20930Re: [FHCNET] NFS and Submitting Shared information
- May 29, 2008You could ask him - pointing out that the nFS is a free site - and the
content entered there is not sold.
Suggest that it is convenient, easily found way to preserve the
information for the current and future generations.
You also will find a way to bring up religion, break the ice and let
him know that you are LDS.
I have found that mentioning that the kids are attending BYU - going
on a mission - or reference to going to the Church picnic etc. are
ways to bring it up in a comfortable, conversational way.
All the best,
On Thu, May 29, 2008 at 10:39 PM, taffysmom2 <yucaipa@...> wrote:
> I was recently contacted by a gentleman who shares a common ancestor
> with me 6 generations back. He saw a posting of mine on a public
> website where I shared information about my side of the family that
> came to the US in the mid-1800s. His relative emigrated to
> Australia, where his family now lives. He has freely shared
> information with me and I with him as we try to trace the family back
> another generation.
> Today he sent me a gedcom with all his research on the family well
> documented in Notes. Some of the documentation is my material sent
> to him, but most is his or his family's own research. He has been
> able to provide me answers to many of my own questions. It is
> wonderful. Here is my dilemma: In the last email with the gedcom
> attachment he said this, "Please don't upload to the net. It is
> criminal how those guys take it then sell it!"
> I have never uploaded any gedcoms to public websites EXCEPT for NFS.
> I have no intention of uploading his gedcom anywhere (so please don't
> start posting all the reasons not to upload a gedcom because of
> duplication, etc.). I was planning to add to my PAF file the family
> information that I don't already have after checking his sources. I
> was then intended to submit the family names for temple
> ordinances like I have for the rest of the family I have researched.
> They all fall properly into the guidelines posted in the NFS user's
> guide. Entering them into NFS, however, seems to be doing
> just what he asked me not to do.
> I've never before thought of it that way. I am the only member of
> the church working on this line (as far as I know). I've never
> thought before of my temple submissions going into the public
> domain. When NFS goes public in a few years all the work will be
> linked and sources and notes will be available as well. While that
> is great as far as I'm concerned, I'm afraid this gentleman and his
> family might not feel the same way.
> I've never told any of my internet contacts I was LDS and doing
> family history research with the goal of submitting family names for
> temple ordinances. I admit I am afraid the well will dry up, and I
> will be cut off from future correspondence and vital information.
> How do the rest of you handle these kinds of situations? I don't
> want to offend nor betray his trust.
> --- In FHCNET@yahoogroups.com, Jacob Edwards <jdaddy3@...> wrote:
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