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  • plantldy98@aol.com
    Dear Publishers, Please feel free to publish the following article (in its entirety) in your publications as long as the bio at the end of the article is
    Message 1 of 4 , Sep 1, 2008
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      Dear Publishers,

      Please feel free to publish the following article (in its entirety) in your publications as long as the bio at the end of the article is included and the link is made active at websites and if possible, in newsletters.  Please do not make changes without permission.  A courtesy copy of the publication this article is included in would be appreciated; my e-mail is Plantldy98@...


      A Decision to Stay Home
      by Monica Resinger
      http://homemakersjournal.com

      I worked at an office job up until my son was two struggling with the guilt and yearning of wanting to be home to raise him full time. I was extremely lucky because my grandmother watched him, but I still would rather be home raising him myself. I felt my son and I were both missing out on things that would never happen again such as his first step or mommy kissing boo-boos.

      My grandmother knew that I desperately wanted to be home raising him and at one point she told me she couldn't watch him anymore because she couldn't keep up with him; she used this as an excuse to get me to take action because she knew I wanted to stay home, but I was afraid to take the first step. This is the point a decision had to be made. Did I want to continue to have someone else raise my child during the day or did I want to follow my heart and raise my son myself? I knew all along that raising my boy was the most important thing to me, but I was afraid to quit my job because I thought we wouldn't have
      enough money to live on.

      It seemed my husband didn't make enough money for us to live on because of our spending habits at that time. Not so much his, but mine. I would go out to lunch daily at work and freely spend the money I earned on cosmetics, things for the house or other unnecessary items, rarely looking at prices. I was a spendthrift that wasn't sure if I could change. I tried to think of ways to make money from home and thought of a lot of ways, but they all seemed out-of-reach for me at the time.

      Finally, even though I was still afraid of not having enough money to live on, I made the decision to quit my job on the good faith of my abilities to cut back or drop my spending habits, and to save money in every possible situation I could. I had it all planned out. I'd save coupons, shop only sales and cut dollars at every angle I could. I would consider this my new ‘job'.

      It wasn't easy. We didn't have the money to do the things we used to do like go to the movies or order a pizza, but the rewards of teaching myself a frugal way of life were worth more than I can say. I was no longer torn inside and felt I was where I wanted to be. I found that nothing was more important to me than being home raising my son. I learned how to be a good, thrifty homemaker. As time passed, my husband started making a little more money, which offered a little more freedom in spending. Soon, we were planning our second child and she was bo
      rn and I got to stay home and raise her too!

      These were treasured times for me and I'm still home even though the kids are in full-time school now. It's nice to be here when they get home so they don't have to come home to an empty house and I have time to prepare home-cooked meals and keep the house up. When they get days off, I'm here and we don't have to worry who's going to watch them.

      If you're a working mother that yearns to be home raising your children, here are some valuable lessons I learned from my experience. I hope they help you in some way.

      Take a good look at where your money is going.
      First, sit down with a piece of paper and pen and add up how much it is costing you to work. The first and biggest place to look is daycare and transportation costs. Also write down what you spend on lunches. Try and think about ‘hidden' costs such as ordering pizza because you worked and don't have time to cook a meal or your wardrobe. Add these and any other working costs up and subtract it from your income.

      Find Ways to Save Money
      Take another piece of paper and write down ways in which you can save money and estimate how much. For example, by using coupons and shopping sales you may be able to save $100 a month on groceries. Write it down along with other ways such as ‘close doors of rooms not in use to save electricity', or, instead of going to the movies 4 times a month, go once and write in the amount saved. You ha
      ve to think of everything you currently spend money on and figure out ways to cut back. You'll find you can get very creative when you need to be.

      Add it up
      Now add your lists together and see if you can ‘make' as much as your job. Most of the time you can get pretty close, but if you can't, don't fret because where there's a will, there's a way. If you haven't met your income by the above savings methods, consider other ways to make money.

