Abandoned for being a girl, Sonia asks her mother, why?
- Abandoned for being a girl, Sonia asks her mother, why?
Express News Service
Lucknow, July 4: FOR 20 years, she faced the curse of being abandoned
by her mother because she was a girl. And now, Sonia Nijhawan has gone
to the State Women's Commission (SWC) demanding `punishment' for her
mother for abandoning her. She recently tried to commit suicide after
her mother demanded proof from her for claiming to be her daughter.
This may sound like the story of a Hindi potboiler, but for this
20-year-old student of Nari Shiksha Niketan, this has been a reality.
Sonia Nijhawan met the chairperson of the SWC, Dr Ranjana Bajpai on
Monday. And her story only ended up surprising not only Dr Bajpai, but
also all others.
"I just want to ask my mother that why she abandoned me? Being a girl
is not my fault," said Sonia. Born to Sunita Dhawan on August 4, 1987,
Sonia was abandoned by her mother immediatly after her birth. The
reason - her mother already had two daughters and did not want a third
one. But luck favoured Sonia and her maternal grandparents and
maternal uncle decided to take care of her. "She did not even care to
feed me once, leave alone taking care of me," said Sonia.
By the time Sonia was 10, she started realising that her `Sunita didi'
was actually her mother. "My parents tried to convince Sunita didi to
take back Sonia but she refused," said Sonia's maternal aunt Rajni
Arora, who accompanied her to the State Women Commission's office.
Sunita refused to accept Sonia as her daughter.
Meanwhile, Sonia's uncle got married and her uncle's wife started ill
treating her. Sonia's aunt Rajni, who too had got married, brought
Sonia to her house. When Sonia came to know about her real mother, she
tried to go and meet her. "But instead of accepting me with open arms,
she threw me out of her house," said Sonia.
Incidentally, Sonia's mother Sunita has divorced her husband and
remarried to one Tejendra Dhawan, of whom she has a son. They even
accused Sonia of coming back to claim her share in her mother's
property. "I do not want any money. I just want my mother to apologise
for leaving me and accept me as her daughter. I want her to take care
of me and also, pay for my studies like she did for my other sisters,"
The chairperson of the commission, Dr Ranjana Bajpai has ordered her
parents to give her Rs 1,000 each month as maintenance. "I don't want
money, but just an answer from my mother that why did she abandon me,"
Sonia said. Her parents have been summoned to the commission on Wednesday.