself. You must do what is right for your marriage even if you must stand alone.
M. Basheer Ahmed M.D.
Chairman MCC for Human Services
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