      How Can you Make Money from Home?
      The first thing to do is ask yourself what you're good at and what you enjoy doing. Everyone has a special talent. For some people it may be a craft, for others, it may be writing, grooming pets or planning trips among many other possibilities. Whatever you do well, find a way to make money with it. Someone who's good at crocheting afghans may make up a website about crocheting and selling these afghans or take the finished afghans to a craft bazaar to sell. Someone who's good at writing may begin writing in their preferred subject and start submitting to magazines or look on the internet for other ways to make money writing.  If you're interested in publishing an e-zine for profit, I have written an e-book titled 'How to Create an Ezine for Proft' and you can find out how to get this e-book here:  http://homemakersjournal.com/intro.htm

      Other e-books from my website that include great ideas to get you started making money from home:
       
      ~ Tips and Ideas for Selling Things as a
      Home Business: 
      http://homemakersjournal.com/homebusiness.htm

      ~ 504 Relaxing Bath and Beauty Recipes:
      http://homemakersjournal.com/bathrecipes.htm

      ~ 475 Gift Basket and Survival Kit Ideas:
      http://homemakersjournal.com/giftbasket.htm

      Don‘t let fear get in your way.
      The biggest thing I learned is to not be afraid of change. Sometimes we have to take what seems to be a huge step to be able to get what we want. I took that step and made it, so can you.

      The most important thing I can say about all of this is to follow your heart. Do what is right for you; not what someone else thinks is right for you. If being home is what you want, then pursue it with all your heart.

      Monica is the founder Homemaker's Journal E-publications, the growing home of many fun and informative home and garden e-books, tip sheets, articles and more!  http://homemakersjournal.com/
      Get a FREE Slowcooker Recipe E-book when you subscribe to Monica's FREE e-zine for homemakers!  To subscribe and receive instructions for picking up your FREE e-book, just send a blank e-mail to:  HomemakersJournal-subscribe@yahoogroups.com



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    • plantldy98@aol.com
      Dear Publishers, Please feel free to publish the following article (in its entirety) in your publications as long as the bio at the end of the article is
      Message 2 of 4 , Sep 10, 2009
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        Dear Publishers,

        Please feel free to publish the following article (in its entirety) in your publications as long as the bio at the end of the article is included and the link is made active at websites and if possible, in newsletters.  Please do not make changes without permission.  A courtesy copy of the publication this article is included in would be appreciated; my e-mail is Plantldy98@...


        A Decision to Stay Home
        by Monica Resinger
        http://homemakersjournal.com

        I worked at an office job up until my son was two struggling with the guilt and yearning of wanting to be home to raise him full time. I was extremely lucky because my grandmother watched him, but I still would rather be home raising him myself. I felt my son and I were both missing out on things that would never happen again such as his first step or mommy kissing boo-boos.

        My grandmother knew that I desperately wanted to be home raising him and at one point she told me she couldn't watch him anymore because she couldn't keep up with him; she used this as an excuse to get me to take action because she knew I wanted to stay home, but I was afraid to take the first step. This is the point a decision had to be made. Did I want to continue to have someone else raise my child during the day or did I want to follow my heart and raise my son myself? I knew all along that raising my boy was the most important thing to me, but I was afraid to quit my job because I thought we wouldn't have
        enough money to live on.

        It seemed my husband didn't make enough money for us to live on because of our spending habits at that time. Not so much his, but mine. I would go out to lunch daily at work and freely spend the money I earned on cosmetics, things for the house or other unnecessary items, rarely looking at prices. I was a spendthrift that wasn't sure if I could change. I tried to think of ways to make money from home and thought of a lot of ways, but they all seemed out-of-reach for me at the time.

        Finally, even though I was still afraid of not having enough money to live on, I made the decision to quit my job on the good faith of my abilities to cut back or drop my spending habits, and to save money in every possible situation I could. I had it all planned out. I'd save coupons, shop only sales and cut dollars at every angle I could. I would consider this my new ‘job'.

        It wasn't easy. We didn't have the money to do the things we used to do like go to the movies or order a pizza, but the rewards of teaching myself a frugal way of life were worth more than I can say. I was no longer torn inside and felt I was where I wanted to be. I found that nothing was more important to me than being home raising my son. I learned how to be a good, thrifty homemaker. As time passed, my husband started making a little more money, which offered a little more freedom in spending. Soon, we were planning our second child and she was bo
        rn and I got to stay home and raise her too!

        These were treasured times for me and I'm still home even though the kids are in full-time school now. It's nice to be here when they get home so they don't have to come home to an empty house and I have time to prepare home-cooked meals and keep the house up. When they get days off, I'm here and we don't have to worry who's going to watch them.

        If you're a working mother that yearns to be home raising your children, here are some valuable lessons I learned from my experience. I hope they help you in some way.

        Take a good look at where your money is going.
        First, sit down with a piece of paper and pen and add up how much it is costing you to work. The first and biggest place to look is daycare and transportation costs. Also write down what you spend on lunches. Try and think about ‘hidden' costs such as ordering pizza because you worked and don't have time to cook a meal or your wardrobe. Add these and any other working costs up and subtract it from your income.

        Find Ways to Save Money
        Take another piece of paper and write down ways in which you can save money and estimate how much. For example, by using coupons and shopping sales you may be able to save $100 a month on groceries. Write it down along with other ways such as ‘close doors of rooms not in use to save electricity', or, instead of going to the movies 4 times a month, go once and write in the amount saved. You ha
        ve to think of everything you currently spend money on and figure out ways to cut back. You'll find you can get very creative when you need to be.

        Add it up
        Now add your lists together and see if you can ‘make' as much as your job. Most of the time you can get pretty close, but if you can't, don't fret because where there's a will, there's a way. If you haven't met your income by the above savings methods, consider other ways to make money.

        How Can you Make Money from Home?
        The first thing to do is ask yourself what you're good at and what you enjoy doing. Everyone has a special talent. For some people it may be a craft, for others, it may be writing, grooming pets or planning trips among many other possibilities. Whatever you do well, find a way to make money with it. Someone who's good at crocheting afghans may make up a website about crocheting and selling these afghans or take the finished afghans to a craft bazaar to sell. Someone who's good at writing may begin writing in their preferred subject and start submitting to magazines or look on the internet for other ways to make money writing.  If you're interested in publishing an e-zine for profit, I have written an e-book titled 'How to Create an Ezine for Proft' and you can find out how to get this e-book here:  http://homemakersjournal.com/intro.htm

        Other e-books from my website that include great ideas to get you started making money from home:
         
        ~ Tips and Ideas for Selling Things as a
        Home Business:  http://homemakersjournal.com/homebusiness.htm

        ~ 504 Relaxing Bath and Beauty Recipes:
        http://homemakersjournal.com/bathrecipes.htm

        ~ 475 Gift Basket and Survival Kit Ideas:
        http://homemakersjournal.com/giftbasket.htm

        Don‘t let fear get in your way.
        The biggest thing I learned is to not be afraid of change. Sometimes we have to take what seems to be a huge step to be able to get what we want. I took that step and made it, so can you.

        The most important thing I can say about all of this is to follow your heart. Do what is right for you; not what someone else thinks is right for you. If being home is what you want, then pursue it with all your heart.

        Monica is the founder Homemaker's Journal E-publications, the growing home of many fun and informative home and garden e-books, tip sheets, articles and more!  http://homemakersjournal.com/
        Get a FREE Slowcooker Recipe E-book when you subscribe to Monica's FREE e-zine for homemakers!  To subscribe and receive instructions for picking up your FREE e-book, just send a blank e-mail to:  HomemakersJournal-subscribe@yahoogroups.com



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